I don't care what people say. We have different taste, there is nothing wrong with any skin colour, but sometimes you have a choice. You choose who you want and not let people dictate to you. I am proud to be an African, love my Skin and colour.........but then again Ican picturewho I want.

Some people like myself don't bother with all this crazy music stuffs, it ain't my bisz.......... but I know what type of girl i want. There are lots of good girls out there and bad ones, I personally prefer and am attracted toBrown Skin girls.............it is my preference, but obviously it has to be a good one. I one my eyes wide and I know what I like, it aint any slave or whatever mentality. It is just a personal choice. So I don't think that there is a light skin mentality a such, people do choose what they prefer and you can't blame them for that.

The issue of light skin vs dark Skin is rubbish, it is those who have too much time on their hand that think about such. Any normal people have will know what they want, it is their choice.

@ hurricane......prepare for the backlash bro......It's officially a crime to say you like light skinned women (if thats what you mean by "brown",I know thats how Africansterm lighter skin)out in the open....................you gotta keep that sh*t inside around these parts.............. (just kidding! kinda )

@realistic 101: sometimes it just helps to vent (as you have done) sometimes we take ourselves a bit too seriously..................we all have more to us than just our race........and maybe we should just concentrate on giving what we have to offer........you only get one chance at life, and this sure aint a dress rehearsal!



Chin up girl!

was there something in particular which upsets you.....or is it just in general?

i'm confused at this topic... :?

i would not want to be anything but black! what type of talk are u chatting... i know this is an under 25s forum but... what u said was juvenile... firstly i see u mentioned that Africansseewhite people as godsand use bleach creams. but for a sister living in the 21st Century you basically stating the same exact reasons why most african/west indians people use bleaching products... cos they are sick of being black. isn't that what u said??????confused3

how u turn a topic like that into a positive message to black people when u know for a full right that its negative. urbeing anegative sister, its seems like u were finding it hard to explain ur principles to ur topic sounding veryuneducated and very ignorant which is another thing u mentioned. blkscholar

i pity u too, i know its very hard being black and can have a deepned affect on our attitudes and our daily duescos we all know how the streets treats us but the only way forward is to keep positive about everything around us... i.e. the young blackbabies who inturn WILL go through the same exact pit-stop, the up-an-coming youths whosee all of what happensandneed to be guided and put in the right direction and last but never least our grandparentsand older generation who have suffered MORE than we are currently going through.

Most parents helped us to where they thought we was ok leftus to fend onour jays, not realising that society has changed and isnt like it was in their day. we can see what the streets are doing to our people but ... (i'll include myself) we don't help one another.

We are always forever trying to gain respect but we have to respect ourselves.

Please keepBLACK britain positive... this reply was not to offend anyone or become petty just my thought on how wecan come together.niceone.gif

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To your question
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it is just in general i feel this way. I mean maybe u can say i am surrounding myself with the wrong kind of people but these are the topics most blacks concern themselves with. I just want to feel desired in this society as a black woman. I'm not the type of person that asks for what i can't offer myself.I feel like black chicks are always last choice on the list. If you want a man with goals your asking for too much or its intimidating when your the full package. Almost all my female friends have kids, I don'tand apparently something is wrong with mewaiting until marriage in the black community. Alot of these things just show the break down of black relations. Me wanting alot of these things wouldn't even be a question in the white community. Allthat says to me is your black take what you can get. I want to understand this. I work in corporate america and the people that try to cut my throat at the job are blacks. Instead ofjust being cool for the few blacks that are in the damn place. We don't pull each other in, its just pure venom with one another. Don't get me wrong all of my friends are black, educated, attractive but mentality wise most blacks are still behind on the subject of self love for our people and brotherhood. Its not whining either this is the world we live in and what black people want to see. The new symbol of black beauty is now a mixed blackperson. As if tobe an attractive black person you have to be something else we adopt these feelings within ourselves and i am sick of it. I feel very bitter about these things and i hate the fact that when i express myself to people i am considered too problack it's not that. That is just how it is.

@Knowledge seeker:

I hear you, yes i am brown skin and I do like my colour and I want someone with my colour. OfCourse I am Black, but I am proud of my skin colour, No problem with that.

My mom is the same colour as myself, but my sister is dark. Do I like them both, Yes. So i have no problem with what ever shade, but when it comes to whoI choose as a partner I want a brown Skin fellow. That is why you are allow to pick who you want, but i don't go about saying to Dark skin girls you are ugly. I specifically like ebony girls, but can't marry one. That is just my chioce but i am not saying dark skin girl ain't pretty, but they are not my type that I chase about. Someone who is ugly may be nice, but you may not want her because she is not attractive to you, you won't say because she is nice you will then take her, afterall if we all say we don't like Skin girls, then who is gonna like them. So if you all still stick to dark skin girls, I will take the brown skin ones, by so doing, every gets a chance.

Respect

@Soofresh wrote

why?
I am just not attracted to them physically, I have seen one or two that I can marry

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is it so you have Brown skinned babies?

Nope, no even looking into that, I care about myself, my children will take care of themselves. I want someone that I am comfortable with, someone that looks like me, so that when I see her, i see myself.

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slave mentality?

No, that has never affected my decision

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but I hear you

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I like nigerian men , but I will not marry one

Yes there is nothing wrong with that, I like other African women, I am very close to some, but I can only marry a Nigerian. Why, because I think she can understand me more than any other women of any other country. That is the way i feel, Although I have met some that more than convinced me that they are up to the task, but I am slightly skeptical. I am only being honest and open here

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I am sure you will understand why I said the above.

Yes I do

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Joker

If you say so, I agree with you

you missed out a vital part

answer this

why get with dark skinned , but not marry one?

are they just plaything?

answer the damn question

or if you can't answer then say so, but don't beat around the bush "brother"