Where did you meet your man?

Monique · (#1 (**permalink**))

Hiya,

As a wannabe romantic novelist I’m always interested in hearing where people first met their partners and was it love at first sight. So where did you first meet your lovely man? And were there violins or did love develop much later?

Also, as a single woman I’m always keen to know where are the best places to meet a new partner. A few friends of mine met their boyfriends in nightclubs, but I always think to myself, can you really meet your future husband in a noisy discotheque? And I’m anti the workplace as I’d hate to be the subject of office gossip.

As wedding season approaches, are any of you sistas walking down the aisle this summer? If so, how are the preparations going?

Not many women in my family are married and I’ve found this to be the case for many black families. I can’t remember the last time I went to black wedding. Do you think there is a true lack of marriage in our community? Or are you one of the ones that are lucky enough to have ‘nuff invites filtering through your letterbox year on year? Nothing beats a good ole wedding after all!

Regards

Monique

Abissinia · (#2 (**permalink**))

I amat that stage of my life where everyone i know seem to be either preparing to get married or are already married and having babies

. So far this year two of my friends (both married) have had babies, I havea wedding to go to next month and they are both only 25 i mean jeeez and more to come over the summer.Right now i feel like everything and everyone is moving way too fast rather than the other way around.

To answer your other question, i met my first boyfriend in Iceland (the supermarket) fruit and veg section to be exact.I metone of my good friends who i've known forever at an interview

, the lady who was meant to do the interview was of sick so he replaced her and that's how we meet, and up until two years ago we were tight, and we still are it's just a bit strange now for many reasons which i won't go into.

Point is you can meet people anywhere, even in clubs

and bars. As long as you are out there doing what you enjoy and not sitting at home watching eastendersin your pj's day in and day out then you are bound to find someone who's also into the same things as you and providingone or both aren'tshy orhaveissues with self esteem and stuff then well you get my point i hope.

Adeola · (#3 (**permalink**))

I'm in the same boat as Abs. All my friends are getting engaged, getting married having babies, cohabiting... and whatever else it is we are 'supposed to do'.

I met my ex-boyfriend at university and I know what you mean about gossip, because eveybody knew me; whether I knew them or not. Whatever happened in the relationship was hot gossip for everyone - if we had an argument everyone knew etc etc. I went university in a small town, so a lot of the students hung out together, it was a very tight community. So for me, workplace is a no-no.

I feel the same though, because I'm single right now and my single friends [although there's not many single ones left] and I moan all day and everyday about being single. However,I don't see myself getting out of this situation, because I am probably one of the laziest people I've ever met. one of my favourite phrasesis "can't be bothered". I can never be bothered to do anything. Meanng, I stay at home watching every soap ever made.

I don't like the idea of meeting guys in clubs, because I associate certain things with that - but I really think I need to lighten up a bit, on the way I view things.

Time is ticking away and I'm not getting any younger.

Abissinia · (#4 (**permalink**))

LOL @ the ticking clock adeola, sis you are still 23-24 no? i've also seen your pics so it has to be either you are too picky or are coming across as too deseprate which is very unattractive (sorry to be blunt) to majority men. You are young, pretty, and Nigerian and there is no shortage of Nigerian men so what's the problem?

midwestgirl · (#5 (**permalink**))

I will be celebrating my 6th anniversary this June

I met my man at the house we now live in together..He owned his own home before we met and after we married, I moved in with him.....My husbands nephew and his girlfriend called me one Friday night, ( I was still in high- school) and asked me if I wanted to hang out with them the next day at his uncles house in a town not far from where I grew up ( Gary, Indiana).........I said sure why not...

We hung out the next day playing cards, watching movies, listening to music...ect) When the three of us were about to leave, my husband asked if he could talk to me alone in the kitchen... He asked me if I had a good time and told me if I would like to come to back and chill anytime, I was more than welcome.

I thought he was sweet, well mannered, and he was a home owner, so needless to say, he had his priorities in line....That next month, May to be exact, I had just turned 17; school was almost out for the year so my dad and I went to Maryland to visit one of my brothers...I was gone for 2 weeks and when I came back, my mama said there was some guy that kept calling the house looking for me, that hewas very well spoken and polite so I should call him back...... I had to jump through a few hoops to get his phone number cause it had been changed since we last saw each other, my mom never got his new number, and we were the last family on earth to get Caller I.D...........LOL........My husband found out through his mother that I had been looking for him, and one lazy summer day the phone rang and it was him...Not love at first sight for me, but he made quite an impression on me and vice versa.....The next day he picked me up for our first real date..... and the rest is history.....

