Is it culture that has created this stero type of the black man?
Do not be deluded by what was and still is in many 3[suP]rd[/suP] world countries
As there are so many rules and regulations to abide by in these cultures, many of which people of today find as repulsive and disrespect (the list is endless[/i]) ……

Is it right to change what man has known for centuries since his father, his grandfather(s) and even his ancestors? The question needed asking is what makes it right in the first place to womanize, disrespect and mistreat is it the fact that for many years our culture has permitted man to marry more than one wife?


I focus on the black men of today as western culture does not speak freely of this custom as 3[suP]rd[/suP] world culture. Where is the line truly draw, where does the respect and self honour start?


Society has meant for man to be with a woman this is also defined as companionship, love ad even friendship it does not create the impression that man was meant for women neither was Adam created for Eve, Anna, Roshni, Yvonne, Lisa or even for Mark


If you discard culture and society putting the focus on religion you can gain the understanding required in the explanation of my analysis, as many 3[suP]rd[/suP] world countries are strict with religion alongside their beliefs.


I aim this at Christianity for the simple fact of the Adam and Eve theory above, if anything religion is highly respected and followed by many, so than how hard can it be to release that the blessing of one woman is enough. And the abundance of women brings about confusion, kaos, betrayal and even confession.


Even today the black man has become stero typed for so many reasons, who listen to these stero types you ask![/i] As unimportant as they may be, women continuously find that black man live up to these so called unimportant stero types causing failure within relationships.



I am not dismissing the fact that’s woman have as an equal role to play within this failure but at present I am focusing on the black male and the example they are setting, the name they are giving to them self’s. What happened to romance within black culture is it dead? And do our young, middle aged and old black men still understand the word romance?

Why is it easier for black men to settle for casual intimacy? Not with one partner but with many yet clam to want a stress free life DEVOTING YOURSELF TO ONE WOMAN would help matter greatly! Why does the woman become seconded best in mid relationship after months and months of risking to open up to another person, sharing thoughts, intimacy, life’s experiences and then having to compromise with her partner’s new lifestyle, hobby or love interest is this when the womanizing starts

What happened to wining and dining a woman, evenings out, cosy nights in, chocolates, flowers, lingerie and meaningful gifts but now a days black men have decided evenings out are with the guys and cosy nights in are for broke days or when no ones up for a night out, the rest is history. What happened to appreciating a woman beyond intimacy?

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Black men feel comfortable after a while and forget the sweet, little and big gestures they use to make when what they should be trying to do with the woman as a team is keeping a relationship balance. When do you feel you have lost the balance? What can be done to keep a balance? Why can black men not be romantic for a change? For the long term not short!

Good piece.

"Why can black men not be romantic for a change? For the long term not short"

If I may, seems the speaker is searching for a nice guy

Problem is, he's an extremely rare, endangered species nowadays

becuz thugz get all the play

yeah u SAY u want mr. nice guy

but then u straight up pass him by

cuz mr. playa is a nicer high

and the eternal mystery remains

why u're shocked and pissed

when mr. playa plays u!

Duh-uh! That's what playas do!

Nuff respect, Female Poet. Peace.niceone.gif

Thanks for taking the time to read up on my piece and further more having an opinionon it! The relevance of this piece was to question the modern day black male, his culturalinfluences,society's socialprospective linking to romance and its essencenot basedon the search of mr nice guy as you put it or the characteristics of a player

Gotcha. One love.

**kiss Teet** i stopped reading after i saw the use of "3rd world country" which i am quite sure the writer is using to refer to Afirca :P.

Don’t care about all the other countries that come under the same definition… but in your opinion what does the term 3rd world mean to you when used to refer to Africa? When it should really be 1st world seeing that Africans were building and running great civilizations such as Kemit and Nubia, when over here in Europe they were still living in caves and eating raw meet…

We do tend to rank things we think as the best (1st) and last is usually the worst so doesn’t ranking Africa as 3rd implies that the so called 1st world (Europe & North America) is better? Bear in mind that the term is not just used to describe economic development.

What happened to wining and dining a woman, evenings out, cosy nights in, chocolates, flowers, lingerie and meaningful gifts

Whose standards of romance is this??

This is mere materialistic crap. There is nothing in this about actualy respecting or cherishing a woman for who she is or appreciating her. There is merely buying her stuff as if she is a child to be indulged and spoiled or even worse somebody to be bribed for favours. Not romantic to me hunnybunny.

Its not about "sweet, little or big gestures" What is gestures but ACTS of romance. An ACT is what it is in name and practice. Nothing of substance there.

Lol DM

And this clueless person thinks she can educate the BN men about modern romance. Methinks she'll do better to leave the not so poetry writing and get to reading, starting from the black roots forum.

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NT

Think you need to read the thing in full again. It makes a whole big deal of assumptions about the black man and so on declaring that
Why can black men not be romantic for a change?
So Im asking what are these standards of romance she is talking about and who is she comparing us to and why?

Switch this whole thing around and substitute the word man for woman and see how far you get...



Somehow we men get too "comfortable" and start taking advantage, indulging ourselves in hobbys and life intrests.confused3 LOL Who wants somebody that is NOT interested in life? Is a person to be so wrapped up in the essence of their partner to the exclusion of ALL else in existence?

Apparently we men are prone to womanizing... and the way to combat this is winning and dinning confused3



Sorry NT I dont see how Im misunderstanding anything. I think this isa rant disguised as nice poetry. Not having it. If the author keeps meeting womanising men who dont buy her enough gifts and take her everywhere or get chocolates (lol) or men who are obessively devoted to her every waking moment then that is HER bag of luggage. Not a standard for you and I to uphold.

hmm, obviously you and i are taking totally different things from this piece.

personally the message im coming away with is that black menand women need to love and cherish each other.

thats no bad thing imho.

another thing im getting from your post is that somehow Romance is a European ideal ansd somehow not befitting the Black Man.

can you clarify this for me?