Visit England and see for yourself.

shemsi... i'm not really happy about this thread if i'm honest..i think its a bit offensive..however i think further reflection is needed before i comment or take action on whether to let this thread stand!

there are faithful ja men. but then there are unfaithful ja men. the ones who get talked about are the unfaithful men. the bad man dem etc

i have found that certain behaviours ja mums tend to tolerate amongst their sons but not their daughters, but so can be said for any other islander.

but then you have to think about the women too. most of the time the women will know that he is married or spoken for and that does not stop them. they are part to blame.

this thread would be better title ARE MEN FAITHFUL with a side note rich poor gangland civil fatherless dodging bulletts etc etc if you get my drift.

i dont wipe all ja men with the same brush as i have seen the same behaviours in british born africans and caribbeans and as for the AA's Usher says it all

my cousin is jamaican born her hub is ja born met in the uk he is more than faithful he is a man that takes care of his family

I'd imagine Jamaican men are just as faithful as any other men on the planet. I don't think there would be anything in the rum or ackee over there that would make the men more susceptible to cheating than in any other country.

"..mostly male chauvinists with huge male-egos and testosterone-induced pride..." These are hardly Jamaican only traits, are no AA men like this!?

The high sexual content of the music is of concern to me, and the overly sexual behaviour in the dances which is filtering down to london is also alarming. But the same can be said for hip hop if this is going to be held up as an influence over the entire islands sexual behaviour.

I wouldn't blame the jamaican women or mother's either. Wotlessness crosses all borders as does hoeism.

I have never heard my mother or any of my aunts complain about their Jamaican men, I'd take a yardie over an english born man anyday.

I thought it was black men in general that got a bad rap in the US, now y'all are starting to discriminate, jeez.

I'm a Jamaican man. I'm faithful.

Shemsi, you a cool breddah and everyting but....



And I'm REAL tempted to hurl this in the dustbin and I find temptation very hard to resist.......

I don't think it's just a Jamaican men issue. There is no a cheating type but every person can become one if they are with the wrong person and or they feel that there will be no consequences. However, the majority of the time it's an insecure women issue.

I had similar conversation at a friends drink up thing the other week. Almost all the women mostly African were conveinced that every man is a cheat, what was more sad was that two of them are married to a Kenyan and an English guy who btw they said they didn't suspect of cheating just that if they were given a chance they would do it therefore not to be trusted.

I know if i was a man i would probably cheat since i am already guilty anyway and besides a woman who is married to a guy who she believes would cheat if given a chance would not seek a divorce or even make a fuss about it if he did.

I think West Indian/Caribbean/Island culture sort of condones men having mistresses......"good man" or not.

Don't know if it's fair to single out one island.I've always said that if you know enough black people from different parts of the world......you'll see more in common than different.

I don't think young men are generally raised by their cultures and fathers to think of fidelity as being that important.

The difference I've seen between US and Island cultures and infidelity is the over here...the dudes make some sort of attempt to hide it......it's more flagrant and open on the islands.

I dont know many Jamaican men to tell you the truth. I would imagine they are no less faithful than any other. I think its more the culture of accepting that behaviour which changes from one country to another. I know in Nigeria, people tend to condone affairs outside of marriage. Women are taught to out up with it really. Although, I think that is changing now and some women are flipping the script on the men.

Too many people are being brought up to feel they can have something simply because they want it.

That's true I suppose. I just wonder why Jamaican men get such a bad wrap by the sisters here in the States though. I know all cultures of men cheat, but I was rolling on the floor laughing when this Jah brother said he moved out because "my wife won't let me have girl friend." I asked if his wife was Jamaican, and he said she Afrikan-American, but not Jamaican. I was thinking to myself, am I the only person that finds his audacity to demand a girl friend funny while being married?

I have many friends from St Kitts, Haiti, Bermuda, Cuba, Dominica, Dominican Republic, and so forth, and I have only seen such propensity amongst Jamaican men. In fact, I only know of 3 polygamous marriages personally, and they are all headed by Jamaican men. I don't find polygamy to be a bad thing if everyone is good with it, but demanding a girl friend is hilarious to me.

Shemsi..I'm tossing this into the bin ok!! If you want to restart the topic can I suggest rewording the title and the opening argument....thanks!!