What do you girls think about dating people you have met over the net, or joininga dating agency?

Would any of you ever do it? Or if your friend told you she met her new boyfriend on the net/dating agency what would you think?

Guys, feel free to answer this question too.niceone.gif

Just to make things clear. I personally don't like the whole online dating thing and would never do it. I just want to know what you guys think of it, because I'm nosy like that.

I would say it's just a medium of communication like anything else and has advantages in that you usually speak to people and gauge their mindset beforehand however like all things people LIE. People lie on their profiles and about themselves.

Also you lack that personal touch when online. In person you can see how a person reacts to you. What is their face doing while you are speaking to them. You can decide, if you are astute enough, wether you are boring them or interesting them and change tack. Conversation flows like that. Watching a persons body language in response to your own and your words is very important to bonding with someone imo.

I do know a few people who met their partners online and in a few cases it's even worked out well but not something I've ever done. Most of the time if I've met people they were very different to what they said they were and I got annoyed. Don't like liars.

I agree with Drunk monkey you miss out on the body language when you cant see someone. But then again you sometimes see more if you;re writing to someone because you can read between the lines.

I;m worried about a friend of mine at moment. He;s been browsing a web site called African Introductions and he;s met 2 very strange women. Both reckon they;re strict Christians but both have bedded him same night they met. He;s met another one this week into S and M .

This kind of stuff is dangerous for both parties. These women invited him into their homes from moment dot...without a thought for the welfare or safety of their children. He could have been any kind of psycho weirdo for all these women knew.

I know this could happen when meeting anyone but I do think there are some Very very strange people prowling the Internet , more so probably than dating agencies.

I think people need to take care when considering it. Its always better in reality to meet people where there is some kind of link to people you already know. When people join and pay a dating agency they usually are committed to wanting a serious partner. They are often screened and interviewed by the agency as well as parting with information such as address, phone and credit card number. Not so with Internet. Some people are on there for sinister purposes or even just for a wind up.

I have mixed feelings about it. I had a man online but guess what I never even met him lol
I was only like 16 but I felt I had real deep feelings for him, anyways got over him got with a next man who I broke up with and even though HE got my virginity, I always think of the guy online. My feelings for the online guy were way deeper and it's got me thinkin wtf is wrong with me lol.
Moral of the story is, of course u can develop feelings online just as long as you continue it offline, thats the key.

Hotep

You ladies be careful meeting guys over the net (unless it's me). You might end up chatting for months with someone who is really a Malaysian transsexual who works as a janitor and lives in a basement under the school.

I don't mind online dating but I prefer offline

Like everything it is about using your judgement - if you saw a ferrari for sale for £1.50 you'd be suspicious. So, in the same way if someone seems 'perfect' from their online description then you have to use your common sense and realise that if someone seems to good to be true online; then they probably are.

There are some websites that use integrated VoIP so that you can ring people online. But, if you go out with anyone online and I did - I gave my friends/family the persons contact number, address et al so that if anything jumped off. People knew how to find me.

offtopic.gifAs for fakes I remember a woman a few years ago who took a text dating company to court, as she had spent £15,000 textinga man through a text dating agency - it turned out to be a team of staff at the text date company, the guy never existed. She only found out as amember of staff felt so guilty that they met her in person to let her know it was all a lie.

How do you run up $15000 in texts?

I'm not sure I've spent that much on phonecalls in the entire duration of my life.

Premium rate: you know kind of like the phone in contests? or so-called psychic hotline. You get the standard charge from your mobile phone operator and then the company providing the content adds another charge on top

I have only met one person online, so my sample size isn't very large to make a good assessment. However, I will say that it seems that if the person is honest about themselves, then you can figure out if someone is actually compatible with you before actually meeting them. I have never had a problem meeting women that are attractive in person, and I believe that is probably the case for most people, but the real hurdle is whether the person is someone you can talk to or associate yourself with. That is probably immediately determined whentalking to someone online.

You can trade pictures if you are worried that the person may not be attractive, but often if you like your conversation with the person, how the person looks tends not to matter as much because you would probably be willing to meet them anyway. Basically, I can see meeting someone online as getting past the most difficult part of new relationships, that is, actually finding out if you like the actual person. If you are not necessarily attracted to them, you can alwaysremain friendly acquaintances.

Look up and read online dating tips and safety tips. You don't have to go overboard but some of the tips are very useful eg. talk to them before you meet them etc.

Don't get annoyed when you see brothers on the sites who want to date white women only, you will come across quite a few!