Do BAD Father-Daughter Relationships spell doom for future relationships?

Shemsi en Tehuti · (#1 (**permalink**))

This is a spinoff from BurningSpear's post about relationships with fathers. Reading through thethread, I am just curious about this ladies.

I have been with a few ladies who had bad or even terrible relationships with their father and it clearly effected the way they interacted with other men. Certain things that were mundane to some women (with goodfather-daughter relations) were easily something that could cause an argument with another woman (with bad father-daughter relations).

What does it take to make such relationships work with woman who have a bad father-daughter relationship? Is it pure understanding needed on the man's end, conscious effort taken on the woman's end, or perhaps both? Is this a problem encountered with anyone (men or women)?

Ms Price · (#2 (**permalink**))

Thoth B3 wrote:

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This is a spinoff from BurningSpear's post about relationships with fathers. Reading through thethread, I am just curious about this ladies.

I have been with a few ladies who had bad or even terrible relationships with their father and it clearly effected the way they interacted with other men. Certain things that were mundane to some women (with goodfather-daughter relations) were easily something that could cause an argument with another woman (with bad father-daughter relations).

What does it take to make such relationships work with woman who have a bad father-daughter relationship? Is it pure understanding needed on the man's end, conscious effort taken on the woman's end, or perhaps both? Is this a problem encountered with anyone (men or women)?

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Hi Thoth B3

I think you have started a good thread because as a young women who grew up without a father and to this day has no relationship with him accept the 'you alright'on the street if i see him... I think it isgood for aman to have a deeper understanding of such a sensitve area of a woman's situation similar to myself and understand that a woman in that particular situation may need different needs from a black man then a woman who had that relationship...if you get my drift...Iwon't and can't give you the answers not saying that you asked for them

but each woman is different and you should never no matter how hard it may be judge a woman by wether she had a good realtionship with her father or not, because you will be forever comparing the twoandoutkast the other without understanding thecomplexities that can arise.It is notthe generlisation that some men think it is becausemany women who have absent fathers or bad relationships with their daddys, go on to have flourishing relationships with a man.

little advice unless the woman is you're chosen life partner, i.e marriage, children, house etc leave well alone, unless shetells you. Don't persume anything, and don't judge or question what you don't know. You have been warned...

One Love

Ms Price

Shemsi en Tehuti · (#3 (**permalink**))

Thanks, that was definitely food for thought...