O.k. Some of you guys already read about my sucky relationship with my father, well not only does he suck but that side of my family sucks big time. they are pure evil. one of my uncles died last night. I cried hard for a breif second, and it was more for confusion than anything else. That family does not talk to my family for over 10 years now, and my grandmother just recently stopped too. All of this is for no reason what's so ever but jealosy. We used to be so close as kids me, my, sister, and cousins. They have always stole from us, picked on us, and their mother tried to have a brawl with my mom for no reason. My aunt is a witch, a family secret had been let out a few years ago, some of my cousins were molested by their father, who had died when they were kids. Each and every one of those people in that family has had events, birthdays, and everything without including my immediate family. I question if i should go anywhere where they are around, even if it is a funeral. The uncle that died did not speak to us either. I cant explain the half of how I feel about this family. They are like total strangers. EVIL ONES. I hope too many of you guys dont say I should go to pay my respects, i can do that at home wth God.

If anyone or anything is poison, cut them out. Life's too short. I've had to show many emotional/mental vampires the cross (including a few so called family members) because they brought nothing but negative energy my way. It may seem harsh or drastic, but it is what it is. Shit happens. If people can't bring anything positive or fulfilling in your life, why the hell should they be in it?

sounds like you're asking whether you should go when you already know you are not invited. You've been hard on yourself already, time to stop swimming against the tide.

I think that this is one of those questions when nobody can tell you what to do. Nobody can tell you if you should go to the funeral or if you should not. Whatever you do i do hope that you make the right decision for yourself.
If i were in the situation i would probably sit on it and think and do what my heart wanted me to do.