Is light skin in style? - Page 2

The Last African · (#26 (**permalink**))

lilsoulful1 wrote:

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Soulstarr wrote:

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Actually I think its a perfectly legitimate question and I can see why it was asked.

Some of you older folks are too harsh! :P

You're tellin me you don't remmeber bein at school at that age and getting that impression? cos I cirtainly do. And i know for a fact that a lot of people, male AND female would only go for lighter skinned folk cos their friends were doin it. hell i know someone who thinks along similar lines now and he's in his 20's! I think thats what Diva meant by "fashion". Sad thing is, some people don't grow out of that stigma. I know a guy who refuses to go out with black women and will only go for mixed race girls. His words we're "its all about mixed race girls innit". When my boyfriend asked him how he came to this conclusion, he couldn't give a clear answere which suggests to me, that he hasn't grown out of the f**ked up mentality that you tend first experience when you are out of school. And this boy is as dark skinned as they come so what does that say to you?

Anyway lilsoulful1 makes a valid point. No one complains when you say you are primarily attracted to dark skin but when you say you are primarily attracted to lightskin, there is a problem. However, my answer to that is that the origin of being only attracted to light skin had often stemmed more from the self hate model that we experience day to day. So theres nothing wrong with having a light skin preference but its the reson behind it that causes the debate. Are people attracted to light skin purely because they are taught NOT to apprecitate light skin? I was once seing a guy that freely admitted that his primary attractioon was indeed to light skin girls. But on average, the larger proportion of women he'd been out with (including myself) had been far from light skinned. Thats an example of someone who has a preference but by no means lets it put a restriction on who he decides to be with.

Just my two pennies...blktype

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Yep, very good points Soulstarr ....... I myself, i'm young, but I don't have any prefrence at all, cause I find blacks incredibly attractive in both shades, and then theres the blacks that I don't find attractive at all from both shades. I myself IN MY LIFE COULD NEVER EVER say I don't like dark skin or either light skin cause it's just not true. To be honest quite frankly, black people to me are just BLACK no matter the shade ... I don't even see the skin tone really, it's just the black man and woman

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While I get your point I found the lines quites funny, since there are inhnerent contradiction in them...

The Last African · (#27 (**permalink**))

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I dont think i'm wrong. somebody called tobitrice or something said in this thread that he's so glad to be male, because this whole lightskin/darkskin issue is solelya female thing. Firstly men started this nonsense (and i'd probably guess it was white guys), from the top doggs in the media showing us the supposed standard featuresof so called beauty. Dont get me wrong, there are some blackfemales who have issues with their skin and ethnicity, but that noway outnumbers black men, just check out the amount of black male serial interracial daters, andmany black malestrictly interracial daters say the most nasty sh*te about black women like their mothers.like you said check out music videos, whens the last time you have seen areal blackwoman. these artists do actually have say with regards to which video girl they wana have in their video. But look at who they tend to choose.

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black male serial interracial daters...??? WTF...confused2

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A lot of people that do dateinterracially do say the most hateful things whether théy are black men OR women...and that's fact.

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And yes I see a lot of black women in videos...more than there should be especially in those nasty as rap videos...

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Black female artists are different, 9 out 10 times they have a black video guy.

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I was watching Amerie on the tyra banks show the other day, and she was speaking about how a lot of BLACK MEN WERE, the way they were only interested in her racial background, "so what r u, fillipino wow man, your good hair blah blah blah," she said how shallow that is and that she has no time for guys like that. she said why cant jus being korean or jus being black be beautiful, why it gotta be mixed to considered beautiful, and she's so right.

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Actually it was Tyra that mentioned black men. Amerie said nothing about black men. As a matter of facts Ameria often talks about howoversexualised black people are. And a few epidsodes later Tyra has a black woman who married an Korean man just so that her children would get "good hair". This is issue is far from onesided.

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A black male or female can suffer from self hate and have the whole skin issue problem. But I still think black men are the worse.

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The world does not recognise pureblack/darkskin asbeing beautiful period.It seems like a lot of black men have that view too. (black but not too black)

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And black women, I have gotten in verbal fights (in the past) with black women about it...they tell me that light skin is more beautiful...

You are talking from experience and that does actually mean it is that way...

Kunjufu · (#28 (**permalink**))

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Soulstarr · (#29 (**permalink**))

Dark Prince wrote:

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While I get your point I found the lines quites funny, since there are inhnerent contradiction in them...

