There are many good men out there, so what's the problem?

LOL! Unfortunately we live in the times were women know more about the lives and personalitiesof the characters in Eastenders than they dotheirmen. I tell you it's so hard for us black men. I mean together with everything elselife has to throw at us, if you don't mind sharp, you'll wake up one day to find yourself running up and down with a whitey

YEAH BRAVOclp)A BLACK WOMAN DO NOT KNOW MUCH ABOUT THE BLACK MAN. BUT A WHITE WOMAN WILL KNOW:?

DUMB EXCUSES, MAYBE MEN SHOULD TAKE THE TIME TO KNOW MORE ABOUT THEIR WOMEN AS WELL.

@johncrow234

MAYBE MEN SHOULD TAKE THE TIME TO KNOW MORE ABOUT THEIR WOMEN AS WELL

Assuming Eastenders isn't on...

You'd expect a whitey to be watching that crap...they can relate more to the lifestyles being portrayed

@Travellar

It's up and down......but I guess nothing if you already are but hey, asanother thread says, there are plenty other threads ehich I'm sure I've posted on giving my viewpoint.niceone.gif

Femergy wrote:
Let me roll this thread out some more. This IS NOT about women bashing or whitey bashing. This is about if there are many good men out there, then why aren't we holding down those relationships.

To get this going I'll give you an example of the kind of conversations I've had with a few good men and they say that black women are no longer able to cook and manage basics. This isn't about role play so please don't harp on about "well why should it always be the woman who does the cooking" because I'll tell you out right that it is your responsibility, Black Women, to ensure and oversee the nutritional value of what is purchased, cooked and fed to your family. I ain't saying here you've got to do the cooking, I'm saying it's your responsibility to ensure that it is healthy and that food is put on the table, in the fridge or whatever.

So I'll ask again, with so many good men out there what's the problem?

Incognito wrote:
[quote]@johncrow234

MAYBE MEN SHOULD TAKE THE TIME TO KNOW MORE ABOUT THEIR WOMEN AS WELL

What would you suggest men should know more of? What should they be looking out for?

Oh dear the simply reason is it takes two to tango, if you get my drift, so therefore there are things in a relationship a man would like for a woman to adhere to and the same goes for the man, as cognita said woman knows more about soap than dem man. both must be able to take the time to find out each others likes and dislikes and act upon that to promote a healthy and stable relationship.

If there are insufficient comunication going on inthe relationship itwill deteriorate. So that is why I corrected the cognita and say that both the man and woman must be able to know about each other not just women knowing about the man as he stated. and what is wrong with watching the Enders?

Femery you stated about health and cooking, well fair enough.

There times in a month when women get very emotional which some men mistook for them being blunt and angry, and at that time they do need a caring and understanding partner.

Another thing is the chores in the home must be split equally both them must get off their arses to ensure things being done.

Femergy you ask the question with so many good men out there what is the problem?

The problem is lack of comunication.

JONHNCROW234 wrote:
The word that 99% of people say is what they lack in their relationships, the word that 99% of people say is the answer to their problems.

But isn't this becoming a cliche, worn out response. The question that remains on the lips of those who are lacking this much sought after skill is HOW. How do you DO communication? How many of us in the black community have studied and learnt under guidance the art of communication, say NeuroLinguisticProgramming (NLP) for example.

@ Femenergy

Is this a topic for men or women to answer?

It seems to me like you want female contributions but only men are respondingconfused3

@Femergy

John wrote it I quote' it

It's probably done the rounds but...

Do you qualify to be the man I need you to be?
Will you be able to recognize the things you
need to see? Will you be able to understand, that
I'm a good woman and in my life I need a good man?
Do you qualify?

Do you qualify to fertilize my unproduced seeds?
Can you fulfill, as I can, all of our needs?
Can you put me in my place if you see I am slippin?
Can you talk to me, wholeheartedly, not constantly trippin??
Do you qualify?

Do you qualify to be called all mine?
Can you leave the other women and temptations
behind? Can you come to me with your problems and
not wait until it's too late?
Can you stand up and admit if you made a mistake?
Do you qualify?

Do you qualify to be the honest ebony man I
would want you to be?
Would you be able to look me in my eyes and
admit your feelings to me?
Could you take me in your arms and make love to
me all night long?
Can you be sensitive and still be strong?

Do you qualify?

Do you qualify to be my friend as well as my
lover? Can you put our love before any other?
Can you cherish me as if I were Diamonds &
Gold? Can you make me feel like I'm the last
woman you'll ever hold?
Do you qualify?

Do you qualify to be called a good man?
If I have doubts can you reassure me and understand?
Can your love intoxicate me as if I were High?
To be in my life, I need to know,

DO YOU QUALIFY?

The Brother's Response:

You ask, do I qualify?
Can I fulfill your needs and become the man you need me to be?
My sister, are you prepared for what you've asked for?
Can you handle the responsibility?

Can you accept that, by GOD, I am the chosen?

one, the authority, the comforter, and the head?
Will you submit and willingly follow my path?
Or will you fight with me instead?

If I am your King, will you treat me as such?
Will I get the best of your beauty and poise?
Or will I be subjected to an appearance
neglected, and checked with some serious noise?
When I talk, will you listen?
I mean whole heartedly and feel me?
Or will you rush me just to make your point too?
Can I be the man at all times? Even when it hurts?
Or is it just when it's convenient for you?

Can you love me for me, and not who you wish I could be?
Will you see the strong Black Man within?
Or will you always remind me of the all

the past brothers behind me and make me pay for their sins?

If I don't send you flowers the day your co-worker
received some, will you know that I love you still?
Or will my good name be uttered along with those other doggish brothers?
Will you question if my commitment is real?

Will you be patient and teach me to understand you,
and allow my knowledge of your needs to grow?
Or will you shut me out when I ask, Baby
what's wrong?
Or will you respond with, "Well a REAL man would know!"

When we first met, what was it that caught your
eye? Was it my mind, my heart, my personality?
Or was it my suit, or my job, or do you love
what I drive, instead of what's driving me?

Yes I can, and I will, make love to you

from midnight to the dawning of the sun.
But, if I tell you I'm tired, will you trust
I'm sincere or believe that there must be another one?
My sister, I love you and my heart can be yours.

No woman could lead me astray.
But like you, I have needs, so I beg of you, please,

in this love thang meet me half way.

In life's tough times I'll hold you, in the rough times I'll mold you;
your simplest wish will be my command.
My life is yours if need be.
Yes you can fully bleed me, and when hell comes, in your place, I'll stand.

A good relationship is a powerful institution that must be built on a foundation of two.
So to answer your question,
YES sister, I do qualify.

Now, more importantly.....! Do you,MSE