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10-07-04, 06:50 AM
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i understand what u're sayin darlin, im only 17, but been through enough unfortunately in the past..sum ppl learn the hard way and others learn off other ppls experiences.... wat im tryin to say is,at 16, try as much as possible to focus on urself and do wat U think is right and focus on wat u want to achieve in future, meaningprioritiseur aims, dont spend too much thinking time trying to please this boy..bcos odds are that u care for him morethan u should or more than he does, and ureworth more;this is the effect boys hav on girls. The trick is telling ureself u dontneed a boy in ur life to feel complete, u understand??...u could have as much fun wid friends..but like isaid i dont kno ur situation but dont feel u need to please anyone yeah?! bcosu dontwant a situation wer d boy starts to use ufor wateva or starrts takin advantage!Having a boyfriend to me is fine BUTboys at dis age would definetely be interested in sex so its up to u to make dat decision, and if u do do it, make sure ure doin it for URSELF! not bcos u want to keep him, if unneed to impress him to make him stay, den u need to find someone dat will truly appreciate u, not jus for ur looks, and dat mite b later on in life, dats y im sayin, do evrythin now for urself, dont waste it on no one. (oh yeah, wateva happns, be safe)
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Just remember one thing Babe....as an older Guy.....many Boys/Men take advantage of the fact that a large proportion of Girls think the're "special" and better than the pack......the overwhelming majority in my experience !.....so the Girl assumes "Hey! the Boy has no reason to cheat on me as he won't get much better than me!" so they assume he's not a Player where in their teens and early 20's (at least!) most boys/men are!......by the way I'm not implying that you're not but be aware!
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10-07-04, 03:55 PM
@MIXEDRACEGIRL - I dont want to upset you but I do not think that guy is really interested in you. Well, it's a good thing if he doesnt neglect his friends , goes out with them sometimes but it's also true if he was really into you, he would want to spend most of his time with you. And at this age most guys are very sex-oriented which is a natural thing because they "live themselves out" at this age , and they are not too mature at this age and it's alright. Dont get me wrong, I am not saying that its alright if they cheat on girls and/or want only sex but like I said at this age they learn things about love, sex, relationships, women etc so that when they find the ONE they will not want to have anybody else, only that certain one.
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10-07-04, 10:04 PM
mixed race gal all i can say is that if you don't trust the brother, then you heart is probably telling you to drop him and move on,if you are just being alittle paraniod, give him the benefit of doubt and see if he'll change his ways.remember you don't have to wait a lifetime 4him to change coz change can take place in 24 hours.however do concentrate on ua studies and don't loose any sleep over a GUY.
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10-07-04, 10:27 PM
IM 15 AND I DON'T HAVE A BOYFRIEND Y? BECAUSE AT THE MOMENT THERY R A WASTE OF TIME. AT THE MO THINK ABOUT UR EXAMS. YEAH U CAN CHILL OUT WID THEM AND HAVE FUN. IF U R GONNA HAVE A BOYF DON'T TAKE IN SERIOUSLY. AT THIS AGE GUYS R LOOKIN 4 FUN.
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11-07-04, 07:33 AM
yeah I agree with Lady Dream, thats what I was talking about. They are just looking for "fun", so do not let any guy use you, never be naive!
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11-07-04, 09:40 AM
In this day and age it breaks my heart to seewomen wasting time and energy on keeping a man.
You are 16 years old dear, spend your time having fun with your friends, study hard , think about uni, think about travelling. To hell with the boy.
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11-07-04, 09:47 AM
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In this day and age it breaks my heart to seewomen wasting time and energy on keeping a man.
You are 16 years old dear, spend your time having fun with your friends, study hard , think about uni, think about travelling. To hell with the boy.
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I have reluctantly got to concur, I really don't understand this need to be defined or bevalidated by having a 'man' ..dyam what is the rush to grow up, Soofresh is correct you should living life FIRST...that is how you get life experiences.
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