heart break...did you get even?blkcheersREVENGE IS BEST SERVED COLD



I was a still a virgin when my first love dumped me to get his groove on with someone more experienced. So I called him after I had licked my wounds and told him I was ready to give myself to him and he invited me to his house, he said we only had an hour because his parents had called from the airport. So he got out his toys and I strapped him to his bed and turned him on like crazy and left him lying there in his vest with his fly open, I knew is parents were due back any minute from a holiday ( and yes they found him in that position (his mate confirmed this), he never spoke to me again).

Cor blimey, I'd hate to dredge up those memories of my first realheart break. However, I did not seek revenge intentionally. I believe in Karma - that worked to redress the balance

I was 18/19 and thought I was in love (blkfishslap<at myself).

We had been drifting apart, so I went to the Cinema with this other dude. All I did was watcha film and that is it.

I told the guy I was seeing, at first he was angry etc but then he got over it but it was never the same.

Looking back now I laughhhhhhhhhh so much. Ahhhh those were the days!

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Wonderwhat happened:?....

Footprints,

By the words of your post you didn't have sex with him and thank god that you didn't. You have probably heard you mother or good friends say it, but if a man really loves you, he's going to wait on you and he's not going to walk out on you. Hon, just because you decide to sleep with him doesn't mean he was going to stick around. That was his way of manipulating you into his bed and leaving you after the fact. Rarely ,do they do that, virgin or non virgin. Lame it it may sound to some people, there is nothing wrong with being a virgin, nor is there is anything wrong with a man to wait on you. Any fool can have sex, but to make love is person who not only want and going to be with you during the think and the thick.

It may have hurt you that he left you for another " experienced" woman, but look at it this way, you're not missing anything. Trust me and the posters on the Blacknet. What would have happended if you would have gotten deeply involved with this guy.This could have been your future 1- The man could have gotten you pregnant and left you and the kids2 Even worse, you be stuck with some veneral disease or AIDS( not to say that you wouldn't use any protection, but the what if factor has to come up), You almost haveing a nervous breakdown because of heartbreak . I'm 35 years old and In my younger days, I remembered women/girls who talked with you. as a result some of them are grandparents before theri time. I lost two good friends to AIDS and one who was a victim of domestic violence because of her " dreamguy".I don't know your age( I'm going to assume that you may be young), but look at your virginity as a blessing. Don't rush into a relationship if it is meant to be, that special man will come and with him you're going to make love in more than one way and it's going to be special , between you and him.

LOL @ this thread.

I remember demanding my Christmas presents back....

Footprints,

Np prob ..and ewwww!to your " best friend"?( shall we say supposed best friend). I'm sorry but there is no way I could sleep with my best friends man and believe me, some of my friends husband's are nice, even drop dead gorgeous men. To me, that is like sleeping with my relatives--no blood incest. If I found out that my best friend did some crap like that, I'll definately disown her and painful as it can be, I'll banish my boyfriend for life! How could she?!

I've been there. The temptation was great and everybody tell you that to keep you man, but some of these same people along with some caring folks scared me into not doing it. Like I said, I seen the consequences of them " giving in". two days ago, my mother called the mother of one of my good friends to see what she's up to. I remembered her. I thought that she was going to private school, be the Harvard bound graduate, at least that her mother bred her up to be. The next thing I knew, I hear guys that she was " easy" and they hung around her home like leeches. The next thing I knew she became a young mom at 16 , then, 17, 18, 20 and 25--I'm not jokin' either. She's now the same age as me( going on 36). The last that I heard from her, she was seeling her body for crack and she's in and out of those kids lives. I'm just dazed, but she gave in to temptation( in her case)You're still young. If I were you I'll celebrate being single and being clean. It may not seem like it( Even myself, I would think that my folks were living in the Peking-man age), but later in life, you will thank yourself for being such.

CeeCee your advice is brilliant clp)

lil,

Thanks a bunch!