TALLmen Short MEN AND INbetween

~* Cuban Gyal *~ · (#1 (**permalink**))

Hey don't worry about it. Your not always going to meet nice people all the time. Life is full of suprises some times you win some, sometimes you loose.People come in all diiferent shapes and sizes, Fat, thin, slim, tall,small etc....life would be pretty boring if we were all 5'6 withblack hair and hazel eyes. We be better off cloned instead lol.

Everybody has there own trials and tribulations some more obvious then others. While this 5'11 stud might seem perfect on the outside he might haveanasty personality and bad breath (sorry couldn't resist writing that lol). I tell ya there's more to a person then just looks or there height, and if these ladies you met the other day can't see past that then itsTHERE LOSTAND THEY WASN'T WORTH IT IN THE FIRST PLACE!.

for the latter im 4'11 and i prefer men that are5'5-5'8....blkrainbowfro

hope this helps!

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Geez Stealth...
I agree with what has been said. Ja hit the nail on the head when he said that their ridicule is reflection of themselves.
Ask yourself, would you want someone like that anyway?
You know for the most part peeps in general have just been programmed to make certain choices, especially by the media.
It's basically what a lot of women who are rounder go through...most men just won't be caught dead with a female who is considered over-weight beause that is not what is seen on television or in the movies. They want that so-called trophy on their arm in order to be accepted by the masses.
But just realize that one person's trash is another's treasure. You can only do and be you bro. Stay away from the shallow peeps because ultimately it's whats on the inside that counts and that lasts longer anyway. Much luck to you.niceone.gif

Hawaii-Cat · (#3 (**permalink**))

"Stealth"... regrettably, you are not imagining things. Well... I don't know about the personal disses you've said you've had to endure out in the open, but you are definately correct when you say you observe that women overwhelmingly institute a "minimum height requirement" on any males they'd potentially consider dating. (This is especially true of "western" and "westernized" women in particular, as they are by far more scrutinizing in this regard.) This is not to say that there are not any exceptions to the rule, but as the saying goes, "The 'Exception' PROVES The 'Rule'." And by indicating that you stand at a height of 5'7" (about 170cm) you're still two whole inches under the "minimum" threshold of acceptability. Just glance at your local "dating scene" classifieds or similar type introductory services -- ESPECIALLY if you reside in or near a major metropolitan area: After the preliminary request for an "athletic," (usually) Caucasian "PROFESSIONAL" ('Womanese' for: "A man who makes a helluva lot more money than I do so I don't have to do jack $#!t anymore except sit on my arse and be pampered all the time), the thing that is almost always guaranteed to follow is "5-foot-9 or TALLER."

"Fred" was talking earlier about "White Cultural Influences" on so-called "Black Culture".... Is this just another example of us just following the coat tails of Euro-centric society, making blacks again guilty of not being able to formulate their own opinions and break free from the mental conditioning of so-called "White Culture"?

But on a more relevant (and controversial) level, could what you have experienced, "Stealth" (as surely others have), possibly be but one of the number of factors contributing to why more and more black men are outright rejecting black women in favor of Caucasian or Latina women? I see the articles in magazines like "ESSENSE" all the time -- "Why Can't I Find A Good Black Man?"... "Where Are All The 'Marriage-Minded' Brothers?"... or similar titles. Could it be, gals, because you're treating (quote)''your''(unquote) black men with prejudice and disrespect even before you've given them a chance to let you know who they are? -- Is it because you automatically reject what may very well be the most decent guy you could find based on such superficial factors as "he's not the right height," "he doesn't make enough money," "he does not work in a prestigious career," or "he doesn't look 'manly' enough" (I swear, there was one time in a club some years ago where a woman I was trying to converse with said she didn't want to talk to me because, according to her, I looked too much like a little girl!)?

When men (black, white or otherwise) gripe about the way they are treated by women before they've even had a chance to so much as say "Hi," ladies, they're trying to tell you something important. NOBODY likes to be prejudged and rejected before being given a chance to present and prove themselves. (didn't mean to be so long-winded)

stylishsista · (#4 (**permalink**))

Hey Stealth ...you have to understand women want their man to be dominant, a protective coat , masculine etc etc

However if they are shorter than you and you tower above them, the balance is reverse, you can no longer look to your man to be the dominant one, to offer you the protective coat to be masculine!!

This is why I think many women love tall men....me I dont date anyone below 5'10 ....I am not being mean, its just a preferance, there has to be some element of choice when picking a partner, otherwise we would be restricted and limited individuals!!