We dated for three years before we got married. We had a Vegas wedding and saved a shyt load of money!!!! I think we have lasted cause we were friends first, then lovers......... He's my best friend!!!!!!!!niceone.gifPS, THERE IS NO BEST PLACE TO MEET A MAN......JUST GO WITH THE FLOW... AND REMEMBER, DON'T EVER SAY, "HE'S NOT MY TYPE" ......My husband was not the kind of guy I usually went for..... and if I had said: "Sorry you're not my type", I would not have this loving black man in my life!!!!!

Adeola · (#6 (**permalink**))

Abissinia wrote:

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LOL @ the ticking clock adeola, sis you are still 23-24 no? i've also seen your pics so it has to be either you are too picky or are coming across as too deseprate which is very unattractive (sorry to be blunt) to majority men. You are young, pretty, and Nigerian and there is no shortage of Nigerian men so what's the problem?

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I'm supposed to be picky, according to my friends. However,I do have to agree. But time is till ticking. BeforeI know it, I'll be 25!!!!!!

Soulstarr · (#7 (**permalink**))

I met my boyfriend at Uni. We're on the same course and hit it off from day one.We were friends for a year before things developed between usfor a number ofreasons. I was in a relationship when we met andhestarted one a week after we met. Even after our relationships ended, I don't think either of us were looking for somethingnew, andwhen we were,it hadntcrossed our minds to consider eachother until our second year at uni. We were just such good friends and never saw eachother in that way but we were REALLY tite. Got to the point where you never saw one without theother! In year twoafter months ofdancing around the subject with all the "does he? Doesn't She?" foolishness we finallygot our acts together.

A year and a half later, he's still my bestest friend ever only much much more.

Abissinia · (#8 (**permalink**))

Soulstarr wrote:

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I met my boyfriend at Uni. We're on the same course and hit it off from day one.We were friends for a year before things developed between usfor a number ofreasons. I was in a relationship when we met andhestarted one a week after we met. Even after our relationships ended, I don't think either of us were looking for somethingnew, andwhen we were,it hadntcrossed our minds to consider eachother until our second year at uni. We were just such good friends and never saw eachother in that way but we were REALLY tite. Got to the point where you never saw one without theother! In year twoafter months ofdancing around the subject with all the "does he? Doesn't She?" foolishness we finallygot our acts together.

A year and a half later, he's still my bestest friend ever only much much more.

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This is so cute it's making me want to

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Just kidding, how are you anyway?

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@Adeola be as picky as you need to be sis, you are not even 25 yet, sothe person you pick (hopefully) will be for the rest of your life that's at least 50 years which is very, very, very, very, veeeeeeeeeeeeeery

long time. And last thing you want is to spend it with a person you don't like or just about tolerate.

Soulstarr · (#9 (**permalink**))

Abissinia wrote:

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I met my boyfriend at Uni. We're on the same course and hit it off from day one.We were friends for a year before things developed between usfor a number ofreasons. I was in a relationship when we met andhestarted one a week after we met. Even after our relationships ended, I don't think either of us were looking for somethingnew, andwhen we were,it hadntcrossed our minds to consider eachother until our second year at uni. We were just such good friends and never saw eachother in that way but we were REALLY tite. Got to the point where you never saw one without theother! In year twoafter months ofdancing around the subject with all the "does he? Doesn't She?" foolishness we finallygot our acts together.

A year and a half later, he's still my bestest friend ever only much much more.

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This is so cute it's making me want to

bighairlolyou'de be surprised how often we get that reaction lmao!

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Just kidding, how are you anyway?

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I'm just fine sis. Working my butt off but you know how it is. How are you?

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@Adeola be as picky as you need to be sis, you are not even 25 yet, sothe person you pick (hopefully) will be for the rest of your life that's at least 50 years which is very, very, very, very, veeeeeeeeeeeeeery

long time. And last thing you want is to spend it with a person you don't like or just about tolerate.

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Ain't a damn thing wrong with having high standards if you ask me!

Kunjufu · (#10 (**permalink**))

Is this just for women or can the men join in too..by telling how they first met their partners?

bubz · (#11 (**permalink**))

Soulstarr wrote:

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We were just such good friends and never saw eachother in that way but we were REALLY tite.

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so there was no sexual attraction between you at all before the 2nd yr???