BNV POST OF THE DAY.

Kunjufu · (#1 (**permalink**))

In companion to Brother Derrick's 'quotes of wisdom' thread.. I have started at the request of a BNV'er a Post of the day Thread.

This will be the home of all the best totally ORIGINAL,well written, well thought out, the funniestand most articulate BNV posts from its members.

For now it will be just read only.. but please feel free to send suggestions to the team, via the PM system..

Kunjufu · (#2 (**permalink**))

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Mezmerized wrote:

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I can see why everyone is pissed off, perhaps a more legitimate question should/would be whether us young Africans(Continental and Diaspora)will not follow in our parents' footstep and be done with European names once and for all.

This issue should be FIRST rectafied in the Continental Africans' community....because as Chi said, we have NO excuse orbusinesscalling oursleves with European names.However, for the Diaspora Africans, their African names were TAKEN away from them....so nocking them off whilsts we the people who's names were never forcibly taken are still parading ourselves in our so called "Christian, Muslim" names....soon enough there is gone be black people walking around with Asian names because they are Biddhists...

YankeeJamaRican, sis it DOES matter what one calls themselves in OUR predicament. It doesn't make sense to say that a Susan can be more Afrocentric than a Makosi(i find the use of Makosi here a little well out of line because of what that woman did, if its not your intentions, i apologise)

I don't see any other race on earth not caring much what they call their childrens so long as their children know themselves. Names connect a people, it connect one to not just their history, but it does bring a sense of belonging thats important. As i said before, i am not in anyway agreeing with the tone of this thread, but it still does not mean that in our moment of anger(which i completely understand because i did not like the thread from the begining, thats why i kept away from it to start off with) we should go all out and just sayd sod it, i doens't matter what we are called.

If names was not that important, Europeans and Arabs wouldn't have been so quick to forcibly take it away from us the moment we came into contact with them. It has power....thats why it was one of the first thing the oppressors took away, it disconnected us from our land and finally as a people.....although thank God they have not succeeded as they thought they would.

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Kunjufu · (#3 (**permalink**))

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Vubundada_Kandaba wrote:

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Due to slavery and the history of the diaspora, I understand why they still carry these names. On my part the Caribbean people I met have varying names. Some have European names and Some have African names andsome thatI encountered are more African then most Africans, even to the extend where they have rejected Christinianty and embraced African Religions. I have some Caribbean friends who practice African religions andthey freaked me out the first time I met them with the religion and stuff. They were even very hard on continental Africans that carryEuropean names and questioned us why we still go to church and stuff.

I believe that with time Diasporans will slowly reject European names, but it will take time. It is better to choose an African name where the person carrying the name knows its meaning and where the name originates from. So, one stepat time and we will get there. For continental Africans it is essential we start using our African names, and the process should begin with our children.As I have mentioned before, it is ok for us continentals who have one foreign name that was given for religious purposes but the other two last names should be all African and when we have kids they should have all three African names and no Peter or Abdullah.

So people please take it easy here and don't let this topic ruin your day. Mine is an attempt to bring unity to the house.

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Kunjufu · (#4 (**permalink**))

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Prince Hakeem wrote:

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I'll cut and paste my thoughts from the ligali forums on this stupid clip:

Ain't no way you're shutting up a group of sistas that easily! How come they were portrayed as mouthy and ignorant one minute then the next they're all quiet and submissive before he even began his little tirade? In real life if he asked them about their marital status they would have just told him to mind his own beeswax.

Plus I don't know any African woman that would just let their child be around a woman they no absolutely nothing about, especially a cracker. But hear the white woman nuh: "You want me to go get her for you?" ROTFLMAOOOOO!! If me and my wife had divorced and a white woman ever came to the house asking to pick our daughter up (not that it would ever happen in a million years) my missus woulda knock the wretch back to the caves of europe.

So what if he paid for this and that? As a husband and father he's supposed to be a provider it ain't nothing to seek brownie points for.

The lack of realism alone makes this video hilarious. It's too bad some 'brothas' on other forums are applauding this rubbish (much like the 'sistas' who bigged up the movie Something New) instead of seeing it for what it is. Some people wouldn't know an agenda if it came towards them in the form of volcanic lava.

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By popular request....

Kunjufu · (#5 (**permalink**))

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Peacemaker in green

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Being English and black, I have come to realise why many minorities tend to be disadvantaged.

Becareful with your use of the word minority. There's nothing "minor" about my existence nor anyone elses in truth.

If someone of another race refers to you as a minority then they, could mean that they think you're not that relevant or of a lesser importance. Words have power, and minor is not a flattering word. Interesting that you refer to yourself as such.

