I was talking with a friend recently and he said that when he asked his 14yr son whether he would date a white girl, his son replied stone dead, "NO WAY". I then asked him, did his son get this opinion from him, to which he replied "no, not directly", and he wasnt sure where that viewpoint came from. Got me wondering how it all works.

Do you specifically need to encourage your kids this, or is their overall African programming sufficient for them to naturally want this?

Well I distinctly remember my parents telling me not to bring home no white girl. And this was before the mass epidemic we have now. Obviously this was not the standard expectations for many.

Ill sure be letting my children know when the time comes for it to be said. Hopefully they will heed my advice.

To answer your question. In this society. With the rate of black man with white women. It definatley needs to be encouraged/ if you think it important that your progeny make that choice. Many dont.

Yes I too was not to bring home white ....seems to apply only to girls unfortunately..

Of course.

We can't afford not to.

lol. Good question!!!!

I don't think I've ever heard my parents DIRECTLY say "If you bring home a White person I'll disown you". However I've always assumed that they would be less than pleased (than hmmmm let's say another Black person) because growing up I was very use to them saying less than flattering things about White people. Of course they use to say really horrible things about other AA people as well, but those negative comments were normally directly SOLEY at the person or how stupid some other AA people thought. But when they talked about White people it was EVERYBODY.......

When my children are of dating age, I *THINK* my feelings will be the same and I will encourage them to marry other "well off" Afro-American people. I notice when people marry others of other cultures, backgrounds and races they always have to worry about how their child perceives them! Will the child be proud of their culture or be embarrassed? Will the child feel more comfortable with their partners' identity than theirs, etc, etc.

Hmm. I have never brought a white girl home. Im sure my parents have mntioned it to me. To be honest they didn't need to

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Originally Posted by Bredder Tukoma With the rate of black man with white women. It definatley needs to be encouraged/ if you think it important that your progeny make that choice. Many dont.

Interesting as this also came up in the conversation and my friend reckons there's now been a shift in attitude out there and the young kids are very much coming in like his son now. Would you say this is true?

Not yet...

If anything a few I have heard on radio stations and what not are starting to notice that mixed race people are confused and start to clock on that mixing isn't right in that sence. Thats where they'll eventually start sticking to their own.

Personally I think the true shift in attidude and the shift which will have long term implications is that there is a heck of alot of man our age group Le Moor that are trodding the caucus highway. And invariably its them brothers and those say 28 yr upwards who are more likely to establish family/ house long term liasons with white women. Yeah I know nuff people say its not how its hyped up and I agree to an extent but I am aware of at least a 50% increase in over 30s black man with maybe former black children from previous relationships/ hooking up with white women. I see it among my bredrens who I grew up with and aquantances /and I see it in the local supermarket. And it goes past black and white conceptions of coconuts as well as not all these brothers were set this way as youth's. Some serious dynamics are going on.

I have discussed this issue several times with my partner. We will definitely encourage our child to love his own people. We will make sure that our friends and family who are close to us are in positive (black) relationships. Positive role models start from parents but they also extend to family, friends and acquaintances. Anybody hanging out with a white person as a partner is not going to come to our house. Simple. There is enough of it outside so need to encourage it at home. Once a child grows up sourrounded by black couples and families, I don't think he/she will feel the need to date white.