virginity - Page 2

laYd33_FrEnZy · (#26 (**permalink**))

@ Richard Darial

At the end of the day, we all have our opinions, and if you need to say I sound like a slut in order to get yours across, then so be it, but you're obviously not reading my posts closely enough because I did actually state that:

Saying I don't see the point in waiting till marriage to have sex doesn't mean I'm advising people to jump into bed with sum1 at the first given opportunity, far from it.

I find it kind of sad that because Ihave a modern day view about fornication, you have to resort to saying i sound like a slut. If waiting untill marriage to have sex works for u, den boi, go ahead. I just don't wanna be the woman that finds out the hard way that it wasn't worth it.

Phenobarbidoll09 · (#27 (**permalink**))

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i'm still a virgin. i'm 15, and a lot of my friends have already lost it. Sometimes I feel like damn, it's only one time and then that's it, what's so special about it - just do it. but then others, it's the opposite and you feel you shouldn't just give it away. I would never do it just to fit in, that shows no strength of character. It is fair to say, some people loose it early because they are with the right person and the time is right, however I know people that have done it just to do it before they're 16 and others who do it because all of their friends have. Personally I'd only do anything if I felt it was right for me, not because of peer pressure, that includes drinking, drugs AND sex.

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clp)clp)clp)clp)clp)clp)clp)clp)clp)clp)clp)clp)cl p)If only half our youth had that mentality.

Richard Darial · (#28 (**permalink**))

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@ mr Darial, marrige isn't just about sex marrige is a commitment to the one you love it isn't just so you can just jump into bed all the time, after a while you stop getting it as much because you have other things to worry about.

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I'm going to stop you and correct you.

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Marriage is about reproduction. That's its function. You're actually supposed to "love" everyone. Marriage exists (originally existed) simply to continue the bloodlines. This is why in the old times parent had a much greater say in who their offspring would marry.

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The mistake people make is expecting to find the perfect partner, a so-called "soul mate" when such a thing doesn't exist UNTIL youbond with someone. The whole process has been mapped out from the time you first lay eyes on your prospective partner until the point at which birth is given to your offspring. It only works if you follow the intended order, and that order dictates you must be betrothed(bound by solemn intention) BEFORE you give away your virginity.

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Why? Because otherwise (having disposed of the most important step - the instigation of trust) there'd be no way for you to complete the natural process of bonding.

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I think you should wait to have sex untill marrige but for totally differant reasons,I don't want to catch some unwantedsickness from someone I don't have any plans for the future with, because whenI do find the personI want to spend the rest of my life withI want to be able to love them without thinkingI will cause them any pain.

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Just dispose with these thoughts. People don't jump on a bus because they think it's going to crash. They do it to get from A to B. Your goal in finding a partner is to find someone with whom you can perpetuate your bloodline and properly raise your offspring.The love part will only come if you are capable of loving or (more importantly) of being loved.

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As for the 13 year old boy and the 10 year old girl..... did anyone say they were ready did they, they were just young kids trying to act grown up and unfourtunatly it backfired, any girl under the age of 14 is not ready for sex at all because they will find it almost impossible to deal with the consequences.

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Her body is ready. That poster did not define what he meant by "ready."

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By the way, "wisdom"can only be derived through experience (either yours, or preferably some one else's). Try to remember that.

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Richard Darial · (#29 (**permalink**))

laYd33_FrEnZy wrote:

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@ Richard Darial

At the end of the day, we all have our opinions, and if you need to say I sound like a slut in order to get yours across, then so be it, but you're obviously not reading my posts closely enough because I did actually state that:

Saying I don't see the point in waiting till marriage to have sex doesn't mean I'm advising people to jump into bed with sum1 at the first given opportunity, far from it.

I find it kind of sad that because Ihave a modern day view about fornication, you have to resort to saying i sound like a slut. If waiting untill marriage to have sex works for u, den boi, go ahead. I just don't wanna be the woman that finds out the hard way that it wasn't worth it.

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What are you talking about?

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What exactly do you expect from a marriage? It's a simple thing.

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You open your legs and nine months later baby pops out.

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You don't need to create a shopping list of wanteds in order prevent yourself doing that.

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sierra mami · (#30 (**permalink**))

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sierra mami wrote: i look at it this way: you were born with your arm, if someone asked if they could have it would you give it to them that easily-knowing that weren't gonna get it back. same with your virginty...

