I'm a young female, with not much of a social life (and not that many friends now I think about it - how sad am I???)and it's actually starting to grind on me.

When I was younger there were so much things to do, but now all my life consists of, is going to work and sleeping. When I get a day off work, I have nothing to do so I end up sleeping or sitting on the net.

On my way home from work, I hear young girls on the bus talking about the events that took place the previous day or the events that are about to take place. I've noticed that there is a lot more to do as a teenager than there is for young adults, like myself. There were summer events that I used to attend, for example Burgess park for the day youth clubs which lasted for a month. But now there is nothing.

Does anybody else feel the same way?

Or does anybody have any ideas of things to do for females in the age range of 21 - 30 (where money is NOT a necessity)?

Please help, cos my boredom is killing me.

Do you work 7 days a week?

We work to live, we dont live to work... you have to remember that.

What happened to your friends from school? What are they doing in their spare time?

To meet people you have to go where people go.

How about taking up a hobby? going to the gym? getting involved in school activities? church activities? volunteering? being a mentor (big sis)?

Be careful what you ask for... enjoy the peace of mind.

I felt like this last summer @ adeola

Infact, evrything you said ( apart from the friends part) applied to me word for word

You work, so you have money. Take up a a martial art, learn a new skill oin eveng class, take up a sport. go to a poetry.spoken word stuff. I ddi all this and met people in all of them, dont really speak to any of threm too tough but thats a diffreent story

Best bet is to pick up Time Life for £2.95 in the newsagents and plan your day from there

Get a man or a dog, whichever is easier niceone.gif

What type of friends do you want, what type of activities do you want to engage in?

You need to know what you want, then you need to work at it. How are about being nice to people who you want to be friends with, talk to them and say something nice. You have to show yourself as a lovable person before you can receive love from people. Going to events also helps, ie joining a Gym, Church activities like house fellowship etc.

What happened to your school friends, even your cousins or family friends? you can chill with these people and through them you will get to know someone else.

Goodluck, and ofcourse you have Blacknet.

Okay, maybe I shouldn't have mentioned the lack of friends. That was actually supposed to be a bit of a joke, but I think it was taken a bit too seriously - LOL. I have a few close friends and a few friends and a few acquaintances. I just think that having a few more acqauaintances would be nice, but its not the be all and end all. I love the friends I have and am very happy with the quality of friends I have.

The main thing I was getting at was my social life, me andmy friend wanted to do something on Friday (as it going to be 24 degrees - HOORAY), but hadn't a clue what to do, which prompted me to write this post. We decided to have a picnic in the local park, but figured that we need a lot more ideas for other days.

I will buy that magazine and see what its saying.



Thanks for all the replies though.

Okay then you aren't really lonely maybe slightly lazy.I have the opposite problem, to much to do too little time.... grrrrr! i guess we both need tolearn to managetime better.

Anyways if you needplace to go this Sunday i recommend Poetry in motion at the Loop, OxfordCircus.Checkout www.ukfridays.com for more info.

It gets real packed so i suggest you arrive early.

@ Adeola

If ur looking somewhere to go this friday night I have a place for you, and it will only cost a fiver to get in.

@DSP

Its similar to five dollars, (except its a note). I think you have a five dollar note in the U.S. don't you?