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There is no denying that there isstil some good brothers out there, but the problem is they are so hard to kind.Ur post kinda puzzled me coz i dnt reali think any sensible sister would be on'a link thing' if the guy dnt like her for who she is.

There is nuff manz out there that are jus on a pum quest but its up to the woman to have to some form of common senseto recognisethat she is being used. I realise that nowadays women blame men for a majority of there problems but if we opened up our eyes to the big wide world then we woodnt be able to blame any1 for our prblems.

On the other hand if the woman wants to b a victim of a man's pum quest well no 1 cant stop her. Everything is done through determination and if u r determined not to let a man walk all over u then he wont and if u want to b walked over welljus lie down an tek it.

There is no denying that there isstil some good brothers out there, but the problem is they are so hard to kind.Ur post kinda puzzled me coz i dnt reali think any sensible sister would be on'a link thing' if the guy dnt like her for who she is.

There is nuff manz out there that are jus on a pum quest but its up to the woman to have to some form of common senseto recognisethat she is being used. I realise that nowadays women blame men for a majority of there problems but if we opened up our eyes to the big wide world then we woodnt be able to blame any1 for our prblems.

On the other hand if the woman wants to b a victim of a man's pum quest well no 1 cant stop her. Everything is done through determination and if u r determined not to let a man walk all over u then he wont and if u want to b walked over welljus lie down an tek it.

Not directly aimed at you Lady_dnt_ramp and ranting on here a bit but:

The thing is there's a lot of young girls out there who go out 'on road' and sexualise themselves. Bouncing the little batty they have down the road, cocing the little thing the have front and behind and exposing their little bodies in all kinds of cold weathers with some shocking wear.

That's not the way a woman or a mother should present herself in my opion. Only certain women present themselvse like that. And if that's what you have to do to make yourself feel good because of the attention you gain from it, you need to change your thinking in my opinion.

If you present yourself as such are these young boys supposed to lie to themselves and deny what their bodies are telling them in terms of what they see when they're at that age when their hormones are raging and their minds are on sex ?

If you are decent and present yourself as such, not just boys but everyone else should treat you as such. And if you have such thinking about yourselfyou should go for the decent boys and not the thug/'badman' type because there's no way you should expect some of these 'badman' types to change. I know you'all know and see the decent ones but don't check them because they ain't 'sexy' or 'hot' in your eyes or for whatever reason I don't know. Then y'all complain when reality comes to you.

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A few years ago no girl was checking me because I wasn't one and have never been oneof these thug types. They'd try a thing because they thought I was handsome but as soon as they realised that I was 'good' they'd run a mile, as if they'd be embarrassed to be with a good young black man as if I'm supposed to follow the 'little thug' image of some of these boys 'on road'. But it seems a good few years down the line they're growing out of that girlish thinking.

Firstly @east i cant believe what you said about some girls liking you because you was handsome and then not liking you because you were a 'nice guy' thats so stupid.

Personally, i dont see the big attraction with the whole 'thug' style' and theres definitly still some nice guys out there. You cant jusge all black guys by just looking at a selected type of black guy - there not all the same. And i totally agree with what you guys have said about girls needing to use there own sense to see whether their being used or not..

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i aint attracted 2 sweetboi's i prefer dem badboi's, i dnt kno y i do but...y is all da critisism negative bout dese badboi's, futher more sum of dese thugs are not all about sex u kno, sum of dem dnt even hav time 4 all dat , sum of dem hav gone fru tough times in life and jus need sum 1 2 show dem love, im not sayin dat none of dem are on it 4 sex, but it depends on da impression girls or women have on dem init

i aint attracted 2 sweetboi's i prefer dem badboi's, i dnt kno y i do but...y is all da critisism negative bout dese badboi's, futher more sum of dese thugs are not all about sex u kno, sum of dem dnt even hav time 4 all dat , sum of dem hav gone fru tought times in life and jus need sum 1 2 show dem love, im not sayin dat none of dem are on it 4 sex, but it depends on da impression girls or women have on dem init