Could you cite a good instance of men not getting emotionally attached as women?

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same thing basically im saying why do women hurt more than men and why are they so connected than men are in relationships and even when the relationship is over?

Silly presumption.

Men may not be as demonstrative (that is our way) but who says we are less attatched? not me.

Obviously if the guy is a player, he won't be too disappointed. In that case, the woman will have more reason to be disappointed and she will feel let down by the man. However, if there is a strong bond and he is totally committed, of course he will feel the pain. He might tell you it 's no big deal, but you are not there when he is sitting down in his room thinking about you, questioning and askinghimself what he might have done better.

If hehadworked or tried hardbefore hegot hold of the girl, he would feel so bad because he knows that all the hard work is over and has come to nothing. Trust me Men do feel the pain, butit is hard for him to admit to you(that is like making iteven more painful), whereas a woman will tell you straight away that the breakdown in relationship has affected her. Infactherface and mood willsay it all.

Men have mastered dont get attached to any lil woman who comes their way and shows attention. Its takes far more to make a man love a woman than vice versa. Women tend to believe they are in love the minute they are in a relationship because they have been conditioned to drag around the "romantic" and soap opera version of what it should be like and what they feel they should be in.

They are actually not in love but attached to the idea of being in love. That is what some women feel they HAVE to do. They ask 'where is this going?' two weeks into a relationship and all sorts... When they break up and cry over a man they hardly know, its not because they are upset at losing HIM, they are upset at the idea of not fufilling their 'role' and being in love.

It takes years to know and love someone long enough for them to make you that genuinely emotional, these things dont happen overnight. Men love women just as deeply but dont feel the need to display the false love described above, we were not conditioned that way.

Whena man is in love with his woman then there is nothing else he is more attached to and doesnt get over losing her easy at all. We dont sit about weeping but do feel the loss deeply. Some (men?) lose it in dramatic fashion like turning to booze or becoming players.

I said Its takes far more to make a man love a woman than vice versa

I should rephrase that and say it takes more for a man to love a woman than for a woman to BELIEVE she is in love with a man.

@DM Time isn't always a factor...either you like someone or you don't...imagine if it took as long too like a friend...as it does to 'fall in love'...when someone is good people or good stock...I think you know...

One lesson I would say I learnt the hard way is that time is never a good indicator that you know someone well...people are always a suprise...

The most realistic lesson you can learn about love/ relationships is that it will never last forever...and to enjoy all experiences for as long or as short as they last...

Time is obviously a big and avery importantfactor, how can you meet someone and start to think after 3 days that you can start a family with this guy, you can have 3 children, he is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Excuse me, this is not appropiate and what it does is that it leads to disaster in the end. Because you don't know him or her, you haven't spend quality time to know if he is gonna like all your habits.

Time matters and it is a big factor. Anyone will tell you that. What you can say abouttime is thatit may not necessary gaurantee thatevery relationship will work out.