Forbidden love

olga · (#1 (**permalink**))

Please, help me to solve my problem.
I fell in love with a young man who is 10 years younger that i am
(he is 20 and I am 30). What's more I am married and have a son (4years
old), and i am a teacher at the university where he studies.
You see, my husband does not love me any more, sometimes he behaves
like a beast. Although he treats me badly, he loves our child.

Ibrahim · (#2 (**permalink**))

hey. i see you are within a dilemma. you have to truly see that is this just a crush? or is it really true love. it may be just a phase that you are going through. i know you dont need me to tell you this but you need to do not whats only best for you, but what will be the best thing for your baby. as things like this, if he is involved can have affects on your baby.

you need to speak to your partner, i understand it will be hard, but you have to find the courage and tell him how you feel and what affect this is happening on you. i obviously dont know the full story and how you feel for this younger gentleman, but you have to see the bigger picture, will he be a suitable father figure for your son etc. or will bringing some one like this into your babies life confuse, which may have a affect on his mind and well being later on in life. also is this younger man a genuine guy with his head placed on shoulders? as alot of younger brutha's these days are feeling older women, but they do not understand the responsibilties that come within the terrortory. and may shy away aftre they have reached a certain point.

baby i feel for you, but in my eyes and im telling you this from my heart. please do whats best on your babies behalf.

please i hope i have not said anyhting to hurt or offend you.

take care and stay sweet.

Ibrahim

Red Cyborg · (#3 (**permalink**))

olga wrote:

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Please, help me to solve my problem.
I fell in love with a young man who is 10 years younger that i am
(he is 20 and I am 30). What's more I am married and have a son (4years
old), and i am a teacher at the university where he studies.
You see, my husband does not love me any more, sometimes he behaves
like a beast. Although he treats me badly, he loves our child.

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well ignore the 20 year oldand get marriage counseling if that doesn't work then divorce and date people your own age

Shpadoinkle · (#4 (**permalink**))

Hey, this is a very difficult situation. However, the only piece of advice I'm going to give you is, follow your heart. Do what you think is best, if you don't love your husband, get out. Live life to the full, and be adventurous. You only get to live your life once, so I say go for it!

eskay · (#5 (**permalink**))

You cannot be serious. You are 30, and decided to post this in an Under 25's forum.. like their gona understand the issues/responsibilties that come with a real relationship?! wait, and ya married?! and you teach at same unversity?! and you have a child?! wait...he's 20?!! BLOODFIRE!!!

S.Williams · (#6 (**permalink**))

Shpadoinkle wrote:

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Hey, this is a very difficult situation. However, the only piece of advice I'm going to give you is, follow your heart. Do what you think is best, if you don't love your husband, get out. Live life to the full, and be adventurous. You only get to live your life once, so I say go for it!

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I agree with shpadoinkle.

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Theres no point in being in a relationship if you have no feelings towards your partner.

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If you do have feelings for your partner then the decision is yours. but dont use your children as a reason to stay with him if your thinking that way, but do not stop them from seeing their father.

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Love dont have no boundaries but you do not have to love someone to be in a relationship with someone.

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Follow your heart but be sensible about the decision you make as it will not only affect you but your immediate family meaning the children. - dont play games.

Backatya · (#7 (**permalink**))

Maybe the poster posted this to the Under 25 forum because he/she is actually under 25. In fact I wouldn't be surprised if they are considerably under 25.

Why do these people do this?

Why do you guys fall for it?

Does that really sound like a 30 year old University Teacher to you? Come on get real!

Respect

**African Queen No 1** · (#8 (**permalink**))

Backatya wrote:

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Maybe the poster posted this to the Under 25 forum because he/she is actually under 25. In fact I wouldn't be surprised if they are considerably under 25.

Why do these people do this?

Why do you guys fall for it?

Does that really sound like a 30 year old University Teacher to you? Come on get real!

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no offense...but dere is no need 2 b harsh...she sed her man is 10 yrs younger so she might be intendin 2 get advice frm the ppl around dat age...neway olgajust follow ur heart.