I was chatting to a friend of mine, and he told me that his little sister is out of control.. she does what she wants, she's rude.. doesn't listen, has no respect for anyone, goes out anytime etc.. you pretty much get the picture..

I was mad when he told me some of the things that she had done, because I can feel his pain and gladly happy that I am not in his shoes because I wouldn't know what to do myself except be as furstrated as he his now..

The father can't do nothing much becuase she just doesn't listen to him, so discipline is out of the question, my friend said she threatens to call thePOLICE if any of them ever try to lay there hands on her.. she is going to 18 soon..

Pretty much everybody has abandoned her becuase they are just tired.

This is not the only case, I have come across different people with this type of siblins in their family.. where they can only watch the distruction of there sis/bro..

I didn't want to be blunt with my friend, about the possibility of her coming home pregnant, which is a high chance with the state of mind she seems to be in...

As parents how do you deal with this kind of situation, I can understand some of you may not have that type of children but would I am sure have heard of it..

What do you think the problem is... do you think that the LAW thatis intent to protect children, is now been used by the childrenagainst adults.

I mean how many times, I have heard of kids saying if you touch me I will call the police..

Pretty muchpast being a "kid" now, even given my intense dislike of all teenagers... I think she should be kicked out of yard and made to learn life her damn self.

nothing is just a phase. everything means something. spoilt kids don't always grow out of it, they sometimes become ghastly adults too. needs putting in her place. since she threatening the law she isn't appreciating her home enough and taking it for granted. getting dash out would soon fix that shit up and bring her arse back to earth but that hardly EVER happens. parents way too indulgent these days.

Nah something else is gong on here. I can't believe that an 18 year old is acting this way. If I'd aread 15, then I'd see, but 18???

That's way too old to be having tantrums like this. Are you absolutely sure you have the whole picture?

How is it that HEturned outalright but SHE has not?confused3

Sometimes you have to look at the bigger picture, I had a cousin who was so out of control, the girl used to disrespect evryone including her mother and father. She used to be real slack aswell, just letting men do what they wanted with her, and she used to get licks of people on a weekly basis.

But it turned out that she was abused by a neighboor from a young age, and all that aggression and anger was her way of handling the situation.

I'm not saying that your friends sister was abused, but maybe someone needs to sit down and talk to her, see what it is thats at the route of this behaviour, most people have a reason for behaving the way she is.

Ras

Blackthought: you know there is a point when the talking stops and the parents just have to risk letting go...and hope that the lessons aren't too hard..some people only learn this way..

But BT, there isn't anything anybody here can say that will give you the power to do anything. She ain't your daughter... or ever your sister. Are you asking in case *crosses fingers* you have a daughter like that some day?

Nah bro.. I just used her as a mere example of teenagers nowadays getting out of control, the last two paragraph of my initial post was the real topic I wanted people's opinion on... not so muchaboutthe girl itself.