RELATIONSHIPS IN THE CHURCH - Page 2

chanz · (#26 (**permalink**))

hey i'm chanz!...

have to say i definately agree that dating is a very important factor in meetintg 'the one'.although i am not the most religious person out there i have recently turned over a new leaf in the dating game and have started to live life as a woman of principles...ie, having more self respect, and not settling for less than i deserve...but most importantly i have realised that dating is about 'gathering imformation and not goose bumps'!so just because your on a date with someone does not mean you have to sleep with them...or even kiss them

! its all about getting to know them (and this applies to us all christian ...or not so christian!). let me know what you think... XXX

Medusa · (#27 (**permalink**))

Dating is valuable because you learn about yourself,rather than going headlong into a marriage without any experience of the opposite sex which is not good for the woman especially. I used to hold those values,like no sex before marriage but now I see that it was an experience that was golden and opened my eyes to so much that I could not get bybeing married straight away. The latter is a killer for women. You put women on a pedestal like that and she loses her will to walk all together.

Medusa · (#28 (**permalink**))

Furthermore,those religious values were created by crothedy old men who can get up to get down,to get any and added with a strong dose of mysogyny,they want desperately to control especially women,but young men too are fooled.

mary mary · (#29 (**permalink**))

im a christain as well but im feelling dissolitioned, im going out with this boy and ive lost my virginity with him because i have really strong feelings for him i tried my best but i couldnt resist temptation. u have a really strong faith to let that guy go.

BlackChild · (#30 (**permalink**))

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Thank you CeeCee,

There is more to a person than just their walk with god while this is extremely important you also have to be compatible. Dating is just another way to find out whether or not you are compatible. Had I never gone out with that guy I would of never found out that I did not like him. As far as the girl I think I will handle her with the long handed spoon approach I was giving her before. Not every christain man is the right one either so how would you know without dating. You can't

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Yourcorrect take your onadvice and stride.I forget what scripture it was but I recall thescripture said that you should not marry "unequally yoaked." Iinterpret this as say you should not marry unless you arebothcompatible and have the same goal in mine.

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It would be difficult for a person who is strong in the christian faith to marry a person who did not feel the same. Somewhere down the line your gonna start bangin' head with each other, and you'll never know if your equally yoaked unless you interact or date that person.

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Anni* · (#31 (**permalink**))

BlackChild wrote:

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sadams wrote:

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Yourcorrect take your onadvice and stride.I forget what scripture it was but I recall thescripture said that you should not marry "unequally yoaked." Iinterpret this as say you should not marry unless you arebothcompatible and have the same goal in mine.

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It would be difficult for a person who is strong in the christian faith to marry a person who did not feel the same. Somewhere down the line your gonna start bangin' head with each other, and you'll never know if your equally yoaked unless you interact or date that person.

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Yeah I agree with you. It says it in Corinthians I think. That verse has been on my mind quite a few times when going out with a non christian. I think its just easier being with someone who shares the same belief has you. I mean Ive been with a non christian and its hard, really hard. I did start to lose a bit of my faith but my christian friends did help me through, Though they did give me a lot of pressure about it.

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Lexi · (#32 (**permalink**))

CHRISTIANS CAN DATE!!

Or court each other (however you want to put it). But i feel that to d8 has to come with spiritual maturity.I feel that if you just a young church goer brought up inChristian but yet you still do your bad tings outta rd then NAH! you shouldn't d8.

How else are you going to get to find out whether the person you like is the right1 4u.

There is NOWAY i would hv a3rd person on a d8 with me

Yuh Mad!!-they WILL be the third wheel.

I think that if that would be the system you prefer then go out in a group or what ever just make sure the numbers are even.

D8ing is fun(especially when it's fresh)...But 2 d8 4fun...hmm..i think that leaves room for temptations to run a bit too high plus you won't be taking the person seriously because you hv NO intention of taking it further.

Sampling the cow with putting a deposit on it.

This may be misleading especially if its one sided.Plus the Danger is that this is a very Secular way of doing things.DO we really want togo down this Road of Destruction???

Whoever you d8 make sure that the Holy sprit is present.If anything He should be the 3rd wheel.

Lexi · (#33 (**permalink**))

@ Mizz-G-chica,I praisethe honesty that God gave you

You know what?

If both of you stayed in the Safety Guidelines of God word Neither one of you would have sinned and you wouldn't be feeling the way you do.

Look at it like this.If God was at the center of your lives.1 you both could hv been married in the future and lost your virginity together the honorable way how God intended. If he really loved you then he shouldn't hv made you feel inadequate about it. But fortunately for you and and me Jesuse died so that our sins will be forgiven.

Please don't think i'm having a go out you because i'm NOT.I just like to be straight with people and just tell them how it is.

It does not matter who you are

Or where you have be

Or what you have done Jesus Died For You

BUT because of who he is

And where he has been

AND what HE has done

You can start over again

YES YOU CAN!!

Let there be NO CONDEMNATION for the redeemed

ps this applies to YOU 2 marymary and all (including myself)

Ahmaad · (#34 (**permalink**))

Ha haaaa......

The religious so-called Christian men are being chumped out and their women are being snatched from them by these bad-boy street niggaz.

That would never happen in Islam because our women respect us too much and knew what would happen if we seen one of them walking with common street trash.

blkafro -Word is bond! Better guard ya napps son!

leila7 · (#35 (**permalink**))

People seem to be interchanging dating and courting, it's not the same thing. When you go on dates you spend time with that person usually alone and there's something casual about it - courtship on the other hand is a bit more serious and boundaries are set at the beginning and throughout the relationship with the hope that it will lead to marriage. If you want to get to know someone of the opposite sex, it's bestdone with friends that way you can get to knowthe person, see what their like, how they interact with their friends - and sometimes they'll give away a bit more abouta person then they would wish to give away - believe me this could only be a good thing!

I know you're saying to yourself what's the big deal! truth is you never know how much the other person likes you and if after dating a girl you dump her because you don't like the size of her feet, she'll be really hurt!

In short, dating it gives you the opportunity to fall in love with someone and fallout as quickly again. niceone.gif

Justavoice · (#36 (**permalink**))

Difficult subject, but can I just add, that it is written trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding but in ALL your ways acknowledge him and he will direct your path.

All your ways also means the partner that you will have.

I'll just leave you with this but there was a sister I really liked, but God kept showing me that she was not right for me. Blinded by the visual and manner of this girl at the outset, I took no notice of the many warnings. Till I began to see come to pass what God was showing me all along. So your spiritual walk does not and should not divide off because you seek a bride or a groom. This person you will become one with, thats what the scriptures say.

This dating game you see people playing over here in the West is a lie and behind closed doors they are not showing how the heap a heap partners are destroying people mentally both man and woman. For whom you join yourself too you become one with. Join yourself to an harlot you become one with an harlot, join with a crackhead, and not too long, watch if you yourself don't have problems.

This is an interesting discussion though very real and on point, and relevant to the times.

Anni* · (#37 (**permalink**))

Ahmaad wrote:

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Ha haaaa......

The religious so-called Christian men are being chumped out and their women are being snatched from them by these bad-boy street N****rz.

That would never happen in Islam because our women respect us too much and knew what would happen if we seen one of them walking with common street trash.

Do they respect you, or is it just fear??

Ahmaad · (#38 (**permalink**))

A little bit of both, but the ends justify the means.

Although problems do exist, you don't see Muslims with the marriage and gender-relation problems that rise to the level most Christians endure.