How would you handle an accidental pregnancy?

CashMoney · (#1 (**permalink**))

if ythe firl is a bitch i get her to abort it

if she a nice girl i get her to keep it

if she a very nice girl and i like her alot, i marry her so not to have an illegimate child

Saida.M · (#2 (**permalink**))

If you saw in the other thread FernandoI was a teenager and pregnant! I was like blackbeauty -I would of had it aborted and was adamant, but it was too late.

Anyway, the adviceI always give now, is that at the end of the day, its the girl's decision, butI would make sureI get the message across to them, that it needn't be the end of the world as long as you have support. I would always have tostress the word 'support' because without that it will behell, but as long as you have it, you can carry on to get an education, which would become the second most importantthing AFTER your child.

*Lady Future* · (#3 (**permalink**))

I dnt wana sound rude but bein honest i think i wud take myself 2 a hospital and abort it without any1 knowing. Im only 16 and although i think i am mature enough 2 bring up a baby ( i no im gona get masses amounts of replies saying otherwise) but seeing my olda brother, who was 17 when he had his 1st son, i dnt think i would want the responsibility. rite now im tryna focus on my xams and make sure 2 pass my gcse's,

Saida.M · (#4 (**permalink**))

Good for you ladyfuture you and blackbeautyare thinking right.

How does saying that makes you rude?

I'll never advocate getting pregnant when you are a teenager - it waste your life.

DamnYo · (#5 (**permalink**))

Its not the childs fualt that he or she is here. Everything happens for reason. So i'd have to get on wid it and raise my child.

*Lady Future* · (#6 (**permalink**))

athaba wrote:

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Good for you ladyfuture you and blackbeautyare thinking right.

How does saying that makes you rude?

Sorry, i thought people wud take offence 2 me sayin ill be quick 2 abort it. i thought it made me sound insensitive

Saida.M · (#7 (**permalink**))

No, I mean you both would be right for not wanting babies while you are too young.

The abortion part - that is DEFINATELY a different story!

But seriously though,I can't judge because like I said, each person should make up her own mind.

chantel7 · (#8 (**permalink**))

When i was 24 i got in to this relationship,... it was based on sex only i was happy andhe was happy,....everything changed when i fell pregnant,.......the first thing he said when i told him was" get rid of it!" i was hurt,...gutted and real confused,....this was my first pregnancy,....,he already had a child from a prevoius relationship and he did'nt want anymore just yet i vowed never tohave an abortion,...................anyway i refused to terminate the pregnancy and we soon split up.

I went on to have a beautiful littlegirl,...... the babys-father was'nt in our lives for a while but soon crept back when i found a new partner,....... i've always loved the babys-father but we always had this voilatile relationship,.....there was no respect there,..... it was,nt long beforehe had some real bad news,.....his daughter was murdered by her mother and she killed her-self,...... it was devastatiin news,...... it destroyed him big time,..........we got back together,........ and took things slow,........coz his daughter was still fresh in his mind,........

Things was'nt perfect in the relationship,.....he took drugs to numb the pain,.... he drank excessively,......he was quite abusive,....but i stood by him when everyone else turnt their backs on him,........it was'nt long before baby number 2 arrived,................. again he told me to get rid of it,........by this time we had split up for the 2nd time,....... but this time i gave in to submission and arranged a termination,............just as i was about to have the operation he came in to stop me,.....sayin don,t do it ,...we can cope,.............. i gave in to him i did'nt really want to go thru with it but i was so sick and tired of it i just wanted him out of my life.

Any way i went on to have a gorgeous baby boy,........we were happy for once,....we got on,...his daughter's death still played on his mind,......and i helped him get thru the hard times,..........we made an agreementnot to have anymore kids,.....we spoke if i was pregnant that a termintion would be the most advisable decision,........and we concurred on that,.............i was on the pill but it did'nt really agree with me so istopped using it for a while,..........just when i thought things could'nt get worse for me last-year i find out i was pregnant for the 3rd time,......... i was in tears coz i knew i could'nt keep it ,..........we just could'nt afford it,........and i wanted to finish off my degree,........... i told him the news,........and he was'nt happy about it,......but we both agreed,........

Anyway i went thru with the abortion,.........and it was the worst day of my life,.......but i felt i made the right choice,....... my partner was a great support and so was his family,..... i don't really regret whati did,.....but i do regret not takinproper precautions coz this would of saved me all the emotional aggravation,...and heartache,.........but one good thing came out of this i'am now a stronger person and i got my degree and not forgetting i have 2 beautiful children,....and a partnerwhoadores me so much,...... i have now got a coil fitted so i won't be making anymore mistakes,.......i hope people can understand what i did was rightfor me and not anyone else.

chantel7 · (#9 (**permalink**))

Thank you fernanado!

Tellin the story was heartbreakin andi'm glad you understand,........ i have'nt really been able to talk or express my feelings properly,....soi'm glad there's someone on here who has a in-cling on how ifeel.niceone.gif

Saida.M · (#10 (**permalink**))

How old are you now chantel? You don't have to answer, but the reason why i asked is because i know of a few people who had terminations when they were younger and it was the right thing for them at the time.

But now they are full of regrets.

chantel7 · (#11 (**permalink**))

@ ATHABA

I am now 30,.......but i feel so much older,.....like life has taken it's toll on me.

@ FERNANDO

Thanks again for your kind words,....... and ihave kept strong,....... and i will keep strong.niceone.gif

Saida.M · (#12 (**permalink**))

Thanks for answering chantel - I hope your life just keep getting better, but by the sound of it, it already has!