this thread was sparked by a comment made by alicia keys. she says that a woman should always wait one year before sleeping with a man. personally, i think this is extremely unrealistic. ladies in your opinion- how long should a woman wait before sleeping with a man? if you are in a relationship or married- how long did you wait before giving up the goodies?

interesting question....look forward to the responses...

to each her own i reckon, we all grown and can do as we please. Personally I don't believe in all these gender double standards i think its bull crap, women are just as sexual as men are. BUT as the same time must not be dumbstruck to the games some men play, as long as both sides are reading the same page in terms of where the encounter is leading to and what is expected after then its all good.
Me myself am prone for waiting to get to know each other first, I personally think sex shouldnt just be random and casual FOR ME especialy if looking for something more meaningful then lust, but I have no problem with women who enjoy having sex and choose to go get it.
I'd be suprised to hear of a man who would wait around for a year, that fool would probably be fukking out on the side anyway.
I think alot of this rests on how you were raised, I was raised in a God fearing home so that has shaped me, but in todays world it hardly matters men and women are both sexually motivated, now if men and women were more honest we'd be getting somewhere

If it was purely about sex then to be honest I wouldnt be waiting long at all, but that was in my younger years and had many different reasons for acting like this.....

Now Im looking for seriousness so would make him wait for as long as possible maybe about 4 months as I would like to get to know him and in that time I think you can suss someones motives out.
Also if I did give him something then find out he was a prick I would feel upset that I gave him a part of myself that he didnt deserve.

But a year!!lol That really is funny and coming from someone who sexuality is questionable is even more funny, so I guessing it would be easy for her to wait a year as she not even attracted to men anyway!! Yeah I said it and what...

I can see why people wouldn't want to wait that long but Alicia has a point. It does seem like a good tactic to lose the guys who are fronting and only wanting a 'conquest'.

I'll suggest a slightly different approach - tell dem one year but if all seems to be good, give it up after six months. What kind of playa is going to hang around for six months without some action?

Waiting a whole year wtf....Im not one of those '**** on sight' type of fellas but if you're telling me I have to wait over 365 days for nookie then you know what......seeeeeeee Ya!!! For all the man knows when she's ready she'll probably freeze up and say she can't do it cos of whatever reason.

A whole year.....honestly.....

Lol..the way some women go on about sex, one would think it was only for the man......they are just OFFERING sex when he is READY, not when they(the women) are ready. No wonder some men walk around thinking women's entire worth is based on wheither she bag a man and keep.

So Miss Keys waited a year to shag her MUCH older boyfriend(i believe they work together as well or something like that). Some might say whats the point? After all, the OLDER dude has been there and done with God knows how many....he probably waited because he had NO other options since he was past it already......you can wait a year or a day, at the end of the day, it's about what both of you know what you are doing, then who cares? Too much importance is given to sex, instead of concentrating on MORE important things like characters etc. Do these women or men(heehee) think that witholding sex somehow BRING out the best in anybody?

I remember watching a Law&order episode about a peodophile who abused his girlfriend's daughter....anyway, when the detective interviewed the mother, she said she thought he was the most perfect gentleman. He wouldn't even initiate sex until she was ready....FIVE months later. And the icing on the cake? He had started abusing the child withing THREE months of them getting together. See....bad men are bad men, even if they wait for you for months.

i was raised in a christian household and taught to wait until marriage and pray when temptation comes. i swayed from it as the years went on and have you ever tried holding out? its fukking hard!

i wasnt a virgin before i met my current boyfriend and the average i had waited with previous boyfriends (who were serious) is about 2-4 months. with my current boyfriend i didnt give up the goods for about 2-3 months, he said that was the longest he ever waited! we are still together it'll be two years in november.

i dont really think you can put a time on it, i think just dont let anyone force you into it if you're not ready. and if its obvious that all he wants is s*x then you'll know.

in hindsight i would have waited until i got married knowing what i know as i dont think you can ever truly know a person until you are married to them, as failed relationships have shown. the thing is intimacy is part of the connection you make with your partner, so even if you are holding hands, hugging or kissing you are bound to get horny!

For me there is no such thing as casual sex. I know myself and will freely admit I catch feelings quickly. That is why I take my time. I don't have a set rule, but I think a year is a bit too long.

My Husband Was Supposed To Be A One-night-stand!!!enough Said!!!!