Why do court jesters think they DESERVE queens?

Bstuy · (#1 (**permalink**))

First, I'm not trying to point any fingers or makegeneralizationsbut some of the recent posts have made me think. Men talk about all the key points they want in a woman:

Beauty
Grace
Confidence without being conceited
A career
Morals
Extraordinary culinary skills
Patience (LOTS of it)
Virtue
Intelligence (not sure about that one, some men seem intimidated by this)
and last but definately not least, a 'banging body'

But sometimes I hear a loser saying these things and I haveto consider the source...what are these people bringing to the table? Some men think its all about money. Its not. I'm sure that women want all of these qualities as well, but we are oftenleft scavenginglike the late shoppers at a 90% off clearance sale.

All I really want to say is, men who are asking for all of these qualities need to have SOME of them as well as actively pursuing bettering themselves! Its about what you want out of life. I cant stand to see a guy standing on the corner all day long thinking that he'll just reel in his dream woman. Read a book! Keep YOUR body fit! Go to professional singles clubs, not yourcousin'sbasement party when persuing 'wifey material'.

I had a discussion with a guy that basically said that "Women should be happy when a man has a job. Whatever that job is." I agree with the "whatever that ____ is" part, but ajob is NOT a career. I dontcare if your sweeping the floor at Mcdonalds, but if youdont have the dream and work ethic to pursue doing better for yourself, I dont want anything to do with you. Same goes for a clerical worker. Or a dentist. If you are happy with being mediocre, then you willget (most likely) a mate who is mediocre.Now sure, if you are shallow enough to consider only looks, then you will perhaps get your dream one day. But beauty is only skin deep. Everyone gets old and ugly one day.

It seems like we get all caught up in what we want our mate to be when we should be evaluating who we are. How do we feel about ourselves and what we are doing with our lives. It is far easier to judge someone else.

With that said, all females are not women, ladiesor Queens.

Ladies: How do you handle being persued by jokers? Do you let them down nicely, or does the persistance wear on your nerves? Have you broke down before, or do you carry a battle axe at all times?

Gentlemen: What about the fools who throw themselves at you? Is having sex with someone judged by a different set of standards, or are you thorough all the way? Do you get hypnotized by appearances, or can you see an act a mile away?

Now if the shoe doesnt fit, dont try it on. Thisrant is only pertaining to court jesters (of both genders) who think that just because they may be blessed with beauty or a 'good' body (ha!) that they deserve the whole package.

Imperial · (#2 (**permalink**))

^What she said...

DSP · (#3 (**permalink**))

Thistheatre is empty at the moment, but I'm expecting it to get packed soon.

Imperial · (#4 (**permalink**))

Doesn't matter who she is.

If she has enough sense to make this post then it's all good.

newstyle · (#5 (**permalink**))

You mean "A sense of humour" really can't get you a woman!bighairlol

HatHaruhotep · (#6 (**permalink**))

LOL! You are right, we need to be more honest with ourselves and more realistic...

When you take your time, sit down, and write out a list of all the things you want in a mate...they're too good for you. Most of us have our own issues we still need to work on and shouldn't be expecting perfection from others. Definately be more realistic.

Peacemaker · (#7 (**permalink**))

Beauty
Grace
Confidence without being conceited
A career
Morals
Extraordinary culinary skills
Patience (LOTS of it)
Virtue
Intelligence (not sure about that one, some men seem intimidated by this)
and last but definately not least, a 'banging body'

Hell, if I had to go though all that bollocks to find a wife, I'd of had an arranged marriage or at least joined the Moonies.

You'd think considering that there's over 6 billion people on the planet and growing that finding a wife or husband would be the easiest thing to achieve in life.

Why has it suddenly become all so complicated?

Even the peasants in society can manage it without too much stress.

Bstuy · (#8 (**permalink**))

Black_power wrote:

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well the question what you should be asking is are YOU a queen?

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Did you mean to say "well, the question that you should be asking is if YOU are a queen?"

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I'm not picking, but i'm drunk and I have a hard enough time trying to figure out simple english. I need sentences to be written with proper grammar to understand them. But-- good question. I try not to be vain, so I havent really ever asked that of myself. What OTHER people have told me is irrelevent. I know that I am a woman, and a lady unless the situation calls for a more, err, 'authoritive' personification.

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Now,may I ask a question?Are you a king?

Bstuy · (#9 (**permalink**))

Peacemaker wrote:

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Beauty
Grace
Confidence without being conceited
A career
Morals
Extraordinary culinary skills
Patience (LOTS of it)
Virtue
Intelligence (not sure about that one, some men seem intimidated by this)
and last but definately not least, a 'banging body'

Hell, if I had to go though all that bollocks to find a wife, I'd of had an arranged marriage or at least joined the Moonies.

You'd think considering that there's over 6 billion people on the planet and growing that finding a wife or husband would be the easiest thing to achieve in life.

Why has it suddenly become all so complicated?

Even the peasants in society can manage it without too much stress.

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What bollocks? I thought that was a pretty frank list of qualities that most men wanted in a woman. You dont want looks, morals, intelligence, patience, etc.? I'm just repeating what I have heard other men say as well as comparing that to what women ideally want.

I'm open to listing other qualities, or cutting down on the list, but I'm really not sure what your trying to say.

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Yes, there are 6-7 billion peopleon earth(um, I think I mentioned that in another thread, but whatever) but what does that have to do with quality? There is definately a shortage of quality people, dont you agree?

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The question wasnt if you could land a mate. The question was of themajorqualities of the opposite sex, settling, and self examination.

Bstuy · (#10 (**permalink**))

newstyle wrote:

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You mean "A sense of humour" really can't get you a woman!bighairlol

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Lol! Was that directed at me? Actually, a sense of humour is a great thing! I'm sorry thatI left that one off.

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But seriously guys, newstyle has something going here; I think a man with a greatsense of humourcould DEFINATELY get a woman with many if not all of those qualities. He'd just have to be funny 99.99999% of the time.

Bstuy · (#11 (**permalink**))

Also, is anyone going to address the question I asked? How to ladies and gentlemen deal with the endless onslaught of jokers who can see a good thing? Like i said before, "if the shoe doesnt fit, dont try it on"...

Incognito · (#12 (**permalink**))

Court jester or King, the male ego is still the male ego - it's like an erect penis, it has no conscience!!