Yeah of course. By the times you're ready to get married you and the parents probably sized each other up ages ago and you should know how it would go.

BP is the genuine article cracks me up but on the money@

although unmarried I have had a steady GF for 7yrs now and to be honest I wouldnt ask her father for her hand for a few reasons

1 he dont like me one little bit Issue done the way I check it..

2 I know for a fact he wouldnt pay a penny towards our wedding so why would I ask him for the hand of something that I already have?-you paying for the privilege why give him the privilege and power of making his chest swell..Core traditons are about rights and responsibilities he aint taking the responsibility you are not morally bound to give him the right or the satisfication that goes with it..Lucky to see wedding photo.

3 thats old time shit....maybe if I got on with the muthaphugga I may ask but as shit has stayed for the last 7years F**K NO!!

Not wrong though..Yeah it would be nice but shit is as shit is get on with your life. Can't have the story book end all the time..

black power irrespective, you can still treat him with some respect

you also talked about him not paying a dime, erm why should he? its not compulsory

hmm wonder what your girlfriend will think if she know the way you regard her FATHER!!


Thing i noticed is people in the west never attempt to patch things up with each other, whenever there's a misunderstanding it stays that way forever!! when i mean attempt i mean real attempt not just hey speak to your old man kinds talk

you gotta go on your belly lay flat/bow in front of him and beg

Nope. I just said to my father-in-law I'm marrying his daughter and there ain't SHIT he can do about it, and if he don't like it kiss my JAMAICAN ass!!!!!!

BP: I wonder if you have ever thought that maybe the reason why you have such bad luck sometime has a lot to do with how you carry yourself? Asking the head of your partners family for her hand is NOT about begging, nor should it be about money... Its about RESPECT and starting the process of joining TWO families... This is what you''re not getting..

Regardless of whether the father likes you or not, you should show him that respect, you might even find that your partner respects you even for honoring her and her family.. As you know I've been married TWICE and in the first instance the family didn't like me either.. But i still made the attempt to man up and step to the plate as it were...

I figure if you're man enough to sleep with their daughter, and man enough to inpregnate her then you should be man enough to TELL them of your plans and to ensure that your relationship starts off on the right foot..... They may not like you but at least they would respect you....and as a added benefit your children has access to BOTH families and not just oneside...

As i see it you get one chance at the Wedding thing, what a shame it would be if there was animosity, all of that can be offset by just involving the families like a man in your plans as is our tradition....

For me its about being man enough to accept responsiblity regardless and not be doing things undercover or on the downlow...

Yes/no..when i speak i mean its about the family so that might include the mother as well, however if the father was an a woman beater or an alcoholic then seriously id question whether i'd want to join that family....to be blunt..