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Sistahs:BIG WEDDING VS NEW HOME -
21-03-08, 05:50 AM
Me and my current girlfriend was discussing my parents relationship and i started telling her how my mother wanted to get married at city hall to avoid wasting money on a wedding and spend the money instead for a new home.
My girlfriend said majority of women would choose the new home but would really want and desire the big wedding(btw my girlfriend said the wedding)i disagreed with her, but i thought I'd get some other women take on it.
So sistahs which is it for you, the big wedding or a new home?
A people without the knowledge of their past history, origin and culture is like a tree without roots.
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22-03-08, 09:25 AM
new home deffinately
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22-03-08, 11:53 AM
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Originally Posted by Soulstarr
new home deffinately
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I have to say that i really don't get people spending tens of thousands on a single event at the expense of the family home..to me that don't make sense .... Surely for the marriage to last a solid home is more important than the wedding day itself...
African heart, African mind
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22-03-08, 09:48 PM
Fart question.
New home, and if your new spouse wants a wedding that costs £18,000 I'd question how shallow they are!
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23-03-08, 12:17 AM
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Originally Posted by Vezz.
Fart question.
New home, and if your new spouse wants a wedding that costs £18,000 I'd question how shallow they are!
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Lol, i never heard of fart question before.
The reason i asked was because she had made a big deal about it,so i don't know why but i felt it would be important to other people as well lol.
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23-03-08, 01:59 AM
The big wedding wins everytime, that way women get to shine their teeth and get legal rights to the new house when it eventually comes...the latter is the mind behind the former 
Their knives and their guns could not hold me, their drinks and their drugs could not control me, their education could not school me, their religion could not fool me, their women could never tempt me
their politicians could never rent me, but the babylon daughter still got my pikney!
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23-03-08, 02:09 AM
I say get your new home first. You need a roof over your head before you can marry and settle down.
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28-03-08, 02:03 PM
new home especially in this climate
Think outside of the box...Think in spirit
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28-03-08, 03:17 PM
No contest......new home.
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28-03-08, 09:38 PM
New house, or in my case a house.
I've already been saving for two years for one so anything that will set me back like a large wedding would is out of the question.
I plan on getting married at my reception. It shouldn't cost more than a decent-sized dinner party and there will be as much home-cooked food as possible...and definitely does not have to be 100+ people. Some people get carried away. I just couldn't justify spending that much money, and on other people too! I know the wedding gifts won't be enough to cover that bill.
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28-03-08, 10:30 PM
I told my wife we weren't having no cinderella type wedding because I'm bumboclaat bruk. If I had my way I would have got married in jeans and trainers down the road from my yard.
Marriage is more important than a wedding. To hell with all the needless hoopla.
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28-03-08, 11:19 PM
Hakeem, did you and your wife have a traditional African type wedding?
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29-03-08, 12:37 AM
In an ideal world I guess most people would want both - I was never one for being the centre of attention in large crowds + didnt see the point of spending so much money on people relatives you rarely see; so we decided to spend the money we would have spent on a big wedding on a smaller wedding in JA, with close family & friends then travelling around Africa for a few weeks - where we got our marriage blessed - the bigger house came a couple yrs later...
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26-04-08, 09:26 PM
100% new home.... infact it's settled already and we are in the process of buying a new home...... close friends and family only for the nuptials next summer.
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