Yes I avoid eye contact with men when im walking down the street because too many of them stare in that lustful way. But I also avoid eye contact with women too, sometimes they stare more than guys, I guess the women are either lesbos or trying to look at what your wearing, or how your hair is done. Both sexes urk me when they stare like they stupid. So I avoid eye contact when needed. lol.

Yes. I'm very shy. I don't even like looking around at people in my car at a stop light because they are always looking back!

That and I don't want to give them an excuse to come talk to me. The last thing some men need is encouragement.

haha believe it. I've dropped things if I catch the eye of an attractive man and I'm not keen on being chatted up in public (especially by unattractive fellas). I tend to hide my nervousness sometimes behind bitchiness so I'd rather avoid it all together.
I've gotten better with age and so have the men, but it's the youngins that are bold and will say some bold things to you if you give them the chance.

eta: I'm describing interaction in a street setting...not the clubs or party or anything similar.I'm not nearly as standoffish in social settings.

Hi Sam.
You don't know me, and quite frankly I don't care.

I'm sorry that as a "presumeably" grown man you are yet unaware that PEOPLE in general have preferences. Trust it's not a woman thang...and if you were honest with yourself you would be able to see your reflection in my honesty. You are the one who seems to think highly of himself--who thinks that he is "sooooo special" that he is exempt from the very human characteristic of selectiveness. I don't believe it.

Forgive me if I don't bite my tongue to appease the egos of others when asked SPECIFICALLY for MY honest opinion on something (especially when that "something" questions human nature in which I am extra forthright).
My response was not intended to put myself in a shining light (and I am confused where it would seem so)

Also, if you were able to read my response w/out the veil of bitterness no doubt from rejections gone by you would see that I don't normally prefer to be approached by any man on the street, especially in view of the public. This is not a trait of women...this is mine. I am neurotic in that sense and I know it. I don't like being "hit on" in unprepared circumstances (like on the street...hence my disclaimer) and never have, regardless of the "criminal."
By unattractive I wasn't merely talking about physical looks. Body odor is unattractive. Ignorance and loudness and tackyness is unattractive. Extreme cockiness and a stank personality is unattractive, bad timing is unattractive, insincerity is unattractive.
It's more than looks that make up attractiveness, but you probably had a pre-conceived notion of what you assumed I think is attractive, assessed that you didn't fit this image you fabricated, and because you jumped to the conclusion that I look down my nose at anyone that doesn't fit that image...you took it personally and attacked me for NO DAMN REASON.


And Sam, I hope this doesn't blow your head off your neck but:

It is a fact that most women are less patient being hit on by someone that they are not attracted to.

aaaaaannnnnnnnnnndddddd....
I think the shallowness comes, not from the female going about her business, but from the type of men who would approach her with no prior conversation or interaction with the lady with the intention of getting her number. And conversation to me is not "What's your name? Get I get your # so we can get to know eachother better?" One can only assume that her physical being was the leading influence. So before you go off on the shallowness of women, please know that it goes both ways.
I have never given my number to some strange man off of the street that I never had a conversation with first. Some women do, and there's nothing wrong with that. It is not my nature to do so.

Good question. I know if I'm in a flirtatious mood and looking for someone I will catch the eye of someone I'm attracted to if I know they're looking at me and if I know someone's looking at me from the side that I am not interested in I stare hard in front of me.

a lot of people know they're being watched so if it seems that they are making a conscious effort to avoid your gaze they might be annoyed if one takes further actions. It will feel imposing I guess is what I'm trying to say.

Women are just confusing to me, there have been women who have never made noticeable eye-contact with me who I later found out had huge crushes for me. If I had known, I probably would have approached at least a couple of them, as they seemed somewhat appealing at a distance.

I guess all women are different....

Isn't the bashful fluttery eye'd woman thing supposed to be some kind of come on... you know, the cover my smile and look away thing... the whole ''oh no, he noticed'' bit?

Thought it was a sign of availability, gonna have to fix up my game.

lol. I think THAT's a sure-sign of attraction.
It's the tight-lipped, whip-lash eye aversion, "oh shit, I hope he didn't see me" look you don't want.

anyway, I think Shemsi hit the nail on the head. Women are different. I'm very aloof and suspicious of people in general which is why I've only had one serious relationship...although ironically I knew I wanted my ex before he even knew i existed and it was I who pulled all of the moves.

I tend to turn red (not a good look) I usually try and smile any way...

yep b/c i'm shy