Ten traits that make her a great girlfriend



1. She’s independent:
No one wants a girlfriend they have to baby-sit. Once in a while, like if she’s had a rough day at work, it’s great to be her shoulder to cry on, but if she can’t seem to function without you and is constantly after you, she will eventually make you feel like you’re suffocating, which is a surefire way to get you running out the nearest exit. On the other hand, if she has her very own personality and opinions, can stand on her own two feet, both financially and emotionally, and is able to enjoy time away from you, while still missing you, of course, then she must be a great girlfriend.

2. She’s intelligent:
I hate to be the one to tell you this, but the bimbo routine gets real old, real fast. Instead of being the one in total control, you’ll find yourself trying to figure out what she’s really thinking behind those glazed eyes of hers, or if she’s actually thinking at all. An intelligent woman will constantly surprise you and keep you on your toes. She won’t let you get bored of her. Besides, it’s nice to have something to talk about between all that chandelier-hanging sex.

3. She’s sexual:
While we’re on the topic, a great girlfriend has to be sexually compatible with you. The two of you have to be on the same page or, at least, close to the same page. Of course, this doesn’t imply that she has to know all the right moves straight away; it simply means that you and she have an undeniable attraction toward each other, and are able to communicate your desires verbally (or with physical cues). It is important that you please each other in the bedroom.

4. She’s beautiful:
I know, this one is kind of obvious, but important nonetheless. A great girlfriend will not only want to look good for you, but also for herself. She should always look her best and be well put together. You have to be proud to have her on your arm and enjoy the sight of her in any light.

5. She respects you:
This is a biggie. Your woman must respect you. This means that she listens to you, even if she doesn’t necessarily agree with what you’re saying. And, of course, she never tries to demean or belittle you in any way, shape or form. A great girlfriend won’t ever cause scenes in public or in front of your friends and family, and will always wait to discuss matters with you in private. If she respects you, chances are that she will behave in a tactful and diplomatic manner in most situations, which is definitely a good thing.

6. She lets you be a man:
A good girlfriend lets you be a guy in all your glory. She has to understand that men and women are different and should allow you to be yourself. Just like you wouldn’t deprive her of going shopping with her best girlfriend, she shouldn’t expect you to give up the guys for her.

7. She’s nagless:
There is nothing worse than a nag! A great girlfriend knows this and chooses her battles wisely. She knows when to speak up and when to let it slide. You don’t want a girlfriend who will give you hell for leaving a couple of dishes in the sink occasionally. However, if you live together and you stay out all night without calling her, and she lets you have it, then you’re setting yourself up for disaster. This is a situation that nobody would let slide, not even a great girlfriend.

8. She gets along with friends and family:
A great girlfriend will not only help your mom in the kitchen, listen to your dad’s stories and hang out with your friends, but she will enjoy it. She’ll make a real effort to get to know and love the most important people in your life. And she won’t try to get you to ditch your best buds. She’ll actually empathize with your brother’s getting dumped and suggest that you guys take him out to cheer him up. Not only that, but your friends won’t roll their eyes and moan when you mention that she’ll be joining you guys when she gets off work (yes, women like this do exist).

9. She loves you:
If you have found a woman who loves you for who you really are and not who you pretend or try to be sometimes, you should definitely hang on to her. A woman who doesn’t try to change you is hard to find. Of course, all women have their slightly annoying habits that their mate has to contend with, but if she really loves you, she will be able to cope with these. Another way to know if she really loves you is by observing the way she looks at you and treats you on an everyday basis. If the sight of you doesn‘t seem to faze her either way, and she doesn’t really seem to care about what you have to say, she’s either playing very hard to get, or sees you as just some guy. But if a surprise visit or phone call from you makes her light up, there’s no denying that she loves you.

10. She makes you want to be a better man:
Stop making that face, any man who has a great girlfriend or wife will tell you that she makes him want to be a better man. She doesn’t have to say or do anything; it just is that way. If you suddenly feel bad about how you treated your sister or find yourself trying to get your finances in order, you might want to think about your motivation for doing so. It could be love.


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Nag, nag, nag.

Am i the only one who thinks men nag more than women? every "nag" in my life has been a man.... starting from my dad to my ex's to any guy.

I've never had any of my girlfriends ask me why i work so much or why i bought that cute KG heels or holidays. They go ohhhh ahhhh at my shoe choice/s and or volunteer themselves to come with me on holiday lol... Men in my life on the other hand always have to complain about how far i am sitting, how much i paid for certain things, why i feel the need to go somewhere or spend time with someone other than them. Why you do this? why that? why, why, why.... ARGH....

So sick of men's nagging habit . You lot need to stop that ish.

Abs,

The irony is being independent is number 1 great trait...lol, as long as she is not earning more than them because then the ego takes over.

lets flip the switch

a trait that would make a great boyfriend

please have a Decent JOb,

damn that is all we ask for!

Abs......so you are a SAP consultant....wow!

Remember, to a woman, a good man is simply a man other than the one she currently has, they look at shoes and handbags in precisely the same way which is why they can have so many with most having served their purpose after the first wear. When raising your boys these are the things you needs be educating them to.

..and also women remember, your man=shoes=handbags attitude is right up the street for a brotha just looking a piece of hit and run pum pum

1. She’s independent - careful not to confuse this one with selfishness i.e. independence means she'll do things which on the surface appear to be selfless and in unity but the reality is she's only playing ball because it secures her independence.


2. She’s intelligent - careful not to mistake this for consciousness, an academic degree is no substitute for enlightenment.

