as me a black jamaican people believe that all of us lose our tings quick time.. but for me, i just aint really been in a rush. However most of my boys have already lost der tings from when they were like 14/15!
I just want to know what you people think and should i keep up with my boys and just find a gyal dat i love and care for a stick wid her?
If you want to see a picture of me. pm me and i will send u a link ..
By the way im 16 yeh .. live in london.

@ BH

First welcome to the village.

You are doing the right thing by saving yourself and I must commend you on not being a follower. So many young people get themselves involved in situations they are not yet ready for, financially, emotionally and mentally. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at your ageand don't let anyone tell you that there is.niceone.gif

black_handsome i have to clp)applaudclp) you on your waiting for the right girl because everyone is in a hurry to grow up and i can sympathise with you even though i'ma girl becausei'm 16 as well and i know what it's like for all your friends to be talking about it and saying how good it was and you want to be able to join in but don't be fooled. two things the first that what you will find is that most boyz and now girlz lie about losing their virginity and unless you were there with them you never really know the truth: the second is the hype around sex is not i repeat is not a reason to lose your virginity because its a step for you into manhood, don't feel that because you are legal to have sex that you should now be ready.

i've always been told that when you look you don't find. if your conscious of the fact that you want to lose your virginity soon you might make that noticeable to the girlz you approach and lose sight of being in a loving relationship and just focus on the sexual part trust me you don't want to regret this precious experience. the sexual part of a relationship isn't just to do with sex it is also to do with affection, you know hugging, kissing, foreplay whatever leads to the sex. you should be comfortable with that before you take things any further.

i'm curious as to what you look like i have to say so if you could send me a pic to my email address it would be much appreciated. if you reply to my long post reply i'll get a note sent to my address and i'll know tha you'll want to contact me. either way good luck!!! niceone.gif

yeh thanks for the information all .. i will stick to what all of you have said and will just take my time. I just thought maybe i was doing something wrong.. i dunno, cookie yeh i dont mind

Thanks all though .. anymore replys just let them come in

safe!i'm new 2 dis ting so i dunno how it realy works but n e way i was reading ur ting on losing ur virginity and i reckon u shud just wait till ur ready and find da rite person.Dont rush in to it andsleep widn e gual just 4 da sake of it!Just coz ur a virgin dont mean ur doin sutton wrong.(p.s) send me a pic of urself! xmad gualx

whats wrong with being a virgin? being a man doesn't constitute sleeping with 40 girls in 1 year, it's more like sleeping with one woman for 40 years...thats what my pop told me.

Don't sacrifice your pride and self esteem to fulfill societal expectations and dont comply to the double standards we have. You are indedd on the right track, sex is better when it's with someone you care about and if you treat her with respect she will respect you more and you will have a clean and clear conscience and walk with your head held high.

Goman! you might be young but I bet you could teach our so called men a thing or two about self control.