The Japanese have it right to a certain degree. They just call people foreigners.

It's because of the obsession with ancestry.

Nope. The answer to that is quite simple. Things that limit your conscious range holds people back.

I would say that people with an interest in ancestry have more interesting things in their minds to work with. Anybody that can think of anything beyond their immediate environment has potential at least, especially in the area of being broad minded.

Being English and black wasn't the sole reason you cameto yourconclusion.

If you're born into a household with no books at all, then you're quite literally disadvantaged from the start. Your starting interests in the world will be limited, especially if not encouraged, race has nothing to do with it. However it's made to seem that way byvarious elements in society, but that's for a different purpose, an altogether negative one...the word minor plays apart in that too.

Trying to have a separate culture to the rest of britain is ridiculous

Tantamount to saying that thinking differently than the people in your localenvironment ridiculous. Britian does tend to breed that alienating attitute in people unwittingly.

Monkey see monkey do.

They're three types of people.

1, Those who influence their environment.

2, Those are influenced by their environment.

3, and those who remain static in their enviroment.

You're hovering between number 2 and number 3.

Where you live now is what matters.

What you're doing now matters more. You think contrary to that because you're a number 2/3 type person.

I have relatives in Jamaica and (I assume) Africa, but I don't really care.

No sh*t, caring would expand your horizons somewhat....so much so you wouldn't think the following.

England is great

No it isn't. Great people make a place great.Prison is bad becausethey're host to bad people.

and I don't feel the need to keep thinking about the past. Refusing to move forward holds people back.

Naturally. Better to move forward with a purpose in mind.

"Fitting in", in England isn't the greatest way to move forward, nor much of a purpose.

Last edited on May 7th, 2006 11:13 by Peacemaker

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Kunjufu · (#6 (**permalink**))

JOKEOF THE DAY

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Posted by Prince Hakeem today..

To any bluefoot reading this:

Kunjufu · (#7 (**permalink**))

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Lady Vee wrote:

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......so I suppose it's ok for them to call us what they like on their forums? I wonder if there's a thread in one of those forums protesting at the use of words such as"sambo", "N****r", "kaffer" et al? Why should we self-censor when they obviously don't? Yet another case of us caring what the White man thinks.

This is supposed to be a place where Black folk can talk freely amongst their peers without the need for constant censorship, which we have to do in real life.

Funnily enough I do find it weird that we refer to White people with those terms, but Asians are referred to as just that - Asians.

Kunjufu · (#8 (**permalink**))

OBSERVATIONOF THE DAY

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Kunjufu · (#9 (**permalink**))

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An_Advanced_Spark wrote:

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Hmm... If in terms of Black and White I don't think a black person can be racist towards a white person anymore than a woman can be discriminative, sexist towards a man, and there is no such thing as 'mannism'.
Think of it like this..

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Think of as many derrogatory terms for a black person.. the list is endless but try the same for a white person..bluefoot? Well I wouldn't even include that because the connotations are exclusive to members on here and its implications are not as destructive say as being called a 'N****r' ; so there aren't as many terms, associations opportunites to be truely racist towards them, whereas every derrogatory term used against a black person is not just a mere case of 'hurt feelings' ,but it can effect one's life chance, perception, job opportunites, hell try walking down the road with such a term blazoned across your back, it is highly unlikely a white person can or will experience this.

Kunjufu · (#10 (**permalink**))

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Shemsi en Tehuti wrote:

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Hello K...I think Dr. Amos Wilson touched on it when he stated that to control our children, we must control the consequences of their actions. We have no control over our children's consequences in the West.TheWest only promotes individualism and greed, which totally destroys the community structure fundamental to mosttraditional African families. I can remembergrowing up where if you were acting up in school or on the block, your neighbor wouldput it to yourbutt (in somenot too ghetto areas).Then your aunt, grandmother, uncle, or whoever put it to you. You might have received 3 or 4woopings before your mama got home, and thenshe didn't even have to do anything (but of course she put it to your butt anyway). Nowadays,"don't touch my child, or I'll sue youra*s!" When my parents were growing up, the community structure was far more cohesive where people actually looked out for each other.

Now, we have everyone pursuing only their own interests which has destroyed the African family in my opinion. Itwas absolutely unspeakable to sell drugs to your own family membersjust 30 or40 years ago. It isincreasingly common now.I remember in junior high school people getting jacked for their Triple Fat Goose (down-filledcoat) andTimberland bootsin the middle of the winter just because they looked new and another brother wanted to sport them. There are countless effects I could mention, but when you have this going on while immersing Africans in the poverty level (or just above), you can only expectto yield menaces to society and generations of traducers to the African race.