3. She’s sexual - most women seem to think their declaration that they belong to you is the act of sucking your coCk and in the extreme swallowing a mans semen. Don't confuse sexual with duttiness and slackness...dare I say paganism.

4. She’s beautiful - skin deep beauty is often a sign of cultural ugliness. Look for beauty that aligns to Africa then you know it will be more than just the physical appearance, there'll be substance.

5. She respects you - you might have to disrespect her first for her to appreciate the true meaning of respect. In days gone by men were 'respected' as the breadwinner, this is no longer the case, the goalposts have shifted so you are more likely to encounter competition which has nothing to do with the facts or what is right or wrong but for the sole fact they do not depend on you to put bread on their table or to buy shoes.


6. She lets you be a man - two bulls can't live in the same pen, I'm a believer in two's-complement, being a man might mean being ready to knock out her two friont teeth if she gets two cheeky, for someone else a man is being able to walk away. Their are relationships where the woman is the more masculine when it comes to holding the house together, listen to the song Oversize Mampie, when a brotha gets into a dispute out-a-road, it's his big fat girlfriend he's pushing up front to defend him

7. She’s nagless - women gas period, if she doesn't with you she'll be in her element when she hooks up with the rest of her hoochies. Asking a woman not to nag is like asking a woman not to let you be a man.

8. She gets along with friends and family - a definte for raising children but watch out for Joe Grind, your best friend or even your brother could be giving her the oral treatment on the side.

9. She loves you - yes, but only because she respects you. Women seem to fall in love through association i.e just being around you where you slowly rub off on them or in a moment of weakness they freed up the punany and you were on form and managed to give her multiple orgasms. Loving you means loving what you stand for, what you represent be that gangbanging or African militancy and will be reflected in how she raises the children.

10. She makes you want to be a better man - women truly believe the man only looks good if they the woman looks good. Most women prepare themselves to be trophies so be careful that a better man is not just a reflection of her own selfishness.

With a minefield like that, better of just telling her what she wants to hear to tap that azz just be prepared for the cost of a few unwanted or accident children i.e. a babymother here or there along the journey of finding that great girlfriend. And even then, just to be extra safe, keep her as a girlfriend never a wife, that extra bit of security might get her believing she's a man

If this is your impression of what most women are like then that's very sad. Do you really hate women that much? I've noticed that in a lot of your threads you express real contempt for women. And if the type of women that you are describing here are the women that you appear to attract .....well you must have heard the term 'like attracts like'?

..and the last point about 'babymothers' and 'accident children'...there is no such thing as 'accident children'. If a man is really determined to avoid siring children with a particular woman then he needs to take responsibility for contraception as well. The 100% guaranteed method of preventing this from happening is simply to not sleep with her.

nsogbu1562 - Hey that's just the cynical side of me

But you know what, the real irony is this. Most of what is seen as my hatred for women is me and my family building commUNITY oriented self trying to tell my fellow brothas as men, women should be respected as princesses, empresses and queens where they are telling me all a woman wants is a f**k. So when I come here addressing women with the respect they deserve, in defence of their predicaments, they think they are giving me a solid argument when all they're actually confirming is what these men have been trying to tell me for years....and even worse it's proven further by these same men being the first ones to jump into the argument apparently defending womens honour i.e. simply telling them what they want to hear....and all these women run to them like the sheep to the shepherd. Bunch of hypocritical comedians I tell you....and these people expect the rest of the world to take them seriously. Truly, truly wotliss if not pathetic.

If there is a perceived contempt, don't look at the women, look at our lack of collective structure and infrastructure and how we live like a bunch of worthless beggars. Indeed I expect a conscious woman to look at their men in precisely the same way instead of defending this nastiness.

I'll slate wotliss men same way, I used to make the mistake in believing as a man I have the right to speak on behalf of all men. But as I said, in defence of their face, when the crunch comes it's these so called men with their accident excuses these women will run to for solace...and take on their value system for being given that privilege.

Too many people focusing on superficial words instead of the roots behind them. It's like having a partner who sees the bread on the table but not the value system behind the mind that got it there. But yeah, I'll give you something to point your fingers at, I'm simply feeding that habit of being unable to look in the mirror....i.e. it makes me look like the bad guy.

...sorry, this should have been in there somewhere....

....men come in defending women but none of them can marry their babymothers...

nsogbu1562 - for the record the only thing I burn is babylon and anyone defending it. I take it for granted that any man who interprets my words as anti-woman eats pu$$y. One or two man have gotten brave trying to endorse it but must are still throwing rabbit punches from behind womans frock LOL.

True Dread don't care for vanity, ooh-yeah
He's got love for humanity
but a whole lot of them in sheep clothing, ooh-yes
are trying to mix the true Dread with sin
The mark of the beast is on their forehead, ooh-yes
and evil prints upon their face
Oh it's a big disgrace, ooh-yes
How deh are mashin up the place
Yes, Babylon trap them, yes Babylon trap them

The old book tell you about it, say
they are the generations of vipers, ooh-no--them
and they just can't be blamed
Cause, Babylon trap them, my bredren, Babylon trap them
It's true-yeah, no lie about it, oooh

Don't get yourself mixed up, ole people, ooh-yes
cause it's gonna be well dread
Who the cap fit, let him wear it, I-say
You just do as Jah Jah want you to do
Cause, Babylon trap them, yes Babylon trap them
Babylon trap them, my bredren, Babylon trap them

(Babylon trap them) he control them, ooh-yes
(Babylon trap them) let them do as they want them to
Babylon trap them, my bredren

Babe - you got some issues.

Just being straight up, but carry on init.