At what point is it okay for a female to come onto a guy?

It seems okay for a guy to be up front and to the point even to the extend of females having to go through (what seems at times like mental torcher) the agony of listening to cheesy chat up lines. Society seems to have ruled the male figure as the more dominate leader and in many ways this has affected the woman's role within society, causing a lot of stereo typing for both men and women, and in a lot of cases women are restricted (mentally) in the way they approach the opposite sex.

Why is it frowned upon when a female expresses her confidence, sexuality, beauty and personality by apporaching the opposite sex in a public environment?

Are men threated by bold and confident women? or do they just love the idea of being in control.

It seems men are turned off by this and perfer a woman who just sits and looks beautiful, somewhat like a painting. *giving him enough time to look, admire before he approaches with the cheesy chat up lines*

Why is it most women feel it is out of character to approach the opposite sex? Does this show a lack of confidence or is this just pure utter pride kicking in?

Yet again the male ego is being pampered and in many cases guys have been lead to believe that they are much better then women in everything. What would the affects be if a woman approached the opposite sex would the world come to an end or will she just be classed as too loud, up front, forward, easy or even a hoe, all these social stereo types seem to be the reasons why women hold back in approaching the opposite sex.

And maybe just maybe the reason why many women are single today, because they are holding back and waiting for the men to do all the chasing.


What do you think??
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personaly I would appreciate a guy who liked the fact that I came up to him. If he's "turned off by it", good riddance. he wasn't for me.

I feel that!
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I think it is okay but he should be careful also because she may have an alternative reason for approaching him, for example she may be looking for a baby daddy or she may be mad at all men for giving her an STD. There is a myriad of things that must be considered just like a woman, he should never go out with the first thing that flirts.

But if he finds that she is true I don't see anything wrong with it.

You shouldnt make yourself such an easy target. Alot of men like to work for their efforts. You're bound to get used and end being another statistic.

Mmmm dont know where to start.
First let me say I like the fact you've been able to open up and put yourself out there and bring up this topic.

The reason being, (a little about me)for a while I seemed to only attract or meet the type of woman who really dont know what they want, some want to make their ex jealous, some just think why is he really talking to me he must have a girlfriend or just wants sex. Then they get to know me and it turns out to be more real than they ever thought it would be, but their initial reasons for being with me were false and in the end its over.

I mention this not to be negative far from it, but after such experiences I stopped dating to review the situation and break the circle (ophra)

What I'm trying to get at (long winded) is that I really wanted the type of woman who felt confident and strong enough to approach me. What I discovered was the only women with that kiind of strength were much older independant woman who were mostly after a toyboy which was complimentary but not what I was looking for.

So please pass it on, dont stop trying we are out there single strong, smart , with jobs, responsible and looking for that first sign of a truely strenght withing kind of woman who understands as most men do that rejection is part or life and nothing worthwhile comes easy, but if you try hard enough you might just find everything and more of what ur looking for.

PEACE,LOVE,AND HAPPINESS

Ps 'ONCE' is a great movie

Yes most definitely. omen have been suppressed for far too long, it's nice to see how many were actually holding it down but are now free to be who they really want to be....especially if she's looking the special one as opposed to the next best sex.

I have a friend she says she believes in lust at first site more than love.

The world is changing. I think females can approach guys as guys approach females.

@ Yaya

Actually a lot of men are cool with a woman approaching them, me one. Though I don't know if I would want you to approach me. You sound a bit frightening the way you make all them assumptions about men's feelings to being approached by women. There is some vexation in them there words.

Which ever sex is making the first move, there are ways to approach and ways not to approach. Women can be as cheesy as any man.
I like the friendly, nice smile and a hello for starters, kind of approach. "Fancy a **ck?" doesn't do it for me, though there are probably a small number of men who like that chat up line.
Confidence in a woman is very appealing. Since I am a man who knows what he is about, I like to feel the woman who is approaching me, or me approaching her, also knows what she is about. Above all I don't want her to be the type that comes with so much preconceived notions and assumptions about me as a man. Please don't stereotype me, cause I don't you.

Some women make me laugh, one crazy gyal walked into my workplace (record shop) comes behind the counter and straight sits in my chair like its hers already .lol. Gyal just sat herself down like she owns the place and starts pretending like we friends from day. .lol. Now when ever she visits its her chair trumping off other women in the shop and generally messing up my game.

Classic.

YES.

It's perfectly ok....

What bothers me is that this has to be a question?

Why are we socialized so?

I think it's better than ok. I think it's great and would make life much more simple.