Well you don't have to be a woman to know that, that behavior is not acceptable.
Also I have to tell Black_power to get his ass together before you lose the most dearest person of you life

BP: don't be silly of course she is gonna be vex....and so she should be..you could be in the gutter stabbed, anything could have happened..plus most women would think its disrespectful ... sorry son you were wrong on both occassions.. you should apologise to her for your selfish behaviour...

It depends on the man (and the woman). I am a very lenient chick when it came to my ex hanging out with his friends, in that I didn't care how long or how often they hung out. We lived together so as common courtesy we always called eachother to let the other know if we would be late or whatever. And it wasn't pushed at all, we just both never wanted the other to worry,

For two years he always called me to let me know he was coming home, and he always came home by 3, a few times 4am. One night he didn't call and wasn't picking up his phone. 5am, 6am. I knew he didn't make the wisest choices while drinking (drunk-driving, getting into arguments, not fights though, but these days you will get shot in an argument, became depressed).
I was a student at the time, had an 8am class to get to and I stayed up all night. 6am drove around town to his spots looking for cars in the ditch or along side the road, called the jail, called the hospitals. I was worried and I had a right to be. In my mind, the only reason he didn't call is because he was in trouble. Even if he was w/another chick, I knew that he would call so as not to appear suspicious (which I wasn't worried about anyway) so that thought didn't enter into my mind. In my mind he was hurt, dead, or locked up and my nerves were up after staying up all night after a long hard day at class and work, then having to do it again with no sleep.

Needless to say when he finally called, at 7am when the sun was up and when he came home he walked into a storm. I had never been so emotional before, and especially not over a man, I scared myself lol, because I'm usually a chill, whateva type person. I never apologized, but I did explain that I was on nerves, redbull, and no sleep....yes, just like Mya , I was "ridin and ridin".

He later admitted that if I had not called he would have gone even further than myself and called the police b/c no way his little baby was going to be out there by herself til 7am lol.

Now, if it was normal for him to stay out at night, that's one thing. I wouldn't like it, but I could roll with it depending on the situation. But it was just so unlike him, and that's why I got so upset.

BTW, 3 weeks after we broke up and I moved out, I woke up at 4am to pounding on my door and 30 missed calls on my phone (he sure was calling me THAT night!)he was laid out at the front door, drenched in blood with a broken nose and a shattered eye-socket, with his boy in a car shouting "He got in a fight. He wanted to come here so you can take him to the emergency room" then drove off. Needless to say I was barely shocked.


eta: yes, if you are in a committed, mature, live-in relationship, you need to call. Nobody is saying that you have to come home (no one can make you come home), but if you don't at least call it shows a disrespect for that person's feelings, a disregard of their opinions or concerns, and stubborness.
You won't be teleported back home just by picking up the phone. It's a little something you can do that would mean a big deal to that person. With cell-phones these days, it would take some pressing activity to keep you from making a 30-second phone-call, which is another reason many women might, and should become suspect.

Like K said, you could be in the gutter stabbed..then what??

Personally, the reason i get angry is more to do with me worrying sick that something bad could have happened to him. My boyfriend rides everywhere and when he is running late, doesn't call and his phone is off, i worry that he is in some road hit by a car or something....call me paranoid but London roads are not that bike friendly.

It never enters my mind that he is up to no good when he doesn't call, because 9 out of 10 times he always calls, unless his batery is dead.

But if he pulled what BP did, may his God protect him from me....lol

good, I am not the only one.

LOL..Good, we all need to know our boundaries....i would never think of pulling such none sense, why would i put up with it from someone else?

lol so u gonna call now?
see, he was the same way. He loved being at home at night (and especially coming home to me haha) so knowing that made me think that something was keeping him against his will.

anyway, it wasn't that dramatic....he passed out on his friend's couch who lived out in the country and didn't hear his phone ringing. yeah, I felt a little stupid, then I got mad at him all over again for making me feel stupid, yup.