Hi all, just had my 22 week scan and yes, we found out the sex of the baby, but not by choice........HE obviously wanted us to know that he was a boy, if you know what I mean!! It was so funny as the Sonographer pointed out that he was lying down with both of his arms behind his head and one foot across the other, really chilling out!! Then he started getting vex when she was scanning me and decided to move into an awkward position so that nobody could see anything but his back. I had to go have a walk and see if he would turn around which he did and then when they started scanning again he had his hand over his eyes like he'd had enough of us!! But all is very well, very active little boy.

Its nice, coz now I will have one of each!! Just having problems with names tho. I was so convinced it was a girl I didnt even think of any boys names!!

He's definitly a very active baby, in fact he dont stop moving and always seems to get hyper at around 12am and then again at 5am, i wonder if this is a sign of things to come?!!

ladies just wanna know when the baby wiggles it fingers or move an elbow into your ribcage can you feel? how does it feel?

I'm 9 weeks pregnant (first pregnancy - 20 yrs old) and terrified of having a miscarriage. I've been hearing so much about it lately.



Is this healthy for the baby. I've been crying everyday for the last 3/4 days.



Caz I'm single at the moment and feel quite lonely. I know it sounds bad. Pregnant and singe but I've been with my ex since I was 17, and we decided to call it off 2 days before I found out I was pregnant. We tried to sort it out but it aint working so I called it off for good on Thursday.

Yeah. We still talk. He phones me everyday to make we're alright. He has been to all my appointments and scans with me. He can see his child whenever he likes but we just wont be in a sexual relationship.



After the birth I plan to stay at his house for the first few weeks so that he can get the benefit of seeing the child's develop as I would.



After that, he can see the child whenever he likes (as long as he supporst it )

It's not about money as such. It's about taking care of his responsibilities. If he's not working or seriously cannot afford it then that's np problem.



But he's not gonna but a new equipment for his studio every month and not look after his child financially.



He knows. I've told him. I've been to his house on Valentines day when we broke up. But I was bored. I spent 3 days there and nothing happened.



If he gets a new woman. That is fine by me. I wont have any hard feelings towards her. And if they should live together, that is fine by me. As long as she treats my child good I'm fine with it.



If he turns up and I got a man at my house. He'll have to suck it up and deal with it.

Ebony: Please forgive my forwardness....however I feel i need to say this....I think its a huge mistake to be making judgement calls on things that are outside your realm.. You first priority is to ensure you can keep yourself and your baby healthy THATS IT!!

You cannot and in my view should not be getting into wht he does and how he does it...don't get me wrong I think he should man up for his child...BUT the thing is if you didn't check out whether he was this type of guy BEFORe getting pregnant its just a little bit too late to be asking now..

In my view this how trouble starts, man/woman start to get twist up over what the other partner is doing or NOt doing..nah sah...road to madness..road to a dysfunctional family... YOu need to set the agenda for yourself and your child and NOT hook it onto what he can or cannot do.... Do that and the rest will take care of itself...Don't and you COULD end up being another sad case of a woman putting a MAN at the centre of her world..A huge mistake..

Ps: Staying at his house has nothing to do with you having sex, for me its about sending mixed signals about the status of your relationship... it lacks clear bounderies and it will make it more difficult for the both of you to move on IMO..

What do u mean 'making judgements outside my realms'?

1. You are telling me that if this man have the ability to supposrt his child but choose not to, I should just sit and accept that? Are you mad?

2. I'm very much focus on the health on myself and my child.

3. Are all pregnancy planned? No.

4. It's not as if mi a breed fi smaddy weh mi nuh know, as I've said. We've been together for a long time.Things happen, obviously this is not an ideal way to bring a child into the world. But as I've said before, we broke 2 days before I found out i was preggy. We tried to give it another go but it just couldn't work out.But things happen and I've just gotta deal with it the best way I know how.


But do see what you're saying tho about staying over. I hear that still.niceone.gif

a man being the centre of my world confused3