being a size 18 doesnt mean u ain sexy

there is s difference in being fat and being big tho...alot of big girls are sexy and often carry thmselves well, as in they dress 2 suite their size and dnt try wearin mini skirts and tube tops...

but u can get str8 up fat women..who r overw8 cus they have eaten thmselves into tht state and r not sexy rly...u can have big girls and u can have fat women...being a big girl dnt mean u can't b sexy..

People say 'there is no ideal size' then mention in the same sentence that size 8 is to small and size 18 too big! Talk about mixed up aren't you trying to say that the ideal size then rest between a size 10 - 16.?!?

Different cultures seem to set different ideals on what looks good but it really comes from whatis healthy by their standards. Like in the Western world - being slim is seen as a sign of good health. It means that you can afford to buy & eat good food, you know about nutrition, and that you can probably afford gym membership.

On other continents, like say Africa being fat or shall I say 'thick' is seen as being healthy, it means that you have big dinners and that your not doing harsh manual labour to survive & that you always eat well. (by their definition).

I'm sick of all this PC bull where fat people are now calling themselves 'curvy' or 'thick'. If your fat & proud then don't mask it with some subtle word. And hold on if your so proud of your size then why would u feel any way about mentioning it on the phone to a guy, I know if I didn't know them and I was describing myself one of the 1st things I'd say is I'm slim.

What I hate about fat people is if there is no ideal weight and they hate the media, celebritiesetc forgoing on about ideals why put skinny women down? Surely they ofall people should understand that its not about putting one type of look down but advocating that women come in all different shapes and sizes. (I'm not saying they all look good, it just it's a fact).

But if your into fashion I'd say its better to be slim as high fashion clothes look better on slim girls.-lets be real.

I had to reply to this. To each his own. I'm a big girl, and have always been. I'm a size 20, and I'm beautiful, sexy, fashionable, confidentand everything else. My sister is smaller than I am, a size 10, and I get just as many numbers as she does when we go out together. Some men like big women, some men like small women, and some men just don't even care. I personally don't like skinny guys, and on the other end, I don't like a man with breasts. And I don't care if someone tells me I'm not their type, as long as they aren't rude about it.

I THINK ITS FUNNY YOU SAY WERE UNDER PRESSURE TO SKINNY BECAUSE "EUROPEANS" ARE BULLYING EACH OTHER NOWAND TAKING THE PISS ABOUT SKINNY PEOPLE.

MAYBE ITS A MAD COINCIDENCE BUT IT SEEMED TO HAPPEN WHEN J-LO AND BEYONCE CAME ON THE SCENE AND NEVER APOLOGISED FOR THEIR FIGURES, IN TYPICAL AFRICAN FASHION?

ANYWAYS IVE GOT A SMALL BUILD (EG. KYLIE OR AALIYAH) AND I LOVE IT!!! IVE GOT FRIENDS WHO ARE DIFFERENT SIZES WHO GET VIRTUALLY THE SAME ATTENTION. ACTUALLY THE SMALLER GIRLS GET MORE SERIOUS ATTENTION (LIKE SETTLING DOWN AND MARRIAGE) AND MY CURVY FRIENDS GET MORE SEXUAL ATTENTION. DEPENDS WHAT KIND OF GUY YOU WANT.

When I gained weight (from a size 8 to a 12) I got more attention for my curves so I say there is definitely a market for curvacious and even voluptuous women. But there is a WORLD of difference b/t voluptuousness and unhealthy cellulite-ridden OBESITY. Sure there will be some men, even many that will go for that. But the only numbers that would matter to me at that size would be my cholesterol index.

Well to me definitly yes a woman can be very attractive and sexy over size 18 it just depends on how she's put together and if she is confident. Nobody wants a big fat sloppy woman thats very funny shaped and doesnt take care of herself but a woman thats decently proportionate, clean and nice to look at can definitly get alot of men. Most men they would be able to get on some level weither relationship or just sex unless he's real superficial but themost guysare not. Most men ofcourse would describe their ideal asslim and whatever eles is the normal thing to say but people usually know what they want when they see it regardless to their ideals. Size should matter to a certain degree because some people are just too big and shaped badly but if you big and look good you can definitly be the center of attention in a good way and get just about whatever dude you wantno matter what other female is around.

Is that queen latifah? She lost wiehgt and she looks good too, if I was a dude I would rather give it to her in that pic then hailey berry. She has bigger breast, butt and probably gets wetter and takes more.