Here's a topic similar to the previous thread.

I'm 20. I'm female. I've never had a boyfriend in my life.

Is there something wrong with me?

Well I wouldn't say there is something wrong with you, but if you want a boyfriend but you can't get one, then that would indicate to me that you have some issues that need addressing. As a young person it much easy to find someone, young people tend to carry less mental baggage. I would suggest you take a long look at yourself, because all answers you have. GOOD LUCK

michsm2 wrote:
yes there is a problem. it's probably normal reaction to what ever is affecting you in my case parent's divorce(if my parents are divorced and the divorce rate is 50% why try is what I say) but you are going to have to solve it some way some how

I am in the same boat and I don't feel there's anything wrong with me. It depends on what your reasons for not having a boyfriend are. I don't see it as a problem, boyfriends have just never been a priority for me.
Do you think there is something wrong with you not having a boyfriend?

offtopic.gif... Maybe it's because you post your 20 and still single in the under 18's forum....



In all seriousness, there's nothing wrong with you, like someone mentioned earlier, it's only a problem if you think it is a problem. Try not to concentrate too much on it, you know if you look too hard you won't find it.Try just improving you social life, clubs, bars etc.. Are at University or in education? If not perahps join a class.May be some people for you to talk to there..

Spark

interesting topic..actually our pastor at my church was talking about young ladies taking so long to get a man, and playing hard to get...until they find themselves at an age where no man wants them any more.

anyways, i would not say there's something wrong with, it all depends on what your doing, are you saying that the reason you have not got a man is thatyou always reject men, or thatmen never ask you out?

Pm yah pic and let me see or post em up if yah cool with it.



Then we can judge... Are u from london? yah have to really check yah self properly if you think yah ok. then dont see why you should have a problem

michsm2 babe dont worry about it...trust me. the right guy will pass thru ur life..and whether ur 20 or 30 doesnt matter. its better to b fully developed(body&mind) n then enter a relationship. u wont lose yourself cus u kno who u are moreat age20+ then when ur 13. see ive been in *relationships* since i was 9 lol...hardly called serious relationships...but u havent missed ne thing trust me...thank god now i found my soulm8 and im very blessed..i know im still young but i know shes the1 for me..and im planning to marry her wether she likes it or not lol

Well, I think it's complicated.

1. I always get the sexual, perverted stares from men in their 30s and 40s. Granted, I'm5'10" and have a womanly-shaped body. I understand they are trying to be nice and say they're established, but they're umm...a little too old? lol confused2

2. I never get asked out by guys my age range (18 - 25) . They seem to like chatty, fine-a$$ women. I'm quite reserved in my books (after all I'm in college for my education), but I like to have a good time as well....

Well it sounds like you want quite a "reserved" boyfriend in your age group. But thats the problem, being reserved means that they are probably to shy to maybe come and speak to you. Its only when they get older they would normally start to have more courage.

Best advice I would give would if you see a "reserved type" potential boyfriend, make the first move.

Michism2,

We don't know you, but just because you're 20 doesn't mean, you're weird. I was 20 when I had my first boyfriend. Like you I thought that not having one was odd but when I got into it, I realized that I really wasn't ready for it and just wanted the whole thing to be over. Since then I had a couple more of them. I'll be 35, Not long ago,( allmost six years ago)I wasn't dating anybody before I met my current boyfriend. Even with him, I had no intentions of dating him. I was enjoying my life without having the relationship responsibilites. Th eonly difference with me at 20 and at almost 35 is that I was more ready to handle a relationship, I understood the elements of having a lasting relationship, and now that I'm older, I'm more settled and no longer want to be in a rat race, whether I'm single or involved with someone. Now that I have a boyfriend, my friends think I should marry and have kids. My opinion: If it's meant for me to have one than god will let have it all. Mindyouthat atage,it's more difficult for women to have kids at that age, but I much would rather chance not having one , than to have one and I know that I'm not enjoying my life because of them.

I can think of many of my peers who went and wanted to have their fun at 20 and even far younger( like 13-17). In their case some of them went on to become extremely young grandmothers( and they won't admit to it), some want to go out an party when they can't do it and some of them are having regrets of being in marriage( in some of their cases ) young. Society tell us what age we should have relationships, but at that age, you should be having fun with /without a spouse, go to college( that is if you're not attending) get your degree, think about your own well being and if a realtionship means that much to you, then get your boyfriend. Relationships( good ones) is a lot of work. Ask yourself do you want to be so bogged down at such a young age. Though I cannot speak for you or anybody else, my experience as I just mentioned on here was I felt smothered, miserable and felt like a 90 year old in a 20 year old's body. I wasn't giving myself more time to experience the other joys of life.