Hey. I know a couple girls that are afraid to tell their parents about their boyfriends as they have no idea how their parents will react. Has anyone here ever had trouble in telling their parents about their relationships, or even anyone that still hasn't told their parents out of fear of what their reactions may be?

I had this problem not too long ago (after I turned 16). I didn't go looking for a boyfriend, we were like, best friends at first, like really good friends, then we ended up going out. I don't let it affect my studies or anything. I keep boyfriend and education seperate. The only time I link the two is when we're discussing business studies and swapping tips and stuff like that. When I had my boyfriend, I knew in myself that I'm old enough to make my own mistakes and learn from them. I've made all sorts of mistakes in the past, and I've got up and dusted myself off.

However, some of the things my mum was saying (when I was around 14/15) things that made me think "She's never going to give me freedom!". She told me that she didn't want me getting a boyfriend at that age because I should be focusing on my education. I knew in my own mind, young as I was, that no matter what I went through my studies wouldn't be affected. I've been through some really bad things..things that are really too bad to mention, but my work has always been top quality.

However, I followed my mums wishes because it was the right thing to do. Some time after I turned 16...that's when I found who I'm with now. He just turned 18, he's got 7 A*'s and 2 A's and 1 B in his GCSE's...he's going university in September, had a summer job to keep him busy, takes part in activities to do with business, like making customised things and selling them, taking part in producing videos forartists just breaking out (not the reallywell known artists lol)...he cares about me, very protective over me, we talk to each other about anything, he does everything I could ever want, and with some people..this doesn't last, but everything is...great (but I don't want to jynx things).

So ...I kept all this in mind, and I satmy mum downand I told her. I made sure she knew about everything he done academically (my mum feels strongly about an educated man), and how smart he is and how he treated me etc. I was terrified, I really was. She acted a bit funny at first, but gradually grew to accept it. When she met him, she was impressed, so everything's cool and I have no worries.

Has anyone had any experiences like this? Or does anyone have anything to say about why parents may feel so strongly about their children not having relationships. Or like I asked earlier, if any one is having trouble breaking it to their parents about their partner and is afraid their parents won't accept it? How was it for you telling your parents?

Hi. I completely understand whatyou have been through and am still going through the same situation, despite the fact i'm going to be 20 in October. This is probably due to the fact that I am the youngest of 4 and will forever be seen as the baby of the family.

When i was in school, everytime someone i.e family asked me if I had a boyfriend, my mum would jump in and say that I don't need one and that I should just focus on my studies.In fact I am not a virgin and have had a few boyfriemds, but my mum is still not aware of anything (but my brothers and sisters are not so nieve).

The reason I don't tell either of my parents is because i'mnot sure how they will react, it's not that they r strict or anything but my mum doesn't seem to understand that things have changed a lot since she was growing up, I mean my dad was probably her 1st boyfriend as they went to school together.

I've seen my older sister bring her boyfriends home, and watched the (friendly) interrogation 'so what are your plans for the future? what are your intentions with my daughter? and even one about marriage (which my sister wasn't too happy about)

I'm sure one of these days I will bring a boyfriend home, but I will probably introduce him to my sister 1st just to be on the safe side

That sounds so similar to what I went through. Like when I met my brother (for the first time since I was 10) he asked me: "Do u have a boyfriend?" and my dad jumped in and said "No she doesn't". My mum used to do the same. My mum however, now realises that it is possible to keep private life and studies seperate, as she thought that I would combine the two and let personal life affect my study work. I've had worse things happen to me than..."getting dumped" or "breaking up" with a boyfriend, but one thing I'll never let those situations interfere with is my studies, cause at the end of the day, thats the one thing I got to determine my future. If I mess that up...then I won't really have anything to fall back on.

I know exactly what you mean about thinking your parents don't realise how much you've grown up. It's so frustrating when you know and feel that you're old enough to have a relationship youngand still do well with yourself. I think part of the reason why my mum didn't react as badly as I thought she would was because she had her first boyfriend aged 16/17, but because it kind of affected her when she was studying (although she still did well lol), she's afraid the same will happen to me. She wants me to be the first one in the family to go to University and is afraid of anything putting that in danger, or jeopardising that, so I can understand. No matter what, my studies come first.

I could easily do without a boyfriend lol, I don't want anyone to think that I felt the need to have to get one or anything like that, cause I definitely wasn't looking for a relationship, but we couldn't help the way we felt, but I've suggested to him that we wait until we finish studies before we carry it on properly and move in together etc etc, I just wanted my mum to know that it's possible for me to have one and to deal with the reponsibility and make whatever mistakes I make and learn from them.

When i was 14 i told my mother about my b/f. she said she was glad i told her. but made me break up with him.
two years later (AFTER i finished high school), i chose not to tell my mum about my boyfriend. from whats happened before i can't tell my mum stuff.

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When i was 14 i told my mother about my b/f. she said she was glad i told her. but made me break up with him.
two years later (AFTER i finished high school), i chose not to tell my mum about my boyfriend. from whats happened before i can't tell my mum stuff.confused3

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Hi. Yes I've had experiences and I still go through them. With me its my dad.. he doesnt want any boys near me. My mam likes it when I bring boys home or hang out with them, she thinks its nice for me to have friends and enjoy my life. I do to. i dont know if it has anything to do with my mam being Dutch and my father African (Congo). Im 14 years old. I havent had a boyfriend lately, but I do have al ot of male friends, they just make me feel comferteble and it aint got nothing to do with love and all that stuf.

One day I brought a male friend home, we played the PS2.. had fun, my dad he came home, got mad and sented him away.. "This is the first and last time" he said. I gues he sented the boy away cuz we were in my room.. I showed him my new shoes and they stood there so..

Anotha day I came home with another good male friend of mine.. we sat down outside, dad asked me to come in and said Ã? see you hanging al ot with boys lately, alright he can stay, but dont bring anyone else over again. With me its only girls for you no boys, thats how I work".

I think that this is unfair! When I was young I could play with boys and now I dont? They ant even my lovers, they just friends.. hmm.. what would it be like if I were gay? Would my dad allow me to hang with girls that? This doesnt make any sence does it?! Thank God my dad leaves in the morning to go work and mostly comes home late at night.. sometimes even in the midnight. Cuz I have sneaked a lot of boys into my house haha, gladly my mam doesnt make a big deal out of it.. I mean.. dont we girls deserve to be happy with our friends.. wether they boy or girl? And dont we deserve love from one person who cares about you? Sometimes I wish I had anotha dad..

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i can't tell my mum. one time she interrogated me about if i was having sex or not. then she said i cant have a boyfriend till i completedmy gcse's-i've finished them now but i still wouldn't tell her i had a boyfriend unless i really had to. maybe if i bring up a lesbian convo with her she might calm down-if you get what i mean