Demi · (#5 (**permalink**))

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stylishsista · (#6 (**permalink**))

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@ Stylishsista you can keep your protectiv e coat all you want baby I 've had a good K.O ratio since school and I'd knock a couple chips of your 5'10''+ man if you thought about flexing his muscle on me trust me the last ruck I had yeah I knocked him and he was 6'4'' flat on the ground and gave him a good stomping for even thinking he could walk over me.

But that was a while back and ain't nothin incriminating here man just got his ass kicked .

Dont worry hun...Im happy with my man being dominant, beingtheprotective coat,and bursting full of masculinty...

Although I also understand that people were not born with the choice to decide how they should look ....but we were born with the ability to make a decision...and this is all im expressing hun!!

Also I never said I wanted my man to go around fighting...I actually find this a turn off...its a shame black men think all their strenght is in the phsyical....hunny the brain is always better than the fist!!

locsgirl · (#7 (**permalink**))

@Hawaii-cat

Love Those Cats eyes. Cant stop looking at em! Reminds me of my dear departed Black half Siamese pussy cat.

Thanks for the memory! blkthumbsup

locsgirl · (#8 (**permalink**))

I also have to add something to what Stylish said about a mans dominance and protective coat.

My baby father was a Big large fit man, but he was knocked senseless one night by a small guy 5ft6 who knew some very cool martial arts tricks. My ex was working security at a club and tried to come down hard on Mr 5ft6 and remove him from the club. Next thing he knows he is regaining consciousness on the floor.

So height has Nothing to do with masculinity. I bet Mr 5ft6 woman thought he was king of the heap that night....and probably Every night.

I love it when people get shown up when they been trying to look down on someone. I know a guy who teaches Win Chung and he says its always the smaller guys who have the advantage. They usually lighter on their feet, whereas big guys take longer to manoevurePlus they land heavier...

Elegance · (#9 (**permalink**))

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[font=Arial]Not easyto date a shorter man ,
[font=Arial]First issue will be the look of others (I could say I don't care but we live in society right?)
[font=Arial]Beyond that, some of us are being ruled by models and stereotypes (I am fighting against) however
[font=Arial]the height criteria is one I couldn't possibly overcome in the near future.
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[font=Arial]Why? as stylishsista said "the caring, protective aspect" , it doesn't mean short men can't be protective but means I won't feel comfortable this way.
[font=Arial]In facts, I believe peeps are looking for similar (physically etc etc.. talking) and going for someone shorter is like going for someone overweighed for example, once again it doesn't mean tall/short, fat/slim etc couples don't get on, I meant physical aspect is a factor non negligible for lot of us.
[font=Arial]Preferring dating tall guys is no different fromchoosingGood looking ones,white onesor even fat ones ( as kareem thinks with women), Nothing to do with you or the one who is not good looking but more with individualtastes and dislikes.( can't you agree someone has a different view on life ?)
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[font=Arial]My friends and myself are rather tall (one of them is 6'3). we wouldn't consider dating a SHORT guy,
[font=Arial]No offence Stealth Black, I will never look anyone down cos of his/her Height
[font=Arial]When it's about dating, some criteria have to be taken in account, and the over 6' is an important one ( will you date a woman you consider ugly ?)

Elegance · (#10 (**permalink**))

@ Stealthblack,

Perharps myheigt makes me very ugly......if so, I'll showwhat is in my heart and my personality to the peeps and then I'll hope they will forget about it.

@ Fredblack, I think youunderstood it all.niceone.gif

Lexi · (#11 (**permalink**))

Sorry it's all about men who are 5'10 and over 4 me. I used to think that the short men would be in high demand from short women but apparently all women want tall men.

My brother is 16 now and he loves being 6'0 he says the taller a man is the more variety of women are on offer.

The fact is most men don't want a women taller than them,and women don't want a little man because being small is seen as being feminine.

If you dont want to be small (men) make sure you don't start weight training un till your 18-apparently it stunts peoples growth spurts.

Lexi loves you all whether your small or tall

CELEBRATE THE DIFFERENCES!!!!!!

Ceazar · (#12 (**permalink**))

It ain't rocket science,women tend to like men that are quite taller than they are.My question is.........what's the threshold for tallness?

ceazar

Miss Brighter Days · (#13 (**permalink**))

I thought i would add my 2 pence.

AS a tall woman 5ft 11, i have to say i am not attracted to men shorter than me, and men who are shorter than me, are not attracted to me.

But just as it is hard for shorter men to find women, its also not that easy for taller women to find men, because petite women, like tall men, are desired the most.

Its just the way it is, when it comes to instant pyhsical attraction. Of course personality and all the rest come into it afterwards.

But i don't agree with anyone dissing someone because of their height. Some people can be foolish and cruel!