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14-05-06, 04:38 PM
Why do I always fall for guys who are such big flirts? There must be something that I look for in them but I just dont get it. For instance I like this guy at the mo who is a totall flirt, he flirts with all the girls yet i still cant get over him. I get so jealous when I see him flirting as he does the same to me but I dont think hes really intrested in me at all. Ah!!!!!! How dya get ova a guy like that?
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14-05-06, 09:30 PM
Sometimes flirting= confidence so maybe thats they you fell for him.
Can't blame a guy for flirting if he's free as a bird!
The way to get over him is to tell him how you feel.
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16-05-06, 03:26 AM
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Maybe you like the attention he gives you or maybe he could have a hankering over you you never know. But to me if a guy is interested in you, he'll probably keep doing such until he can finally get to know you as a person. Another thing about some guys like him is that they can feel you. He may sense that your jealously of him and he could be flirting because he likes that idea of you being jealous over him. If it's bothering you that bad, try getting in a natural conversation( When I mean natural, I mean not making your conversaation appear to seem like you're coming on to him) with him and see if you can get something out of him that way.
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16-05-06, 09:33 PM
Yeah maybe he is does like the feeling of me getting jealous, I dont know. Ive been chatting naturaly to him, didnt help that I spilt tea over one of his favourite books, lol. Though he was alright about it, I said Id buy him a new one. The thing is, I dont want to be used if ya get what I mean, so me doing stuff for him because i like him and him using his flirting as a way. Dya get what I mean? Im not gud at explaining stuff. Lol. We get on well talking natural. Thouugh the girl hes been flirting with really badly, seems to fit him really well as they ae both sporty people etc. And im not really that atheletic but in other things we get on really well amd have the same intrests.
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17-05-06, 12:40 PM
Sorry but you are so kidding yourself if you think men are that complicated. Try and ask anyone of the men on BN about giving out mixed messages to a woman they really like....they don’t sorry.
We (women) know that but still we try to figure them out, like if there is anything to figure out lol. Btw, this is in no way a diss to men but to say that they are straight forward when it comes to telling/showing attraction…. “IF� they are indeed attracted to you and I don’t mean the “I can hit that� type of attraction either.
We are the once who tries to make them out to be some complicated creatures, they are not and you know and everyone who has responded so far with "Maybe he likes you, may be he doesn't" know that to be true as well. Wasting your time thinking up scenarios as to why he hasn’t stepped up is just for the benefit of you, because you ain’t kidding anyone else.
The truth is that if he was into you, you would have known about it already. There is like 1 in a million chance that a man who is really attracted to you will continue to just flirt when especially he is aware you are receptive to him already.
I haven’t read it myself but may I recommend the book “HE’S JUST NOT THAT IN TO YOU�.
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Sorry but you are so kidding yourself if you think men are that complicated. Try and ask anyone of the men on BN about giving out mixed messages to a woman they really like....they don’t sorry.
We (women) know that but still we try to figure them out, like if there is anything to figure out lol. Btw, this is in no way a diss to men but to say that they are straight forward when it comes to telling/showing attraction…. “IF� they are indeed attracted to you and I don’t mean the “I can hit that� type of attraction either.
We are the once who tries to make them out to be some complicated creatures, they are not and you know and everyone who has responded so far with "Maybe he likes you, may be he doesn't" know that to be true as well. Wasting your time thinking up scenarios as to why he hasn’t stepped up is just for the benefit of you, because you ain’t kidding anyone else.
The truth is that if he was into you, you would have known about it already. There is like 1 in a million chance that a man who is really attracted to you will continue to just flirt when especially he is aware you are receptive to him already.
I haven’t read it myself but may I recommend the book “HE’S JUST NOT THAT IN TO YOU�.
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I do agree with you Abissinia. Men are not that complicated. We as women just make them out to be that way.
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If he was into you, you would not be here asking our views he would have made his intentions pretty clear. Men are not shy when it comes to telling a woman how they feel. Even the ones who know they will be rejected by the woman he has fallen for will try and let that woman know that he is interested.
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I think he is just playing with you. Be careful and keep you head screwed on.
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Yeah maybe he is does like the feeling of me getting jealous, I dont know. Ive been chatting naturaly to him, didnt help that I spilt tea over one of his favourite books, lol. Though he was alright about it, I said Id buy him a new one. The thing is, I dont want to be used if ya get what I mean, so me doing stuff for him because i like him and him using his flirting as a way. Dya get what I mean? Im not gud at explaining stuff. Lol. We get on well talking natural. Thouugh the girl hes been flirting with really badly, seems to fit him really well as they ae both sporty people etc. And im not really that atheletic but in other things we get on really well amd have the same intrests.
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Get over yourself! The man is NOT into you. I could have said he ins't THAT into you, but i used the straight NOT into you because i don't even think he could be into you in any level whatsoever.
