Icame out of a long distant relationship a few months ago while at uni and really did get me down and my grades. Due to the fact that he had a anotha girl while we were togther and shes pregnant. Anywayz let me stop myself before i start ranting on. I didnt write that to steer people away from having one i was just sharing my experience. (everybodyz different) The point of the post was to ask ppl if they would try a long distant relationship or would you just walk away. What are your thoughts on it please share.............

Generally not worth the effort unless you've been together with the person for more than two years.

I've got the same problem - Me and my gal have been together for three years and we recently split up, but now she wants to get back together and I'm going away this september and although I love her, I dont know whats best

@ Alan

It really depends on how far apart u are going to be. if its not to far it can work.in my first semester we(my boyf and i) were doing fine and seeing each other every weekend. But the second semester we split and my grades went from B's to referrals which i have to complete in the summer holidays. Like i said before it depends how far apart you are. if you dont really want to get bak with her then DONT.You have 2 be really be sure or the stress from the arguements you will have will mess up your head while your at uni and you dont want that.

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nope... never work...

You cant jus say no. every situation is different. if u have been with the person 4 a while and you love them. isnt it worth a try??? its betta than thinkin' what if..............

ok...

lemme put it another way...

it is highly unlikely to work...

simple equation

young man - girlfriend+ good looking woman / needs =



good looking young man with needs+ chased by girls - girlfriend =

good looking girl with needs= chased by good looking men -boyfriend =

you catch my drift

highly unlikely...

but not impossible...

Yeh i catch ur drift. i kno what u were tryin' 2 say im not stupid no need put it in lay termz. :P

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didnt say u was...

im just in a creative mood...

so

to you too

well, guys, thts mature.clp)

Anyway, im in a relationship now at uni, its all good, but my partner is in the third year im in my second, my partner is an international student, we love each other (yes love plz no lecture about how i know its love, its love), any way so shes gonna go back nxt year the qestion is long distance or not.

i say not. i love her, but the whole not seeing her thing aint working out for me.the fact that i dnt know when i will see her is a problem.waiting is not the problem , being celibate is not the problem. the problem is she is not here, and a touch is one of the best ways to show feelings. u can say so much with touch that u cant with words (and vice versa) so that aint working out for me.

+i cnt ask her to keep hher life on hold and kee harbouring feelings for me and not looking else where because her mr right may still be out there. i dnt think its fair on either of us so....

what i say is this, if u love some1 let them go if when they're finished they come back to you then it was meant to be. if not then it was better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all. (do you like the play on not 1 but 2 cliches there?).

think long and hard before going in a long distance relationship, is it worth fighting to hold on to, because they are a hell ofa lot more work than normal relationships.

to youiLady96 i say he obviously didnt love you the way you loved him, move on he werent the 1.

IF YOU REALLY WANT TO PASS WITH FLYING COLOURS, DONT ENGAGE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A FELLOW STUDENT ATTENDING THE SAME UNIVERSITY/COLLEGE AS YOU WILL GET DISTRACTED FROM YOUR STUDIES VERY OFTEN.

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My best friend is in Uni @ Kingston and her boyfriend is an American in the US Air Force stationed in Rota, Spain and they're doing perfectly. The key to a long distance relationship is communication. You have to remember to put your friendship first and communicate as if they are your best friend.

I believe in long distance relationships. It's all about the people who are in them and the circumstances, such as the distance and the length of time that you will be apart. As far as the people, I think that they have to really want to be in that relationship. If you and your partner have communication problemswhen you are five feet away, a LDR is not for you. If your partner has ever cheated on you, an LDR is not for you. I also think thata relationship needs to have a solid foundation before it turns into a LDR. For example, if you have been dating this person for a month and you aren't really sure where you stand with this person, a LDR is not going to work. I don't believe in "Open-Relationships" but some people do and it's okay with them. I don't see a problem with having a close friendship instead of a LDR if that foundation has not been built. And if you end up in the same city again and decide to get back together... Great!

I know that a good quality to have when in a LDR is thelove traveling. This can get expensive, but if your relationship is that deep then you gotta do what you gotta do!