TO SISTA GIRL,

U wrote: Haven't you ever been told that it's rude to stare?

@obal85

Do not keep your eyes closed, but do keep eye contact with the woman you are speaking to. Just remember to blink, you know sometimes you catch someone daydreaming they have a look in their eyes which is distant and they are not blinking they are staring off into their own thoughts, that is like staring.

Ican't explain any further as you do not understand what I'm saying.

TO SISTA GIRL,

U wrote: @obal85

Do not keep your eyes closed, but do keep eye contact with the woman you are speaking to. Just remember to blink, you know sometimes you catch someone daydreaming they have a look in their eyes which is distant and they are not blinking they are staring off into their own thoughts, that is like staring.

Ifhe looks at you, he makes you feel uncomfortable. When he stares at you, while he chats you up, you find it rude. What exactly do you want?

Ican't explain any further as you do not understand what I'm saying.


You dont know and understand what you want.

You dont know and understand what you want

Obal you are only figuring this out now? LMAO

You will only frustrate and confuse yourself here bro, let it go lol

Be Natural.......Be complimentary(if U genuinely mean it......Don't give false compliments....Women are not stupid..)..........Be sociable......Be interested in what they have to say and LISTEN sometimes.......Don't go I THIS...I THAT...I,I,Iblkblah...Be amusing......If appropriate compliment their intellect and personality as well as their appearance.....If appropriate make Ladies feel the're the most special person in the room....Don't criticise(until U know them well and then only constructively....Girls/Ladeez don't normally "do" criticism.....lol..........Don't take yourself too seriously and be prepared to laugh at yourself just as much as U laugh at others(Very important),,,,,,Don't be up your own ass.......Show U can take a joke as well as give it.......but in essence just be yourself and don't put on any false airs or graces(you'll soon get sussed)....show strength of character(be exactly the same in private as when in front of your M8's.....(f*** what they or anybody else thinks)....if U do something wrong be Man enough to apologise Face-To-Face....be considerate.....be strong when necessary...other times be sweet...try to get the right balance......Remember that every Young Lady is unique and Special in her own way....Don't be afraid to let her know.....Remember Actions speak louder than words....Don't give the impression U know it all be willing to learn as well.......that'll do for now....niceone.gif

Just tell her you've been secretly stalking her for the past five years. Stalking is just another way of expressing love afterall. It's just so somisunderstand thesedays.. Sending the lady in question photographs of herself is always a romantic gesture.

She'll think wow he really is interested in me. Maybe I should get to know him.

And don't be fooled. Restraining orders are a sign of love too.

Just engage the person, forget the chatting up business. To be honest with you if people could talk comfortablelyin person like theydo on this forum then the world would be alot more interesting, and nicer too.


Just use your imagination.

I don't worry about how to start a conversation. I just wait until some girl is obviously interested. That is an open door to say hi, at least.

*pats belly* Haven't been getting too many open door lately.

If I see a girl that looks fine, or is dressed nice, or has one good feature on which I would like to comment, I just look for any friendly eye contact. If I get it, I will walk up, smile (this is natural, because I have fun doing this, not some car sales polished approach) and say "Wow, you sure have pretty eyes!" or whatever. "You look fabulous in that outfit" translation: nice ass, breasts, waist, legs, whatever it is you are showing off but it would be rude to mention specifically, so I am saying it in a tactful, gentlemanly way, and you have the satisfaction of knowing I noticed your assets without being hypnotized to lustful stupidity by them.

And, then I turn and walk away. It is usually AFTERI turn and walk away that the girl will say "thanks!" because she then realizes you aren't trying to follow it up with "So, my place or yours, YEAH BABY! DO I MAKE YOU HORNY! DO I??? DO I MAKE YOU RAAAHNDY???? YEAHAHA!

I have had several girls then carry the conversation to the next level after that. Such as, asking "So, are you from around here" etc. Meaning "let's talk some more." But, really, the first seven months after I left my wife (it was a frigid deathmatch from hell, I wasn't just dropping her on a whim. Seven years of arctic hatred was enough from her) For the first seven months, all I would DO was say nice things to girls, because I felt no release to pursue a relationship of any sort.

I have found that the sincere compliment, given to a girl who is already looking at you in that amused, friendly way, followed by the turn around and walk off, is all you need. I am usually suprised if they DO want to talk. Because my motive was not to GET anything. Just to GIVE a compliment.

And women RARELY run into THAT, that is for sure. Free compliment, sincere, not "wow you look so thin" when she weighs more than you do. Don't lie. That is a gigantic dead giveaway. This quite fat woman at one job I was delivering furniture to once had a nice looking dress on, which really did look good. Markedly better than what she was wearing the day prior. So I said to her "That's a nice looking dress." She appreciated the compliment. It was real. And BELIEVABLE.

Women know what looks good that they have. If you notice it and comment on it, they will like it. Unless they didn't want you to get anywhere near them to begin with.

I do not treat a compliment like a conversation opener. I treat it as it is: The entire conversation. End of story. Have a nice day. See you in heaven, if no sooner, ta ta.

Not like the Gary Shandlingcomedy where he is an alien being (all-male race. Had to have a penis attached for the mission of blending in on the earth and finding a woman to have some kids with) conselled by his senior on how to impregnate an Earth woman: Say this: "That is attractive footwear. May I insert my penis?"

Women are so sick of that. In whatever form it takes.

That`s a gag !