i would just like to know, if people lost theirs due to peer pressure etc... or if they are holding out for that special someone.

i waited for a decent person to come along first. most of my mates lost it cos every one else was doin it. i realise that alot of people my age and younger are losing theirsbecause of peer pressure. i didn't give up mine up so easiely. i look at it this way: you were born with your arm, if someone asked if they could have it would you give it to them that easily-knowing that weren't gonna get it back. same with your virginty...

i'm still a virgin. i'm 15, and a lot of my friends have already lost it. Sometimes I feel like damn, it's only one time and then that's it, what's so special about it - just do it. but then others, it's the opposite and you feel you shouldn't just give it away. I would never do it just to fit in, that shows no strength of character. It is fair to say, some people loose it early because they are with the right person and the time is right, however I know people that have done it just to do it before they're 16 and others who do it because all of their friends have. Personally I'd only do anything if I felt it was right for me, not because of peer pressure, that includes drinking, drugs AND sex.

im 15 and im stil a virgin. i go out wiv an 18 yr old boy and iv told him dat i aint redy 2 have sex wiv him. Infact, as stupid as it may sound, iv told him dat i aint havin sex till im married. Dat way, u no dat u r losin it 4 someone truely special. Ne way, dats wat i believ. Fink bout it, if u say dat u r gonna lose it wiv a boyfriend hu u fink is special, ull probaby end up havin sex wiv 7 bf coz each boy dat cums alone in ur life is a special bf. Dats my opinion

clp)

@ discrete

I really dont mean to shatter ur illusions but think there is a very high chance that ur boyfriend is cheating. It is very seldom that we find guys of that particluar age who are not very sexually active. I dnt wanna seem harsh but if you r not giving it to him well...i think he mayb getting it sumwhere else.

This leads me to the next point. Im 16 still a virgin..and i do have associates (not friends) who have lost their virginity at a very early age. Before they do it they get alll excited but aftermath isnt as sweet as they thought it wouldhave been...some for bombarded with the problems of pregnancy and some shed tears becoz the guy dumps them a couple days after. When people come to me with problems like that i tend not to give them any sympathy..simply becoz they dnt deserve it!!!!! it's their own fault as they knew wat the consquences were....

I am onli 16 and i dnt think im ready ..its notyour parents decision or the guys decision..itsyour decision becoz onliu kno wen ur physically or mentally ready for the possible outcomes of having sex. So dnt get pressured becoz u feel ur the last one

"who last laufs..laufs the best" same thing goes for sex.

oopps..i forget 1 more thing...

When i read the thread ppl keep saying u shood wait for the right guy...well...how r u going to know if that particular guy is the one?..

Most guys display the characteristics of wat gurls call 'the one' but verily verily i say unto guys will do or say anything for sum pum pum...wat if 'that special one' dnt come anytime soon' r u still gonna wait to loose ur virginty with him even if it takes fifty years?

LOSE UR VIRGINITY WITH SUM1 U LOVE AND TRUST AND SUM1 THAT RESPECTS U AND MOST OF ALL SUM1 U DNT THINK U WILL REGRET LOSING IT WITH.

PS- not bcoz u love sum1 means they r 'the one'clp)

Fanks 4 dat coz come 2 fink of it, I get wat ur saying.

Wat I dnt understand is y is evry one tryin 2 lose dey virginity in dey young life, its another way of wastin der life away. Iv got a friend hu kinda got presurised into doin it coz der boi was beggin her and kept tellin her dat he loved her and all dis shit. Nw she dnt go out wiv him but she has sex wiv him occasionally. Nw, dat is disgustin!

My first time wasn't a waste of time. I have no regrets at all. But I guess thats because I held out for the right person.

I'm a bit older so perhaps I can offer some sensible advice.

Get married before you give it away. Before you get married watch your potential spouse (for years if necessary) to make sure that:

1) They're loyal and faithful

2) You can stand them

3) They think exactly the way you do

Fair enough, if you wanna wait until you're married to loose ur virginity then go ahead, but what happens when you have sex with ur new husband/wife and u find out that they are completly crap in bed?? A rubbish sex life can break a relationship and even a marriage, no matter how much in love u are with them. I know I couldn't risk the rest of my life with a person that I havn't been intimate with.

I'm not religious and don't see the point in waitin until marriage, but i can see why some people would rather wait. Im almost 17 and I lost mine when I was 15, not because i was pressured, but because I was ready and have no regrets.

sierra mami wrote: i look at it this way: you were born with your arm, if someone asked if they could have it would you give it to them that easily-knowing that weren't gonna get it back. same with your virginty...


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Ammm........Well....not quite!
You were designed to funtion throughout your lifetime with 2 arms.
We were not designed to function throughout our lifetime with our virginity, otherwise the human race would not survive.

Respect

laYd33_FrEnZy wrote:
Fair enough, if you wanna wait until you're married toloose ur virginity then go ahead, but what happens when you have sex with ur new husband/wife and u find out that they are completly crap in bed??

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How does losing your virginity at 15 (or indeed before marriage) ensure that your new husband/wife would not be crap in bed? Unless you loose it to the one you intend to get married to and you are testing them out before you marry them. You can hardly claim that is what you are doing at 15. In fact I very much doubt marriage is on the mind of the average 15 year old who sets out to lose his/her virginity.

Respect