How much of a difference does it make and would you consider not datin someone who had?
Please note *This is not a topc purely about mixed relationships*

we live in a society where everyone has dated IR it would be hard to find many men who haven't slept with or dated a "cracka" and its becoming increasingly popular amongst the sisters too.
i wouldn't let that bother me now, i just accept its now part of black culture in the UK so the fact my man would have had some dealings with a white woman is as normal as him thinking he actually had a shot at playing for arsnal. Just be greatful the sister who im guessing has inspired this thread has come back to black!

Darth,
As long as he's not dating me for a joke, I could care less about it. Then again he may get insecure about me as I have had an exclusive relationship with an Pakastani man. What would most concern me about him would be the amount of women he dated and his personality. I wouldn't want to deal with a guy who may expose me to a life of peril.

not really

rather a "cracka" than some coke dealing thug hoolum who gonna start set trippin if he sees us together...

besides as wifable sais it aint uncommon to find out someones had dealing with the blues...

bet yove shagged a few in your time

Cyrious why you decide to use the word cracka and then supplement it with an ie, sort of going halfway

Anyways, can't say it would make a difference. I'm more concerened about closure in past ex's realtionships(i.e that theye aint ****ing each other on the side, 'friends' with beenfits nonsense) rather than race of former partners

Why would anyone want to. I aint datin no prodigal sista coming back from poking a grey. I suspect those that wouldn't mind hhave probably been there already. Still, as long as you aint harking on about African militancy like some hypocrites I know. What pale, pasty skin in the morning et all. Gweh!

I'd say 95% of the brothas I know have said they done a grey, something about getting a grey out of the way. I wouldn't even let one give me a gobble.

Still, got a serious mission on my hands to make sure my boys see me living happy with a sista. So far they probably wouldn't think twice about going grey especially with their affection towards black men being flung in their face. Raas...when I check it, the babymothers new punk could all be one...grey that is lol.

[quote=Incognito;1448283] I wouldn't even let one give me a gobble. Too funny.

Me, not so much that I dont mind, but we all got a past...what you going to do? Dump her soley on the basis she was once young and dumb. I'v never dated a "cracker" and i'm proud to say it, but wont deny myself a potentially good man cos he did in the past. Get over it.

I have to be honest too..it would bother the hell outta me!!

Nellia/Kunjufu, I think it makes so much more of a difference if this happened way in their past, when much younger. I understand your stance if this was a common theme, but one maybe two odd occasions with "cracker" when young and dumb, surely you are not gonna judge he/she on that ancient misdameanour... Come on now.

People be defending their predicament or as Capelton would say 'they done bow already and they can't say they're sorry'.

This young dumb bullshit serves no other purpose than highlight how things are not being passed down the generations. No young dumb about it, you went there because you're into it. Indeed you'd consider yourself even dumber if you didn't Most of the brothas I know went there just for the pu$$y and it's no lie that most women go there for the money and to be 'treated' right. The depravity in the bedroom is a small price to pay.

Hey darth norman. I know this grey boy who used to say me and you are the same people, and ironically used to say I'm paranoid...man he even had the babymother calling your name in my yard to rhaatid Now he loved a whitey...he told me once he finally got the pum pum from this grey and after washing himself with some powerful soap, five days later he could still smell her on him.

Man you know when someone has always been jealous of you and your black skin woman. Last I heard he was representing Ligali, i wonder if they found him out yet LOL.

Still, some other people I know who did a cracka was because it was a cracka who was there for them when the crunch came which kind of put black loyalty into perspective.

Be interesting to hear any IR's done out of love. It's generally a babylon ting.

No I wouldn't but thankfully that will never be an issue for me. I do feel sorry for this generation coming up though, because unless things change drastically I don't think either side will have a choice but to date someone who's already been touched.

Life is a journey and not everybody reaches the same destination at the same time. You can always learn and grow as a person.

Some people were never exposed to the same life lessons, socialisations and forming events that I was and never learned to see what I see. Other weren't given access to the same opportunities as me or encountered strong black identities and groupings.

But if they come to that sort of epiphany later in life I'm supposed to stand in their way and say "nah you flex wid them to much and you're suss"? I don't think so.

It's about who you are now.