Kunjufu · (#11 (**permalink**))

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EF MAX wrote:

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If you are really keen to move on, then you need to consider the differences between a climax and an ejaculation. The two are not the same although they appear to happen at the same time.

One is purely neurological and the other physiological. An ejaculation is the physiological side of things, this is way the body literally ejects something from its being [ we all know what this is]. The climax is a pure neurological event that gets linked to the ejaculation and the two do not have to happen together.

Once a guy understands the difference between the two, then he needs to listen to his body as it approaches both and learn which to control and how.

For 99% of men, the ejaculation and the climax appear to come together, but they don’t. The ejaculation and the physiological side happens first and then [usually in milliseconds] the climax follows.

If a guycan learn when he is approaching a climax and learn to ease off the stimulation that usually is needed to take him to the last step, then it is possible to have an ejaculation but delay the climax. This takes time and lots of solo sex to fully understand your body.

Once mastered and this may take months rather than a few sessions, then it is possible to have several small [almost dribble like] ejaculations and then when ready or if no more will power or stamina, have your final climax.

Do be aware though, this can lead to intercourse sessions lasting for several hours [if you are fit enough] and although each of those ejaculations provide lubrication for the woman [assuming all other methods of birth control and safe sex are catered for and covered – ie long term relationship], the average woman will still get a little sore from this amount of friction.

Be also aware that on many occasions, you may have so many small ejaculations that you just have not got the physical strength to reach your own climax.. its all about practice and good knowledge. There is also many occasions whereby your body gets use to this behaviour and thus cause erection problems whereby the blood flow to the penis is not as strong as normal..

Other things to consider is that men have cycles,, where the body produces much more testosterone at certain stages of the month and also the day [mornings being a typical favorite],, get to know your cycle because when its low there is not much you can do about it.

As been said,, more regular sex keeps you in shape, in touch, and low on sperm all of which will aid towards delaying a climax.. Solo sex can help here as well.

Circumcision as an adult [I know cos I had mine done at 43] is painful.. no it is seriously painful in recovery.. it does seriously reduce the sensitivity, but it can and often does improve the blood flow and as such this increases the length marginally [about 10-15mm in length and about the same in girth].. that lack of sensation is a pain but the areas of sensitivity move along the penis to a slightly lower area. This in itself gives a new pleasure and an added dimension.

My last major partner was in a position to be able to talk about sex withme, who she had been sleeping with for over a year before the circumcision and about another year afterwards.. we have smiled about this to ourselves.

At the end of the day, confidence and trust in both yourself and your partner can make an amazing difference to many things in the bedroom..

Kunjufu · (#12 (**permalink**))

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babygirl44wrote:in the Two 7 Year Olds Cast as Monkeysthread:

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Sorry but the mother DID NOT overreact at all and if I was the childs mother I would take them out of the school because there must of been many low-key racist acts commited against these kids but they were too young to understand. However, the teachers went too far this time and got caught.

This incident is probably the tip of the iceberg. If your child is the only black kid in the school, you must watch and monitor it like a hawk. I suffered from being only one of a handful black kids at my primary school. Some of the teachers were properly racist but because I had no proof I couldn't do anything. I was a higher than average reader, in fact top of my class when I was bout 7/8.

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I was put in a special reading group for high-level readers by my class teacher. The other teacher who was running the club dashed me out after 2 weeks because she said that I couldn't read well enough to be in the special group and wanted to put me back in the lower class although I was being held back by the other kids. She had taped us reading aloud, but the tape she played that was supposed to be of me reading badly was actually of a white girl called Kelly. The other kids stood up for me saying it was Kelly on the tape, even Kelly admitted to this but the teacher removed me and I KNOW it was because it sickened her to see a black pupil excelling. My dad couldn't bring himself to believe that they would do this to me so didn't do anything about it (anyway I ended up being only one of a handful of pupils of that year that went on to University, so she didn't win).

Futhermore, although some Afro-carib boys are bad, much of the reason why they don't take enough interest in school is because the school doesn't take any interest at all in their progress and even (as in my case) goes out their way to hinder it. Look at what that mampie bluefoot did to that balck child in Derby by writing the word black-bas**rd on her forehead, how many times do you think that child suffered before the carer went too far and got caught out?

Finally basic mathematics tells me that these kids were discriminated against. If there are only 2 black kids out of a year of 100, that would mean that 100% of the black kids got picked to be a monkey when (if the names had been picked randomly) they should have only had a 2% chance of being cast as a monkey. That doesn't sound random at all, in fact even the worst gambler wouldn't have put money on those odds.