Very good post Kunjufu.

I think it begins the minute you realize you aren't attracted to or in love with your partner and don't let them know. When basically, you're lying about how you feel and are just stringing them along while you check the playing field.

Infidelity isn't just about sex.

And all the answers to your questions are yes, yes, yes, yes except for hooking up for a drink and a chat with a female/male. It's alright to hook up with friends of the opposite sex every once in a while.

As long as you're not looking for an opening.

good post BG, infidelity is the betrayal of the vows between a person. the vows are for beyond being in love and even love itself. you hit the spot, when you decide to give up and entertain finding 'it' (not necessarily sex) someplace else.

When you wake up in your female colleague's hotel room and don't remember how the **** you ended up there.

Infidelity starts in the mind - its starts when your thoughts are of the sorts that if those thoughts were acted out against you, you would be hurt.

and your mate...

Very Good post, I think it's when you start to question why you are in the relationship to begin with? However i think what also constitutes an act of infidelity may also vary based on the values you may share with your significant other, but in most cases trust, lying and disloyalty to your significant other play the major roles.

if simultaneously you dont feel right and you think ya partner wouldnt like what ya think it begins RIGHT THERE.

just a theory

i believe this is just something you KNOW and it cant be taught.

yep.. I was trying to say, do unto others as you would have do unto yourself..

I think this is very intresting.

It begins with the thought of course. The soon as you start to think about being sexually involved with someone else, the next stage is spending lots of time with that person who you have been thinking about then it is only a matter of time before the thought process becomes a reality – and lots of people get hurt…

I would say infidelity starts when a person conciously puts themself in a position which could create the opportunity of physical intimacy between them and somebody else whilst they are in a secure relationship.

This includes for example, physical intimacy when drunk, because a person possibly knew what road they were going down before they lost control.

i cant think of many females that will agree with you on this cos its from females i hear the most excuses when this happens and its usually them that endorse it.