What if your fiancee wanted to keep her last name?

Black_Power · (#1 (**permalink**))

would you be cool or hell naw?

also say it was hyphened like "pinkett smith" would you still object?

astmartins · (#2 (**permalink**))

Trust me I would be more concerned about how Trustworthy loyal and loving she is and if she would be a good mother to my kids those things you can let slide for peace of mind...you lucky its not them one name brands like Oprah

Black_Power · (#3 (**permalink**))

re oprah

wouldnt you say that its her first name thats the brand rather than her surname?

babygirl44 · (#4 (**permalink**))

Amongst family and friends I use my married name. For business I use my maiden name as my husband and I don't like to let on we're married to potential clients. My husband wasn't bothered either way although when we have kids they will have his name.

astmartins · (#5 (**permalink**))

@bp
You never know with this women she might decide she wants to do away with the surname and have oprah-stedman!!...

IMoCo · (#6 (**permalink**))

is it even legal? but i would say no.

chi · (#7 (**permalink**))

I plan to keep my last name and have my husband's added.

Mr. Equanimity · (#8 (**permalink**))

I'm not feeling that.

If a woman wants to spend the rest of her life with me, why wouldn't she want to have my name?

alabamagirl · (#9 (**permalink**))

I hear that in African marriages men take the last name of the woman. That sounds pretty interesting.

IMoCo · (#10 (**permalink**))

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Originally Posted by alabamagirl

I hear that in African marriages men take the last name of the woman. That sounds pretty interesting.

no. its the other way around. its more common in the far east where they practice polyandry

Mezmerized · (#11 (**permalink**))

@Alabamagirl and Imoco...actually, the Mrs thing has nothing to do with Africans. There is a thread somewhere here that touched on this very same issue. No one was able to actually translate the word'Mrs' in ANY African language(and we all know we have 1000s of languages)

Hence this Mrs idea is just one of the multitudes of Western adopted ideologies or traditions by Africans.

I intend to keep my name. I am not a property to be branded by another human being's name just because we are married. From my understanding, marriage is a UNION of 2 people.....an equal partnership, therefore i fail to see how a woman taking the man's name holds up to anything of substance. Me think some men obssess about this because it will finally make them feel like they are something special.....

DSP · (#12 (**permalink**))

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Originally Posted by Mezmerized

@Alabamagirl and Imoco...actually, the Mrs thing has nothing to do with Africans. There is a thread somewhere here that touched on this very same issue. No one was able to actually translate the word'Mrs' in ANY African language(and we all know we have 1000s of languages)

Hence this Mrs idea is just one of the multitudes of Western adopted ideologies or traditions by Africans.

I intend to keep my name. I am not a property to be branded by another human being's name just because we are married. From my understanding, marriage is a UNION of 2 people.....an equal partnership, therefore i fail to see how a woman taking the man's name holds up to anything of substance. Me think some men obssess about this because it will finally make them feel like they are something special.....

Here we go.

chi · (#13 (**permalink**))

....Yes, but Mez has a point. What is more puzzling to me is that some men find the issue a deal breaker.......what exactly does it represent to some of you?

Mr. Equanimity · (#14 (**permalink**))

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Originally Posted by DSP

Here we go.

A thread like this wouldn't be complete without some bullshit feminist rhetoric.