Ammm........Well....not quite!
You were designed to funtion throughout your lifetime with 2 arms.
We were not designed to function throughout our lifetime with our virginity, otherwise the human race would not survive.

Respect

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[size=3]you didn't need to read too deep into what i wrote-it was just an example to put my point across.

Real Roxanne · (#31 (**permalink**))

Richard Darial wrote:

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Nah you dont have to wait untilYou get married to have sex you should just wait until you are ready. If u want to wait until marriage then good on you.

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No offense but that's silly. There's a thread around about a 13 year old boy who got a 10 year old girl pregnant. Obviously they were "ready."

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You need to wait until you get married for several reasons. The most important is so that your offspring have and grow up knowing two parents.

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If you have sex before you get married, then you tell me. What's the point of getting married?

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Dont tell me about what I need to do my morals are good and grounded as far as im concerned. Im 16 years old and I will wait until Im ready and that does not mean that im looking to loose my virginity to any and everybody. This thread is about virginity and thats what I replied to, it wasnt about the issue you mentioned and I would not be agreeable to it anyway. I hope we cleared that up before you go out on a wild tangent.

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Again I am only responding to this particular thread.

Richard Darial · (#32 (**permalink**))

Real Roxanne wrote:

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Richard Darial wrote:

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Real Roxanne wrote:

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Nah you dont have to wait untilYou get married to have sex you should just wait until you are ready. If u want to wait until marriage then good on you.

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No offense but that's silly. There's a thread around about a 13 year old boy who got a 10 year old girl pregnant. Obviously they were "ready."

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You need to wait until you get married for several reasons. The most important is so that your offspring have and grow up knowing two parents.

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If you have sex before you get married, then you tell me. What's the point of getting married?

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This thread is about virginity and thats what I replied to, it wasnt about the issue you mentioned and I would not be agreeable to it anyway.

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Your words. Not mine.

ladyflaunt · (#33 (**permalink**))

well im only 14 yh, buh i aint planninon havin sex untill i feel ready,wiv da right personand untill i feel im responsible enough to take on da consequenses that may occurget me, buh im not sure i wud get married coz ive whitnessed marraiges dat didnt work it but jus caused heartache and pain, buh da way u lot are goin on is as if ders no protection about, ders nuffin wrong wiv havin sex b4 ur married in my lil eye newayz,

also i dont see neting important wiv gettin married, it's jus 4 a title, 2 change ur last name, and sum ppl might say it stops cheatin and shit buh it doesnt at all, it jus changes da name to adultery lol, if u love sum 1 u dont need a paper to secure it, u dont need a ring to prove it either

Richard Darial · (#34 (**permalink**))

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well im only 14 yh, buh i aint planninon havin sex untill i feel ready,wiv da right personand untill i feel im responsible enough to take on da consequenses that may occurget me, buh im not sure i wud get married coz ive whitnessed marraiges dat didnt work it but jus caused heartache and pain, buh da way u lot are goin on is as if ders no protection about, ders nuffin wrong wiv havin sex b4 ur married in my lil eye newayz,

also i dont see neting important wiv gettin married, it's jus 4 a title, 2 change ur last name, and sum ppl might say it stops cheatin and shit buh it doesnt at all, it jus changes da name to adultery lol, if u love sum 1 u dont need a paper to secure it, u dont need a ring to prove it either

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No 14 year old is this stupid.

jazztalking · (#35 (**permalink**))

wrong. most 14 year olds are that stupid.lol

adazewa · (#36 (**permalink**))

I was 17 (late starter, yay!)when I first had sex with someone. He was a virgin as well. We waited till we were ready. And even though we're not together anymore, I don't regret anything.

I don't see virginity as something sacred, I'm not religious and I'm not moral minded, but in my honest opinion, if you first had sex at age 15, I really wanna know what sort of person you are now, haha. I know everyone says after your first time, the 2nd and 3rd aren't so important. This probably might be true in a case of a girl I used to work with, we're only months apart, nearly 19 years oldand she's slept with 26 guys, whereas I've slept with two and don't really plan to increase that number anytime soon.

There's more to being with guys than having sex, and if you were having sex at 15, I don't call that "mature", I just call that "f**ked."

But ooooonly my opinionconfused3