Has anyone here been in such a sitution? Thye guy is really nice and in love with you but you've decided to walk with the Lord. He hasnt reached this stage in his relationship with God, he still thinks he can do thing his way instead of God's way. The issue of sex comes up and then throws a spanner in the works because you aint giving it up until you're married and he wants is every day and twice on sunday!

The Bible speaks of the un equal yolk and of allowing God to show you the right way to go, but have you had a conflict going on in your head?

Thoughts please........

I know it's difficult but you have to take a step back, you've have quoted the scripture which is telling you exactly what to do in this situation. The previous reply was that he may not understand how important it is for you to save yourself until you're married which is very true but you must explain this to him. Believe me, your relationship God is much more important. By telling him you are setting the boundaries in the relationship and you both know where you stand - you may have to put an end to this side of your relationship so that you won't fall into temptation. In the mean time, just pray that God would reveal Himself to your friend. He will be disappointed but will respect the fact that you've been straight with him. By taking a stand you'll truly show that your walk with God is a very important one!

Another question - why twice on Sunday - is he trying to lure you away from Church?

Just do what you know is right - I did and I don't regret it !!! xxx

Leila, thanks for your reply. You are so right............apparently the sex b4 marriage thing is an issue so friendship it will remain.

If your intention is to be a virgin bride, then these are things that need to be discussed before a relationship starts.

Listen, if you love him so much, remember to do the following:

Pray for him, that he will be willing to listen and change.

Speak to him, tell him why you want to him change and tell him the benefits.

Live a godly life and an examplary life. So that with him seeing the fruits of the Spirit in you, he will be challenged by your actions and he will want the same, he will see that something is different about you.


Remember to keep yourself pure and holy

God Bless
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Yep, falling in love with a non christian is hard. But the Lord strengthens you and gives you boldness. He will bless you more than you can think about if you go the right way. I split up with my non christian boyfriend a month ago but then got back together and then split up a week later, I couldnt deal with pressures from my christian friends and non christian friends and him but I know that it was the right descion. I dont think I was really in love with him, I just thought I was. God has someone for you, He has someone special for me. If the guy you love, is the guy God wants you to have, you will know. I think that when the right person comes along then you wont be wondering if he is the guy, you will know in your heart and you wont have any unrest.

Hmm.

I'm agnostic. The ex-wife was Christian with very stong (dare I say fanatical?) beliefs. No sex before marriage... fair enough I understood the whole 'cult' way of thinking. After marriage tho... the pressure to go to church on Sundays, Bible study, Youth Fellowship, and conferences (Yet, she always wondered why she was so tired... apparently part of being a christian is depriving yourself from a life) was too much for me... and her as well.... note the phase ex-wife.

I find that people who are not religious are more tolerant than people who are religious... i would not be bothered by her church and their way of thinking... but apperantly i was the devil because i not 'saved'. I never once.... and you will find this to be the norm... asked her to give up her religion... while i was repeatedly asked to sign up and get saved....

Long story short... if he cant respect your decision to wait until marriage then thats a good sign right there... and no one should expect people to change after getting married.

- Signed

Reformed PK (Preacher's Kid)

@ God Blessed

You already knew the answer to this questions and everybody here has just confirmed it.

One thing I will say is that, if he is to make the change of accepting christ into his life, make sure he's doing it for himself and not just for you. So make sure he wants to change for himself. If it's not in his heart to change you can't make him change. You'll only stress yourself and end up succumbing to sin just to win him.

You can tell when he's morecharismatic about the relationship he is building with God than focusing on 'knockin' the boots' with you. Pure thoughts.

It might be hard but don't let your love blind you about the situation. Ask God to lead you through it if you feel as ifyou are beingpressured to have sex.

One more thing; Be careful some men could fake ituntil they make it,all the way up to marriage just to get the pantiesthen backslide to old ways again.

I guess that's two things. Didn't expect that. confused3

God Blessed, you mention in 'love'... once i've reread... i couldnt help but think..

How long has the relationship been? Have you previously had sex? And if so, could you understand his dilemna?

@ None

I totally uderstand his dilema, he has already told me he couldnt handle the whole sex b4 marriage thing and he are just going to be friends and thats it. Its cool, l'm happy that he was honest with me from day one so that I wouldnt nd up being hurt in the long run.

I'm a bit sad but at the same time I'm happy that I got my answer.

Thanks to all you guys for your encouraging adviceclp). God bless!

He should leave someone who looks down on him.



Who married Adam and Eve or did they have sex out of wedlock.

Who said anyone was looking down on him?????????????????

Well the fact that you rather listen to the desires of strangers on the internet over the words of your boyfriend who claims to love you speaks for itself wouldn't you think.

The question isdo you love him?Or is the love you have for him merely given to you by god and his many supposed helpers.If you love the guy you shouldn't want him to change at all.

What is sex after marriage anyway?.If you got married could he demand it anytime he wants? Or could you of refused?. Hell, could he refuse? is that grounds for divorce?

Do feelings suddenly change once both of you walk down the aile?

Sorry but I find the whole thing trival.

One ofmy ex's once broke up with me because I didn't like smoking dope. I'm notsure what would be worse, that or converting.

It's probably for the best it didn't workout, because if even this is an issue you'd of hated the ones that crop up when you're married.