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Care to elaborate? cos apart from one typo which i later edited in the original post... i don't where confused3

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The Last African · (#30 (**permalink**))

Kunjufu wrote:

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It's aight it's not going there...I'll keep from posting if we go there...mista exceptions

The Last African · (#31 (**permalink**))

Soulstarr wrote:

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Dark Prince wrote:

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While I get your point I found the lines quites funny, since there are inhnerent contradiction in them...

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Care to elaborate? cos apart from one typo which i later edited in the original post... i don't where confused3

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It wasn't you I meant, I wasresponding to lilsouldful post...

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I am sorry if I was a bit unclear...

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Soulstarr · (#32 (**permalink**))

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curvymama · (#33 (**permalink**))

As far as what I heard, Amerie said black men, not all black men, she was just explaining what she had said to a magazine when she had an interview, and she herself said black men.

I also saw that other black woman on the show, who went with a korean so her baby did'nt have her hair. (which is pathetic) and it took a mixed girl on that show to say any type of hair can be be good hair, as long as you look after it, groom it well. you dont have to be anything other than jus black to have good beautiful hair. which is so true.

really i was just explaining that genetics and light skin/dark skinsagais not just a female thing or even a black thing.

obviouslysome black male and female do exclusively interacially date, and there are someignorant ones that say negative things about black people, some of there non black partners even say negative things,

Many black girls indeed may wear a weave or straighten their hair, but that does not mean they wanna be white, coz those same girls would gladly get with black guys, marry them, have beautiful dark skin babies etc.

I still believe more black men than women have hangups about the black race.thats my opinion.

And in myopinion thats why many many more black men are serial exclusive ignorant interracial daters than women.(but not allblack male interracial daters are ignorant and full of self hate)

The Last African · (#34 (**permalink**))

curvymama wrote:

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As far as what I heard, Amerie said black men, not all black men, she was just explaining what she had said to a magazine when she had an interview, and she herself said black men.

I also saw that other black woman on the show, who went with a korean so her baby did'nt have her hair. (which is pathetic) and it took a mixed girl on that show to say any type of hair can be be good hair, as long as you look after it, groom it well. you dont have to be anything other than jus black to have good beautiful hair. which is so true.

really i was just explaining that genetics and light skin/dark skinsagais not just a female thing or even a black thing.

obviouslysome black male and female do exclusively interacially date, and there are someignorant ones that say negative things about black people, some of there non black partners even say negative things,

Many black girls indeed may wear a weave or straighten their hair, but that does not mean they wanna be white, coz those same girls would gladly get with black guys, marry them, have beautiful dark skin babies etc.

I still believe more black men than women have hangups about the black race.thats my opinion.

And in myopinion thats why many many more black men are serial exclusive ignorant interracial daters than women. (but not allblack male interracial daters are ignorant and full of self hate)

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I don't want kunjufu to have fit ot something (the dude is a father after all) so I will PM, cause I am sure I can say download the episode if so wanted not that I care that much. I wil Pm you later or so... if it is of concern...and I am outha here...sort of..

curvymama · (#35 (**permalink**))

Dark Prince wrote:

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curvymama wrote:

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As far as what I heard, Amerie said black men, not all black men, she was just explaining what she had said to a magazine when she had an interview, and she herself said black men.

I also saw that other black woman on the show, who went with a korean so her baby did'nt have her hair. (which is pathetic) and it took a mixed girl on that show to say any type of hair can be be good hair, as long as you look after it, groom it well. you dont have to be anything other than jus black to have good beautiful hair. which is so true.

really i was just explaining that genetics and light skin/dark skinsagais not just a female thing or even a black thing.

obviouslysome black male and female do exclusively interacially date, and there are someignorant ones that say negative things about black people, some of there non black partners even say negative things,

Many black girls indeed may wear a weave or straighten their hair, but that does not mean they wanna be white, coz those same girls would gladly get with black guys, marry them, have beautiful dark skin babies etc.

I still believe more black men than women have hangups about the black race.thats my opinion.

And in myopinion thats why many many more black men are serial exclusive ignorant interracial daters than women. (but not allblack male interracial daters are ignorant and full of self hate)

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I don't want kunjufu to have fit ot something (the dude is a father after all) so I will PM, cause I am sure I can say download the episode if so wanted not that I care that much. I wil Pm you later or so... if it is of concern...and I am outha here...sort of..

okay