Would you date a man with numerous baby mothers?

cant really say yes or no really
ok to be honest i did go out with a guy who had 2 and my friend dissed me told me off. lol

these days i would have to strongly have a hard think on that

lol - it might take a few before he becomes a man...this will make him attractive to many....not to mention the women who believe they have the goldmine to tame the brotha and see the man as a target to draw card on the babymothers with in a you lot are his babymothers but I'm his wife kind of thing

numerous? like two? so many things to consider. how many baby moms and how many kids. i wanna say no more than 2 or kids and he has to be able to afford them.

baby mama is not synonymous with drama. i won't date ANYONE with drama. i don't keep it and i won't acquire it.

well,is the brotha fine?heh heh,just kidding.

i would not mind if he was serious about our relationship, just as long as he can support them all.(and hope that i wont be added on his list of baby mommas)

lithium-82 - interesting. I've begun to appreciate babymotherism/fatherism is a state of mind so when you say take you serious I'd suggest if he has children already by multiple mothers taking you serious would be no different to any of them i.e. one of his babymothers.

Now your concern of him looking after his kids suggests to me you are of the same babymother mindset, is this what you mean by him being serious i.e. as long as he looked after any children you had - this defines babymotherism to the T and explains why babyfathers will always be attractive to babymothers, the mindset or level of consciousness is the same...or do you expect him to see you as the one who is different.

This stuff about being treated right is also interesting to me. My ex wife didn't love Africa yet expected to be romanced, a gross contradiction if there ever was one. She needed someone who wants her for her looks and maybe someone obsessed and sees women as objects with pussies...many women feel valued that way you see....indeed even my own success rate is relatively high when swelling wpmens head with how they look and with sex as opposed any roots or values they may hold. I've found turning a lobotomised apparently reserved Christian into a sex maniac is a lot easier than the other way around

or do you expect him to see you as the one who is different.

I was thinking about this....another one that thinks she can be the 'ONE'..yep its all in the mindset..like 4 like

different...or god forbid even a wife Babymotherism has been a culture of it's own for a long time now and it's roots come from way down deep in slavery, where history begun - it's a consequence of no culture, an eroded value system, slaves or amongst people who do not trust each other where the need for trust only exists because there is no common culture holding them together.

For the record, I have enough debates with Christians trying to convince them many of their values and beliefs where in place in Africa before the missionary and the slave master re-educated them with the same values and the same beliefs but in the image of their own god.

Dating a man is just that, dating, as long as the ride is good then that will be good enough for many a liberated woman, the amount of babymothers he has is irrelevant, especially if he's managed to carve out a decent career and standard of living as well....indeed the babymothers will probably be more seen as a barometer of how good the ride will be.

Also loneliness is a killer, got all sorts shacking up with all sorts and in cases taking all sorts of abuse as a lesser evil to the evil of loneliness.

This is for the 'afford them/support them' posse. As a non resident/part-time babyfather i.e. part of a fragmented family unit, what do you define as being able to afford and support his children?

If it is more than finance, how do you expect him to do these things if he now has you as the next potential babymother i.e. another expense - if it is just a money monkey thing, is him being a potential date nothing more than his ability to support all his offspring financially as well as your own financial desires, is his pocket worth the cost of the drama from the jealous babymothers?

If class and standards and quality of life is anything to go by then financial affordability is relative so does the babymothers being able to draw on income support help his cause or does he have to be able to finance them through his mini cab driving or does afford mean paying for the mortgage on the childrens house, their school fees, clothes, pocket money and their two yearly holidays abroad - or better still, simply filling the gaps the independent babymother can't fill herself?

No. A man who has numerous and by that I mean even 2 children by different women that he has not married isn't someone I can take seriously. Babymother/Fatherism should be something people are ashamed of. If people were dissed because of this behaviour it would make younger people think twice about following in their footsteps. I've heard people mention their various babymothers/fathers with pride like its a badge of honor showing how fertile they are, when they should be ashamed. Its not even about whether they can afford them, its about their responsibilities and being a fulltime parent to your kids. Next question.

I only deal with 'baby fathers' As I am to old and have my own children to be taking up with a man who doesn't have any... it's not like I'd be giving him any.

But I judge a man not by how many children he as or to how many women. But his relationship with those women and more importantly his relationship with his children.

It is not how many kids or 'baby mothers' a man as, it is how he deals with being a father that counts.

My youngest two's father already had two boys, who have turned out to be great big brothers for my children. They make a point of being involved in my childrens lives...extended family, it's all good.

There is a brother on this site who is always ranting about his 'baby mother' and it appears has a poor relationship with his children because of this....For me that brother would be a No No

Be nice to hear from babyfathers as well as mothers as to what they define as supporting thier children and whether this is based on a concept or rather the experience they had with their own dads i.e. if you never knew yours does support simply mean finance and aquaintence with him or is your defintion defined from a set of grass roots values or a culture...or even common sense.

No. I don't have kids and I would like for him not to have any either.

baby mama drama only happens if the mother is on some young stuff. but im a black man who has a daugther and i lopve her and i wanna be with my daugther's mother but if no progress is being made then i gotta