When choosing a soulmate whats really important to you? Is it just a certain thing he has? or do you look for certain attributes, like gleaming white teeth or a brother with a bad ass paycheck? Are good looks real important to you or is it jus the way he look at you when the lights r down low? What things do you really need in a man?

Whats really important would depend on what stage you are at in your life. Its never as clear cut as "soul mate"(whatever that means)

You could consider someone your soul mate today and later on in life, when your needs and direction in life change, that same person could actually become a hindrance to you moving on. what i am trying to say is, whats important in relationships can change, because people change.....so the question is at most redundant. Although, being the romantic that i am, i have always ignored the above common sense tings.....lol

Oh by the way Lullaby, do you realy think women actually look for white teeth or big paycheck as "soul mate" category??

Oh by the way Lullaby, do you realy think women actually look for white teeth or big paycheck as "soul mate" category??


Not me.....some might

At the moment i woudl say that i look for somebody who makes me laugh, challenges me thus allowing me to grow. Somebody who likes to share with me and is willing to let me be a part of his life. Also someone with ambition, but not on the couch ambition and someone who i can see us growing together becuase we have similar wants out of life.

We need to have a coomon ground of spirituality, morals and values with the same thoughts on family.

Also we must be physically attracted to each other.

White teeth, fat pay-checks he may well have but lets face it, men aren't easy to understand are they?. And when you find a good man, he doesn't come with an instruction manual.
I know women who will decide whether or not they should put energy into building a relationship with a man based on physical attraction alone. Yes, attraction is important. But it can also be dangerous. When you feel a strong sense of attraction for someone, it can cause you to override our logic and ignore our instincts... leading us to overlook potential partner's deadly faults that could spell trouble down the road.
Also, many of us make the mistake of thinking that men are primarily driven by sex alone... and think if we can attract a man sexually we will be able to attract him emotionally as well. We too often give up sex to a man in the hopes that it will translate into a relationship and get us what we want. In reality, a man has the capacity to view a sexual connection and an emotional connection as two entirely different things, and it requires a special set of skills to mould these two things together in a man's mind... and keep them connected.
If you find yourself stuck in a relationship that is dragging you down, this is probably why. It's important to be able to size a guy up early and spot any warning signs of a future bad relationship fast... so you don't waste any of your time or emotional energy on someone who isn't right for you... or who will leave you heartbroken. unfortunately this' is not always an easy thing to do.

Talk to his Mother. You would get an idea of what he is like.
Talk to his Father, you would know what type of discipline he has and what is character is likely to be.
Talk to him, observe his character and everything else, take note. Then try the same thing after 3 months, if you spot any changes, Run.

Make sure he is Himself.
Make sure you know him.

@Hurricane; I'M STILL RUNNING !