Making love on Blacknet?

Devious · (#1 (**permalink**))

I was flicking through old pictures when I came across a picture of my ex-boyfriend. It got me thinking about our situation - which is simply that it all ended really badly & we don't talk anymore. As a result I've often wished I never met him. We met on Black chat, exchanged pictures then numbers and we were immediately attracted to each other we thought we were so lucky to have met and we even had 5 fairly good months together.

I just can't help but wonder if it was all doomed to end badly from the start I mean what else did I expect considering what a meat market chat rooms can be sometimes? I was wondering what other peoples experiencesare on meeting people on line and if cyber love ever really equals to a happy ending or are you always left wishing you never logged on?

Kunjufu · (#2 (**permalink**))

Sorry I'm not buying this...the problem wasn't BLACKNET..the problem is that you and the guy yo met JUST didn't work simple..

Sooofresh · (#3 (**permalink**))

Making Love on Blacknet?

LOL

nah.........Blacknet is the best contraceptive ever.............just read threads........put you of relationships, men etc........

johncrow · (#4 (**permalink**))

I met someone on blacknet and all I know is that "curvy" means very, very curvy indeed

Backatya · (#5 (**permalink**))

efenjee wrote:

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you met someone too? just how much of this is going on?? how come no one has asked to meet me??? confused3

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You had bettertake that evil grin off your face all you guys who are hovering over your keyboard ready to answer Efenjee's question.

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Don't even think about it. I am warning you, don't even think about it!

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Respect

Devious · (#6 (**permalink**))

@ Kunjufu, calm down I simply said I was WONDERING. And I do believe that meeting on blacknet played a part. It's all to do with the kind of guys the chat rooms can attract (hungry), (I think sooofresh will agree)and then your in this virtual situation, where your getting a feel for each other through a computer screen, all I was wondering is does it ever work? Is the person behind the screen and the posed for photo ever the person you thought they were when the computer off?

Certain places attract a certain quality of men...thats all I'm saying.

ohgollyWTF · (#7 (**permalink**))

johncrow wrote:

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I met someone on blacknet and all I know is that "curvy" means very, very curvy indeed

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Kunjufu · (#8 (**permalink**))

CALM....CALM am I not the picture of CALM ...how do you know I'm NOT CALM....DO I LOOK ANGRY TO YOU...WHAT DO YOU MEAN CALM DOWN ....I AM BLOODY CALM HOW DARE YOU TELL ME I'M NOT CALM... I'M VERY CALM HOW DARE YOU TELL ME TO CALM DOWN CALM MY MIDDLE NAME IS CALM!!!! OKAY

Devious · (#9 (**permalink**))

lol,

I love the net lingo, I suggest people bear it in mind

Backatya · (#10 (**permalink**))

Devious

It is just the nature of the beast (by beast I mean the medium which is the Internet). The virtual anonymityoffered byonline meetings means that people can adopt just about any personality that suits them. Therefore, those with a motive more devious (no pun intended) than simply to 'meet nice people', can have a field day.

The thing toremember is that internet chat rooms are just another way of 'meeting strangers'. Everyone is a stranger when you meet them for the first time and however you meet them it should still be the case that one takes proper steps and precautions in 'getting to know them' before 'taking things further'.

Ifyou do decide totakethings further and thenit all goes pear shaped, that is not down to the fact that you met them in a chatroom, in the supermarket, a dance rave or wherever (though I would draw the line at Prison Open Days)....it is down to the fact that it was not meant to be with you two.

Let's face it there is no medium forintroductions which can guarantee that you will meet 'Mr or Miss Right' or that the person won't turn out to be an axe murderer. Though I guess axe murderers can put on more of a front in an online meeting than a face to face one.

Anyway don't blame the chat room...........YOUR judgement plays a bigger part in the process than the chat room does.

Respect

ohgollyWTF · (#11 (**permalink**))

Devious wrote:

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@ Kunjufu, calm down I simply said I was WONDERING. And I do believe that meeting on blacknet played a part. It's all to do with the kind of guys the chat rooms can attract (hungry), (I think sooofresh will agree)and then your in this virtual situation, where your getting a feel for each other through a computer screen, all I was wondering is does it ever work? Is the person behind the screen and the posed for photo ever the person you thought they were when the computer off?

Certain places attract a certain quality of men...thats all I'm saying.

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Do you think your relationship would have turned out differently had you met in say, Starbucks? There are all kinds of guys in there as well. Do we ever really know the people that we date, marry etc? Maybe, it was just not meant to be?

Kunjufu · (#12 (**permalink**))

Devious.....actually I really don't think its the medium I think it is more about the type of person who attracted to lonely hearts type spaces... I once and I use that word forcefully ONCE.. dipped my toe into such an arena and met someone out of the Vomit newspaper hearts 2 hearts section..

That was when i discovered what the word 'Bunny boiler' meant...I'm not going to be unkind and give the full details, but bwoy she was like sumting I've never seen before or since...

Nexttime i see the word 'caring' I will check whether they mean 'I'm caring' or I've been 'cared for in the community'...

Kunjufu · (#13 (**permalink**))

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I thought that lonely hearts columns, speed datingand internet dating was all the rage these days? I know you can come across unsavoury types of people like that but then you can come across unsavoury types in all sorts of places. You could have met your bunny boiler just as easily in a club or bar Kunjufu? I once went out with someone who developed a dangerous obsession and I met that twat through mutual friends who assured me he was 'a safe guy.'

[line]Efenjee: you are quite right....but if i had met this person through a friend.. I might have heard some of the background info...BEFORE getting involved.. I think the thing about the methods you're talking about is that you don't get the history bit until too late..

I know I cannot be with a Doormat type, my personality is too strong so i already know to steer well clear of this type of woman... When i met my Bunny Boiler, i didn't know she was like that until well into the relatinship and it began to seep out...