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Gosh the way some women speak is like men are these Gods who we must waste sleep over trying to "unravel" their misteries....lol
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Stop playing this silly game because you come across as sensitive and before long you'll get your heart all broken up. Games are for the rare Sam Jones of SATC types...not mere mortals like you and me who actually have FEELINGS!
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Yeah maybe he is does like the feeling of me getting jealous, I dont know. Ive been chatting naturaly to him, didnt help that I spilt tea over one of his favourite books, lol. Though he was alright about it, I said Id buy him a new one. The thing is, I dont want to be used if ya get what I mean, so me doing stuff for him because i like him and him using his flirting as a way. Dya get what I mean? Im not gud at explaining stuff. Lol. We get on well talking natural. Thouugh the girl hes been flirting with really badly, seems to fit him really well as they ae both sporty people etc. And im not really that atheletic but in other things we get on really well amd have the same intrests.
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Get over yourself! The man is NOT into you. I could have said he ins't THAT into you, but i used the straight NOT into you because i don't even think he could be into you in any level whatsoever.
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Gosh the way some women speak is like men are these Gods who we must waste sleep over trying to "unravel" their misteries....lol
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Stop playing this silly game because you come across as sensitive and before long you'll get your heart all broken up. Games are for the rare Sam Jones of SATC types...not mere mortals like you and me who actually have FEELINGS!
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Stop beating around the bush, and tell us how u really feel, Mez
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Sorry but you are so kidding yourself if you think men are that complicated. Try and ask anyone of the men on BN about giving out mixed messages to a woman they really like....they don’t sorry.
We (women) know that but still we try to figure them out, like if there is anything to figure out lol. Btw, this is in no way a diss to men but to say that they are straight forward when it comes to telling/showing attraction…. “IF� they are indeed attracted to you and I don’t mean the “I can hit that� type of attraction either.
We are the once who tries to make them out to be some complicated creatures, they are not and you know and everyone who has responded so far with "Maybe he likes you, may be he doesn't" know that to be true as well. Wasting your time thinking up scenarios as to why he hasn’t stepped up is just for the benefit of you, because you ain’t kidding anyone else.
The truth is that if he was into you, you would have known about it already. There is like 1 in a million chance that a man who is really attracted to you will continue to just flirt when especially he is aware you are receptive to him already.
I haven’t read it myself but may I recommend the book “HE’S JUST NOT THAT IN TO YOU�.
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You know sometimes we really do need that wake up call. What you've just said is something that even I'm starting to come to terms with myself, and usually, I'm a pretty sensible person. We women can sometimes be too delusional. We'll make something out of nothing. But really, if nothing else, then for your own self-preservation, you really need to learn to put your ego aside and realize that the person just isn't on the same page as you.
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A friend of mine got that book for one ofmy bestfriendson her birthday. She was, understandably, a little upset when she opened thepresent.Lol. Three months later, however, she comes and tells me that the bookhas really helped her. Lol.Well, what do you know, sometimes we just need to learn to face the harsh reality.
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Get over yourself! The man is NOT into you. I could have said he ins't THAT into you, but i used the straight NOT into you because i don't even think he could be into you in any level whatsoever.
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Stop playing this silly game because you come across as sensitive and before long you'll get your heart all broken up. Games are for the rare Sam Jones of SATC types...not mere mortals like you and me who actually have FEELINGS!
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Stop beating around the bush, and tell us how u really feel, Mez
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PS: Sorry for the late reply, been busy lately.
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Why do I always fall for guys who are such big flirts? There must be something that I look for in them but I just dont get it. For instance I like this guy at the mo who is a totall flirt, he flirts with all the girls yet i still cant get over him. I get so jealous when I see him flirting as he does the same to me but I dont think hes really intrested in me at all. Ah!!!!!! How dya get ova a guy like that?
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anni*, flirts know how to make other people feel good, that is what flirting is, so its no surprise you are attracted to this guy or other guys like this.
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you say he flirts with everybody and this makes you jealous, its hard not to feel like that when someone you fancy does this. maybe if you and him were to develop a friendship you would feel better knowing that even though he flirts with everyone, you have a personal friendship with him that everyone does not have. if you got to know him then maybe you would find that you dont even fancy him really, after all.
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if you get to know him better you might find that you both end upliking each other as you dont know for sure that in time, after becoming friends first, that something else may not develop. it is not unheard of for a flirtation between two people to turn into something more after a long time. of course it all depends on if both the people want that too - but time will tell. this might be just a little crush that will run its course soon.
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another thing to think about is even if you did somehow get together, how would you cope being in a relationship with such a big flirt?? if you are jealous now, how badwould you be if you were actually in a relationship with him? flirts dont usually ever stop flirting completely, evenwhen they are in relationships because often the flirting is such a big part of their character/personality.
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