if you were told by the doctors that you were going to have an disabled child would you keep it

buff-ting90210 · (#1 (**permalink**))

GET BACK 2 ME WITH YOUR VIEWS AS 2 WHY YOU WILL KEEP IT OR WHY NOT

KEEP IT REALbanana.gif

Angels Child · (#2 (**permalink**))

Im not under 18 but i would like to comment...from personal experience i have a sisterwho his disabled...downs to be more specific, i wasn't even born when my mum had her, but i couldn't imagine what she may have felt or thought once she found out that she was disabled. However, for my sister to still be around today at the age of 37, my mum looked past the defects so to speak and bought her into the world...

Me and my family love my sister no less, even though she doesn't live with us we all do try to visit her on a regular basis...and before you ask why she doesn't live with us, well its for reasons such as financially and just the generally care that my sister needs, my mum and the rest of us wouldn't be able to handle it.

If i was to run into the situation where i was told my child was disabled, then i wouldn't give it a second thought and i would keep it, but truth be told, whether or not i would put her in care, i wouldn't know unless i was actually in the position.

reddz · (#3 (**permalink**))

well..i believe dats it depends how severe the disability is, if its sumting as simple as aspurges or maybe he/she wont be able to walk, i think i wud keep the baby. but if its someting as where he/she will suffer and cant do anything for themselves i dont think i could handle dat kind of responsibilty. but not every1 is da same.

Saida.M · (#4 (**permalink**))

@reddz

Asperges can be 'difficult' too.

@All

Nocontest I'd keep the baby regardless. Thebiggest'problem' would be other people's really crass attitiudes.

maya · (#5 (**permalink**))

@ AngelsChild: I thought why your sister cannot live with you and ur family. She needs a special care 24/7 and it would have been hard for your family emotionally, physically etc and it is really better for your sister to be treated by special nurses , doctors in a special home. Anyways once I had brother but I didnt know him, he died after his birth because when he was being born, doctor accidently pressed his head and he got bleeding in his brain and thats why he died. But even if he hadnt died, he would be disabled now.

Sooofresh · (#6 (**permalink**))

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@ AngelsChild: I thought why your sister cannot live with you and ur family. She needs a special care 24/7 and it would have been hard for your family emotionally, physically etc and it is really better for your sister to be treated by special nurses , doctors in a special home. Anyways once I had brother but I didnt know him, he died after his birth because when he was being born, doctor accidently pressed his head and he got bleeding in his brain and thats why he died. But even if he hadnt died, he would be disabled now.

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sorry to hear about your brother. My friend had a normal pregnancey but during delivery the doctor used a vacum which exceeded the pressue and basically damaged the babys head. The child is severley disabled and my friend had to give up her life, career to care for her child 24 hrs. The hospital has accepted responsibilty and compensated her, but no amount of moneycould reverse what the doctor done.Personally i want to be well informed of what procdures could be carried out during labour and leave the decision to me.

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If the child was born disabled then the child is a gift from god still, but for the child to be made disabled due to medical practice well that is unthinkable,

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good news after courst cases and petitions the doctor lost his right to practice and returned to his homeland in India

lady dream · (#7 (**permalink**))

A BABY IS A GIFT FROM GOD. NO MATTER WHAT THE PROBLEM NO ONE SHOULD HAVE THE RIGHT TO GET RID OF THE BABY. ITS A BLESSIN

maya · (#8 (**permalink**))

@ Sooofresh: Thanks and sorry to hear abour friend's baby. Unfortunately this kind of things happen more and more times. I am sure I will be worried about my future children on the day I give birth to them. I am very afraid that the same thing will happen to me. Do you know what is the worst about my story? the doctor didnt even say SORRY to my mother who was only 19 years old when my brother died! he didnt even apologize!!!! last year when mum had a surgery she showed me the doctor who killed my brother! he still works! God knows how many children died because of him!

Phenobarbidoll09 · (#9 (**permalink**))

reddz wrote:

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well..i believe dats it depends how severe the disability is, if its sumting as simple as aspurges or maybe he/she wont be able to walk, i think i wud keep the baby. but if its someting as where he/she will suffer and cant do anything for themselves i dont think i could handle dat kind of responsibilty. but not every1 is da same.

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I agree with you, sometimes it does seem really cruel to let someone live when you know that theirquality of life will be zero.