Dear Dark Skinned Black women - Page 3

Afroboo · (#51 (**permalink**))

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khalil wrote:

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people who bang on about color whic is better and what not tend to have an inferior complex.
if you are proud of your color.you wouldnt be worries about the next person color.

Many Dark skin sisters on here are insecure and feel inferior to the lighter skin. and if that wasnt true these topics wouldnt be occuring on a regular

Dark skin - have beatiful people
Light skin - have beautiful people

there are beautiful people of every color.

Can we PLZ PLZ PLZ PLZ and plz dead these Ignorant topics now. Every little chance we hav to reflect on our selves we turn it into a color online riot.

clp)clp)clp)

Afroboo · (#52 (**permalink**))

jett black wrote:

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Darks skinned women should not just be thrown some random bits of chivalry,respect and acknowledgements,it should be de riguer and on par with every other hue in our race.

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Black womenARE shown respect and acknowledgment

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Only problem is ...some women are not satisfied and will never be satisfied until every single black man on this earth shows them this...

I personally think the women in question need to get over it and know when to accept a complimentconfused3

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Thats all i got to say on this ,

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jett Black · (#53 (**permalink**))

Two words.

READING COMPREHENSION.

starr · (#54 (**permalink**))

Everyone is entitled to have their own prefernces. You can be attracted to whomever you wish without having to explain that choice to anyone. The poet was simply expressing his love for his preference, that's it. Whether you like your mate tall, short, long hair, short hair, skinny or volumptous etc. it doesn't matter. The tone of someone's skin is just as irrelevent.Example, I love apples and whether that apple is green or red it's still an apple. Just because a black person has a lighter skin tone doesn't make them any less black. "Black is beautiful" all shades of it. This is a form of self-hate, does anybody else realize that?

jabulani · (#55 (**permalink**))

I've been watching this topic for a little while now, and though it seems to be descending into argumentative madness, I would like to put my spin in on it.

One, I totally understand jettblack's cynicism towards jason x's poem, especially the ending with Tupac's quote. Even when it's the best of intentions, compliments given towards "dark-skinned sistahs" within a mainstream culture that does not hold them up anywhere near the status of lighter-skinned ones usually will be taken with a grain of salt. Especially considering that the very REASON accolades like that are needed is because dark-skinned women are not seen in popular culture as being beautiful compared to light-skinned counterparts.

this is not to say that jason x's poem was not meant with the best of intentions, but often some brothers will come off with things like that just to appear "deep." Which is probably true in Tupac's case, who in many ways did not live some of the words he rapped about. And I myself have heard brothers say things like: "She's pretty, for a dark chick", or "I usually don't go for dark girls, but she's fine." and stuff like that. But the MOST important thing is to look at where this is coming from.

I know and I know that most of you guys know that the root of this whole thing is that we refuse to define for ourselves, as black/African people in the diaspora our own understanding of what beauty is, in women as well as men or other things in life.
What the mainstream WHITE-controlled media has always put out is that white women are the most beautiful women in the world, and women who look closest to this standard, black, asian, hispanic, whatever, are the ones to get the most attention. It's been going on for centuries, from Lena Horne to Dorothy Dandridge to Jayne Kennedy to Halle Berry now. THEY have defined for us who is the most beautiful, and thus ALL of us, light, dark, medium brown, whatever, have suffered from it. Merely one example on how they have historically and still psychologically divide us.

So jettblack is right, in a sense. such accolades should'nt be necessary. Even if some of us brothers feel compelled to react to what the mainstream culture has put out there. Because to brothers and sisters who are conscious, and can define beauty from their OWN cultural perspective, not the white-controlled media's and the few lobotomized black fools who help them set the standard, it's not necessary as well. Men should'nt be falling for it, and black women, whatever hue, DEFINITELY should not be at each other's throats over it. Realize it for what you know it is, because because from a real black/African perspective, there are some FINE dark, light, and medium black women, period. And in OUR minds, from our own cultural perspective, they ALL should set the standard, period.