Caught out

P-dot · (#1 (**permalink**))

a little while ago i went to a club... i was dancing with this gorgeous coolie boy an den we sat down an we were talkin an he put his arm around me....

next minute i see my man walk past. I tried to move away from said light skinguy but my man just said "Don't bother, i saw it all. you have no respect for our relationship"

Well... i don't think he's my man anymore.... i aint spoke 2 him since an its been about 2 weeks. Was i slippin? was he in the wrong? is it just me in this predicament?

Pele · (#2 (**permalink**))

U know the answer to that. I would have done the same, he has every right toobject and refuse to date U. Donâ€™t ever expect anyone to treatU with reverence and respect, without U doing the same. Where was the respect from U to him? Dunno know your age, but dancing with another man,while you have one who canbe there for Uis bad idea.

facetygal · (#3 (**permalink**))

Did u know ur man was in the club? The only conversation u should have had with "coolie boy" was a 2 minute conversation telling him u had a man. Then u should have walked off.

UniqueLady · (#4 (**permalink**))

it seems like you didnt respect your man in the first place.

cause im sure if the shoe was on the other foot. you would be calling him all names under the sun

hope the coolie boy was worth it as probably just wanted to get in your pants anyways.

shae · (#5 (**permalink**))

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P-dot wrote:

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a little while ago i went to a club... i was dancing with this gorgeous coolie boy an den we sat down an we were talkin an he put his arm around me....

next minute i see my man walk past. I tried to move away from said light skinguy but my man just said "Don't bother, i saw it all. you have no respect for our relationship"

Well... i don't think he's my man anymore.... i aint spoke 2 him since an its been about 2 weeks. Was i slippin? was he in the wrong? is it just me in this predicament?

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From the title of your thread, I believe you answered your own question when you yourself stated

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' have you everbeen caught doing something you SHOULDN'T be?'

So, unless I'm missing something here, how was HE in the wrong? what did HE do? or maybe it would be more conducive for me to ask you what did HE do that makes you think HE's in the wrong?

P-dot · (#6 (**permalink**))

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If all you did was dance with the guy and then let him put his arm around you I don't see that you did anything wrong. If that was me I would have to have it out with my boyf and make him know that what he saw amounts to NOTHING. Unless dancing with another is something you both agreed is unacceptable.

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clp)I agree with u.... why doesn't n e 1 else see it like this?

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I wasn't kissin him or n e fink like that i was jus havin a dance... i thought thats what ppl do at clubs... i dint kno he was gonna b there but even if i did i wud hav dun the same ting... if it was vice versa i wouldnt hav stopped talkin 2 him if he hadn't kissed the girl or n e thing like that.

shae · (#7 (**permalink**))

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efenjee wrote:

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If all you did was dance with the guy and then let him put his arm around you I don't see that you did anything wrong. If that was me I would have to have it out with my boyf and make him know that what he saw amounts to NOTHING. Unless dancing with another is something you both agreed is unacceptable.

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clp)I agree with u.... why doesn't n e 1 else see it like this?

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I wasn't kissin him or n e fink like that i was jus havin a dance... i thought thats what ppl do at clubs... i dint kno he was gonna b there but even if i did i wud hav dun the same ting... if it was vice versa i wouldnt hav stopped talkin 2 him if he hadn't kissed the girl or n e thing like that.

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Your action says guilt to me...remember you wrote 'I tried to move away from said light skinguy'...to me itsshows that you knew something was wrong...or can't you see that?

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If you felt you done nothing wrong then fair enough butby your bf's actions he interpreted it differently...have you contacted him?

Red Cyborg · (#8 (**permalink**))

P-dot wrote:

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efenjee wrote:

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If all you did was dance with the guy and then let him put his arm around you I don't see that you did anything wrong.Â* If that was me I would have to have it out with my boyf and make him know that what he saw amounts to NOTHING.Â* Unless dancing with another is something you both agreed is unacceptable.

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clp)Â*I agree with u.... why doesn't n e 1 else see it like this?

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I wasn't kissin him or n e fink like that i was jus havin a dance... i thought thats what ppl do at clubs... i dint kno he was gonna b there but even if i did i wud hav dun the same ting... if it was vice versa i wouldnt hav stopped talkin 2 him if he hadn't kissed the girl or n e thing like that.

it all equates to cheating to me
showing actions such as a kiss or what you did should only go to your lover
being compassionate in a too friendly sort of way to another gives the impression that you are cheating
don't give your b/f a reason to think that but you found out a little too late

Unexpected Pleasure · (#9 (**permalink**))

well i dnt see nothin wrong wit dancin wit sum1 when ur out ravin cus thts wot u do.

but if u knew tht ur man was gonna b there thn tht was kinda stupid, i dnt think ur man wudda b tht upset had u had more of an understandin, but 2 him it wudda looked like u was playin him behind his back. how wud u react if u saw him doin wot u was doin? probably more rationally and understandinbut im sure his trust in u was shattered, especially if u didnt tell him u was there thn he caught u there...

however if u knew he was there and thn still was chattin close wit sum next guy thn in a way thts worse cus u disregarded ur mans presence...

basically u got caught slippin, ur mans probably thinkin 2 himself thts how u always act which will affect his trust for u