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Default 11-07-07, 02:43 AM

astmartins - well there are two boys in the middle so the last thing it will ever be is funny but I get your drift which falls in line with one of my top ten philosophies of never losing your sense of humour...once that's gone you are finished.

But yeah, my boys will be fine...it only looks worse than it is because of the standards I set out on....indeed many things that were adverse to my consciousness would be seen as normal by the majority. The breed the ex comes from, I'd say this was almost the expected. Just baffles me into why these babymothers with their cosmopolitan Eurocentric hidden agendas chose hard working African males to hustle

I remember her telling me to pretend the marriage isn't there...it was like anything but put her through the embarrassment of a divorce...so yeah it's all about saving face now and the enemies took the opportunity to bail out as my values kept exposing them as the amoral hypocrites they are. This was conducted by one particular African who used to post here. As an African militant with babymothers, he just couldn't defend the virtue of marriage and children being born in wedlock and had this grey boy interpretation that cross referenced social values with how many degrees your children will get......saying wedlock doesn't mean anything and marriage is for greys. Guess this is a typical impression to those academically challenged. He's married now though...I even went to the wedding

Another irony was other than her mother, the ex wife wouldn't tell any of her blood family what was happening...instead she sought sanity amongst my enemies who she had down as my bona fide bredrins not really appreciating certain threads holding our brotherhood together. I have a reputaion of being zany in an eccentric kind of way so altogether they've dug into my past and come up with a collection of anecdotals to pass me off as a mad man. Values eh

I must say though, when those the African militant bought out took her side of the story based on the things I was saying, she almost took satisfaction in knowing they had turned agaisnt me saying how comes she can pick up the phone and ring them and I can't...and they're supposed to be my bona fide brothas....it's as if she actually orchestrated the whole thing.

The reality is she can only sell me out to my enemies, the oppressive system and the jealous...the real joke about the bredrins is if I was in it for the money, me and them would have fallen out years ago - they wouldn't have been able to afford my friendship - but as one bredrin put it, he doesn't make judgements on no hearsay thing so those who jumped the wagon simply heard what they wanted to hear - my true bredrins will hear it from me.

I believe the African militant went as far as providing internet links as evidence. At least he no longer has to suffer the humiliation of trying to follow my lead. African militant?...that dudes an African bubu!

Still it's all good...as far as my values are concerned that whole lot was like carrying excess baggage...too many money monkies and greys on breadline britain masquerading as Africans

Still too much eastender business for me so can't wait to resume my life. In the meantime I'll provide some light entertainment here. I find generally that I don't feel no way to talk about many things because I'm defending something much more meaningful...principles so it's no big deal appaesing the big brotha audience....it makes them feel good about their own lives

Where a mission goes pear shaped, guaranteed money and/or a woman is involved in the equation somewhere but more and more it's simply hypocrites defending amorality - so no worries...jah jah guide!

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True you did retain your sense of humour in all this and that was quite an open and frank assessment of things that went down including third unwarranted parties you always get them can't wait to see one turn on his nose but its their insecurity itching at them.You stay strong brotha
Sistas might be surprised to hear this but they seem to be asking too much of us while not reciprocating .Some of the so called graduates are the worse culprits why did they bother getting those degrees just to buy versace shades and jimmy choo shoes essentially a bubble head you not educated at all i know sistas without degrees who are very much clued up..Sorry we not bothered about Eastenders,BB and all the inconsequential crap we have pending issues and looking for solutions such as Africa systematically being dessimated with AIDS ,fighting the colonialist strategy of putting Elites in power who would rather fatten their pocket than see the country and the population develop we have disturbing numbers of black men in the US and UK killing each or incarcerated.Yes we have a sense of humour and can party but after all that we still wake up to our reality.
I hate it when some sistas say but things are better now we all have nice jobs oh if Nelson Mandela and hes mates had said the same thing would South Africa be free?
Its a damn shame because the married black woman is the foundation of everything in the black family however women nowadays are oblivious to this very important role.
As someone once said could have been you with women their feminism comes before any Black solidarity.
And before some women carry on its about you and your pro black intellectually sound brotha not those fraudsters and wanna be gangstas you tend to go for.
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Women, please, if you are only interested in a man's money, date a white guy, they have loads more than us, don't hustle your hard working brothas, we have it hard enough.
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Default 03-08-07, 07:29 PM

.1 Is it possible to have a truble free relationship/marriage with no arguements or problems? I don't think so, disagreements are healthy.

Q.2. On average how many arguments do you and your partner have per month?
Maybe 1-2 a month. Minor arguments tho....major ones maybe one a year.

Q.3. What did you do to cope with or get over a crisis in your relationship?
Communication and compromise.

Q.4. How long did your longest relationship last?
4 years and counting


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DW - I know of at least 3 brothas who tell me up front them and their wives just don't argue - one couple I know both have been about a bit so been there done that nothing new to argue about and one have been together from day dot, both each others first love.

Also watch out for jealous and envious people, many friends and family have played roles in the downfall of relationships.
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Default 11-08-07, 12:52 AM

Q.1 Is it possible to have a trouble free relationship/marriage with no arguments or problems?

Q.2. On average how many arguments do you and your partner have per month?

Q.3. What did you do to cope with or get over a crisis in your relationship?

Q.4. How long did your longest relationship last?


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